Government cuts have led us to question our marrage?

justjohn

January20 wrote: »

No he also said he would have "a clean tidy home" (his words) down the road where the kids could come for meals and get away from each other (so doesn't sound like he'll have them all at once so their mother can have a break!) And his wife could have the house fully paid, no other money, live on benefits (so we all pay for his 4 kids) and get 25% of his salary. Check the first post again - second last paragraph! (she could get a job)

I agree with emmzi. It smacks of mid life crisis. The OP also sounds like a cold person who values money and a quiet life above his wife and children! Shouldn't have made so many children then, should he? It was ok whilst he worked away from home so much of the time, but now reality has hit him hard and he can't take it! so he's going to run away! Very good example for the kids isn't it?

Despicable!

so doesn't sound like he'll have them all at once so their mother can have a break!) - assumption he never said that (btw kids are an ex-husbands main concern not the leasure time of the ex-wife)

I agree with emmzi. It smacks of mid life crisis. The OP also sounds like a cold person who values money and a quiet life above his wife and children! Shouldn't have made so many children then, should he? It was ok whilst he worked away from home so much of the time, but now reality has hit him hard and he can't take it! so he's going to run away! Very good example for the kids isn't it? - all assumption btw he did say he took redundancy and a lower paid job to be at home more(that was a choice)

Looks to me he is trying too make things better , but his wife is having none of it. And he is having to change his life due to the gov cuts.

Caroline73_2

The OP isn't living on £42k, they have income rental too.

jackieglasgow

OP why not ask your employers to cut your salary to bring you into the lower tax bracket, then you can continue to claim child benefit on top of your salary, income from rental (which will be in the wife's name, no not affecting your own personal tax account anyway) and your savings?

Or you could grow up, come live in the real world and stop moaning about the fact that your "poor" income from a humble start has allowed you to purchase approximately half a million pound's worth of property, save £70, 000 have multiple pension pots and feed and clothe four children.

Oh, and you could also use some of your savings to build an extension to squeeze that sixth person into your four bedroomed house.

Bambywamby

I am not quite sure as to why people are so quick to dismiss someone because they claim to have a good income - whether you are earning minimum wage or millions - if you perceive you have money problems, you probably have money problems.

thorsoak

Beezbonnet - a few months ago things must have looked a lot different to you both when you conceived a baby!

As others have said, you cannot blame the government for what is happening in your life - if you are feeling trapped, how do you think your wife is feeling? Even more so, I would imagine - another baby on the way, no income of her own, etc etc ec.

I think you're suffering more from mid-life crisis - seeing your youth seep away from you - worries about university fees not just a distant worry, but coming closer - and not your own uni fees but the uni fees of your children! Think about that - did your parents fund your uni fees - or did you support yourself? They can do the same you know!

Admit it - you're pretty well off in the general scheme of things. Of course you want more - so do we all - but you have a pretty large slice of the cake at the moment - try and enjoy the moment with your family - NOW! Today is a gift - that is why it is called The Present! Appreciate what you have now - not what you might have in the future.

justjohn

Bambywamby wrote: »

I am not quite sure as to why people are so quick to dismiss someone because they claim to have a good income - whether you are earning minimum wage or millions - if you perceive you have money problems, you probably have money problems.

Many people do not like other people that have more money than them. There are a few posts on here like that.

There are also the other posts that assume all men are B's(women scorned with a big chip on shoulder)

jackieglasgow

I am not annoyed at the poster for earning so much money or being a man, I am annoyed at him for blaming his "problems" on the government. and I am having a bad day

margaretclare

Incredible.

If you expect to put all your children through university - even supposing that all of them want to go and they qualify for university (it's not necessarily for everybody) then why did you deliberately conceive 4 of them? There is now more freely-available contraception than ever there was - I know, I was in the forefront of that movement back in the 1970s. Absolutely no excuse. If my first husband and I back in the early 1960s could decide that 'two was plenty' and stick to that, then so could you.

University is NOT necessarily the best thing for everybody! There are people who work with their hands and 'think' with their hands, IYSWIM.

You want to spend more time with the children. But not with your wife? If your marriage is creaking, as it sounds likely to be, then it is NOT the Government's fault. I can't imagine, in the strong marriage that I have (thank God!) any policy created by any government ever that would break us up. And yes, we also have a strong work ethic. DH and I have a century in the workplace between us, and whatever we wanted, we worked for. Splitting up just to claim benefits? Perish the thought. DH and I would be paying for you, and we don't want to do that.

Ilona

I got fed up of reading the original post, couldn't finish it. How much simpler is life when you have no money.
Ilona

jetta_wales

Using the savings to build an extent ion (two story) is a very good idea.