Husband gone, what now?

TooSad

Rosered I got the PM so all is fine x

TooSad

Not wishing to pi$$ anyone off especially as some took offence to me enquiring about a payrise at my annual review. I have found out today I'm getting one yayyyy!!
Being off ill for the 6 full weeks then 6 part weeks shouldn't detract from the hard work I put in before being ill and my boss said the same.

So more good news in TS house x

prettykitty

Excellent news, and you know you deserve it, your boss clearly agrees, so why the hell not! Well done!

TooSad

Thanks PK. I love my job and give 110% all the time, being ill wasn't ideal for my employer, but who can plan for these things.
OH is happy for me, he knows how hard I work, he asked "how much do I get of you rise?" in a jokey way I hasten to add, but these are all the things he said when he wad home with me so I think he has been thinking about stuff.

I've been swimming did 1/2 a mile and had a face like sandpaper have had a multi vit face mask on so fingers crossed that will do the trick.

Going to a spa evening on thurs with my best friends, very much looking forward to that xx

TooSad

So, I am officially on holiday. I have a busy week scheduled, but feel a bit rotten at the moment. I had my flu jab this week courtesy of work, but I feel a bit pooey now im sure it will pass. I've had acupuncture for the first time in a month tonight which was nice too.

I have spoken to the OH about intimacy and sex, and he listened but his response was "wow thats mental, its only taken you six months" Im not sure whether thats a positive or negative attitude towards what I have said, but its a start.

Im hoping we might get away for some time this week, even if its only a night, time will tell I guess.

Anyway I am off to make a drink, and get on the sofa. Make my list of school work to do this weekend, so from Monday I am my own person :T:T

TS x

TooSad

So after my little chat with the OH, his temprament and attitude towards me appears to be a whole lot healthier. I think that this is the crux of the problem from his point of view, where as for me it was the depression and dealing with it.

I think this is the start of another little journey. We have spent last night together with some DVD's and a takeaway, I so wanted him to stay but I know that will happen when he is ready.

I have spent time with him today also, he asked me why i was being so nice to him, I said "Why do you think?" he said because you want to get back into my good books. At least he is acknowledging the hurt he clearly felt/feels, as I truely think now he left because he had nothing else left to do. I think he went for the shock tactic.

Anyway I have completed all my school work, the next week is mine apart from some planning next weekend, woop woop!!! :T

TooSad

Not been here for a few weeks, a bit of an update on me.

Things are still moving forward with OH.
It would have been my mums birthday last week and I was fine, a bit sad because I missed having her to spoil but not the horrible emptiness I felt last year. So I take that as another positive.
Dad has started his "life's laundry" we helped him decorate over half term and he got a new carpet, it was a bit fraught at times but he is happier and is moving forward too which is great.

Then this morning I got a reply from HSBC for my PPi claim I put in in August, offering me just short of £2000 on a loan I took out 12 years ago!!! Woohoo.

Not a huge update, but I am still on the happy road :-)

TS xx

CH27

Glad things are still positive:beer:

victory

I am so happy for you you continue to be on the happy road:j:j:j:j

TooSad

Got home today to my shiny RT licence - in its own special CAA folder :-) OH says we are going out this week as we have a lot of things to celebrate

:j:j:j

Letter gone back to bank to accept PPI refund. All is good