Those who are waiting to TTC

wangdoodle

Thanks for your reply afoolandhermoney

I know what you mean, in my twenties I wasn't really that interested in babies. Now my thirties seem to be running away with me and it can't come soon enough!

OH still has quite a few friends who are single but a lot of them have got married recently. His brother and sister also are married and she has a child. He is a couple of years younger than me so that doesn't help. In a lit of other ways he is very sensible and mature. Just not big on committing I suppose.

Although I would really rather marry first, I would be willing to forgo it if it meant having children over leaving it too late. I worry that he doesn't want any of this really though and is hoping its a phase and I'll change my mind

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wangdoodle

Hugs to you louby_lou and thanks for your positive post.

I do like a plan Unfortunately we are are yet to buy a house. I feel like it will never happen as there's still so much to do and time is running out while OH refuses to feel the urgency!

louby_lou

hey wangdoodle - mine was much the same - i ended up doing the house on my own over years as he was not in a position to help financially - however i really am relying on him on the TTC front. which may be the crux of the problem!

afoolandhermoney

louby-lou and wangdoodle
I'm glad I'm not alone (although not glad, if you know what i mean?)

I know what you mean about the rows louby-lou, and having this thread to vent on as necessary will hopefully help.

While I wait for OH to get broody enough not to mind where we live I'm planning, saving, etc (might be why I sometimes feel