OS Daily Monday 9th May

Rage_in_Eden

Thanks for that FVonD.....I was given some pessaries but told they were only for after any HcG injection - which I also bought and which is languishing in my fridge.... TBQH we just feel like we've been sent off with our script (which this time we got filled ourselves at Asda saving £200!!!!) and left to it on both occasions - with the cheery remark "you can have three free sessions of counselling if you want" but no info on how to arrange it etc........even when I've rung up with queries it's taken over a day to get a reply....I'd looked at the clinic you went to so we might give them a ring....It's not helped by the fact that 8 years ago we had tests which were were told were "normal" and the problem lay with brain chemistry I have for me to find out accidentally last August that they were anything but (copy notes requested and there it was....)...you can imagine how we felt......I shall go off and have a nosey, thanks for that

miecherox

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Morning my lovelies

You'll all be relieved to hear that marital relations have been restored I think that lack of time we have as a couple (with DS not going to bed til 9pm) is having a big impact. Do you all think 9pm is too late for a 5 year old child? He's normally awake 6.30-7am the following day so getting a good quota of sleep and isn't showing any signs of suffering for this late bedtime.

I guess it's personal preference and parenting styles. On a school night I like the children to be in bed with a book for seven o' clock then lights out at half past. Obviously if it's swimming night it may be later than that but never later than eight. Sometimes they fall asleep reading their books and i'm happy with that because from about half seven it's my time and they know it!!:rotfl: I need that time with OH before our bed just to catch up and have a cuddle, sometimes if he works late I use that time to have a bath and catch up with my programmes - it's a sanity saver really!

M x

Julie67

morning all,

not been able to get on the lappi this morning as dh is working from home so have been pottering, 2lots of washing on the line its nice and breezy but overcast so keeping my eye on it
have cooked up a storm including chocolate brownies,a big batch of twinks and roasted a chicken which will be a curry and a chicken pie and then soup
job wise have sent off another application for a job I really fancy and its part time but in the meantime will go for the other interview, will do another job search today.
had a lovely day at dgs birthday party yesterday but he is actually 2 today so happy birthday oscar and martin x
uolypool really hope it goes well for your dd today
have a hug jackie g

have a good day all, I won't mention uniteds fantastic win yesterday dont want to brag lol x

Bitsy_Beans

miecherox wrote: »

I guess it's personal preference and parenting styles. On a school night I like the children to be in bed with a book for seven o' clock then lights out at half past. Obviously if it's swimming night it may be later than that but never later than eight. Sometimes they fall asleep reading their books and i'm happy with that because from about half seven it's my time and they know it!!:rotfl: I need that time with OH before our bed just to catch up and have a cuddle, sometimes if he works late I use that time to have a bath and catch up with my programmes - it's a sanity saver really!

M x

Well the reason I was asking really is he physically doesn't seem able to go to sleep any earlier, we've tried him in bed at 7.30 before and it's been nearly 9pm when he finally falls asleep (last night it was 9.40pm :eek:). I do worry that this late (for him in comparison to his peers) bedtime will ultimately have an impact on his development in the long term. He shows no sign of suffering because of it but my sanity is I just wondered what the criteria was for something like Melatonin but then I feel bad because I feel like I am doing it more for me rather than him as he's not displaying any issues about this bedtime IYSWIM.


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Julie - Positive vibes for the job application (and the other job interview) and Happy birthday to your DGS

FatVonD

Rage_in_Eden wrote: »

(which this time we got filled ourselves at Asda saving £200!!!!)

:eek:

Have you spoken to your GP about whether they would prescribe them instead? (The clinic were happy for us to do this, it was them that suggested it.) We just paid the £7 or whatever it is/was per item. We lived in a borough that didn't fund IVF treatment per se but the GP was happy to prescribe the drugs for 3 treatments.

Prior to IVF a lovely obstetrician at my local hospital was running an IUI clinic that was funded entirely on voluntary contributions. He'd started it using drugs supplied by the drugs company but when they ran out he continued it provided your GP would prescribe the drugs. He was fantastic, both he and the lab technician that did the 'spinning' bit did it in between breaks from their day job. On several occasions I'd be laying on the couch legs akimbo and he'd run in still in his gown and plastic shoes from performing a caesarian section to do the 'transferral' bit and then run out again. He also ran a support group in the evenings in his own time, all in all the man was a God!

Old style: I've had a look in the freezer and I'm going to still do the online order but not get it delivered for a few days. We have food in there that while it might not be what we fancy is still food and we can eat it!

Rage_in_Eden

Might be worth a try but TBQH it's been one long mess from start to finish - being discharged in error and then being "too old" to be re-referred, being given drugs I shouldn't have been on and having them stopped by a surgeon who was "WTH are you on these for?" about them, being undiagnosed with something because nobody would do the test I was requesting and then being given incorrect results and left on ineffective treatment whilst everyone was "I don't know why this isn't working" .....We could ask but my GP's seems very keen on hitting targets and running 'flu clinics and everything else seems a chore.....I dunno, maybe it's just me LOL!......ah well never mind.....let's see what the blood test shows, you never know....

miecherox

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Well the reason I was asking really is he physically doesn't seem able to go to sleep any earlier, we've tried him in bed at 7.30 before and it's been nearly 9pm when he finally falls asleep (last night it was 9.40pm :eek:). I do worry that this late (for him in comparison to his peers) bedtime will ultimately have an impact on his development in the long term. He shows no sign of suffering because of it but my sanity is I just wondered what the criteria was for something like Melatonin but then I feel bad because I feel like I am doing it more for me rather than him as he's not displaying any issues about this bedtime IYSWIM

Would it work for you if you made his bedtime 7pm but allowed him to read until he falls asleep? That way you get some time to yourself and he may now and again fall asleep a bit earlier. It's unlikely the GP would prescribe melatonin and some people just need less sleep (i'm not one of them!)
One or two of ours are sometimes still awake past 9pm but the lights are off and they're usually just lying there singing or talking to themselves :rotfl:

Bitsy_Beans

miecherox wrote: »

Would it work for you if you made his bedtime 7pm but allowed him to read until he falls asleep? That way you get some time to yourself and he may now and again fall asleep a bit earlier. It's unlikely the GP would prescribe melatonin and some people just need less sleep (i'm not one of them!)
One or two of ours are sometimes still awake past 9pm but the lights are off and they're usually just lying there singing or talking to themselves :rotfl:

Sadly his bedtimes are not smooth events, he's terrified of the dark and wants constant reassurance even with landing light on, nightlight in his bedroom etc. So we could make him go to bed at 7pm but we'd spend all evening up and down the stairs and no better off, although probably a bit fitter :rotfl:

jackieglasgow

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Well the reason I was asking really is he physically doesn't seem able to go to sleep any earlier, we've tried him in bed at 7.30 before and it's been nearly 9pm when he finally falls asleep (last night it was 9.40pm :eek:). I do worry that this late (for him in comparison to his peers) bedtime will ultimately have an impact on his development in the long term. He shows no sign of suffering because of it but my sanity is I just wondered what the criteria was for something like Melatonin but then I feel bad because I feel like I am doing it more for me rather than him as he's not displaying any issues about this bedtime IYSWIM.

His bedtime is also an issue for him, he needs a mum and dad who are well rested and happy, not snarling at each other, BTDT, why not try the milk with the extra melatonin in it, or research some natural melatonin increasing methods, and see how you get on. FWIW my boys are in bed for 8.30 every night, read for half an hour and lights out at nine - even the 11 year old. Adult time is very high up on the list of priorities in this house

Bitsy_Beans

jackieglasgow wrote: »

His bedtime is also an issue for him, he needs a mum and dad who are well rested and happy, not snarling at each other, BTDT, why not try the milk with the extra melatonin in it, or research some natural melatonin increasing methods, and see how you get on. FWIW my boys are in bed for 8.30 every night, read for half an hour and lights out at nine - even the 11 year old. Adult time is very high up on the list of priorities in this house

Which milk has the extra melatonin in it? Not heard of that?
Will look up some methods for increasing melatonin in a mo.

It's awful but getting him to bed earlier is mainly for me, for my sanity and my marriage as he appears to cope fine on the sleep he gets.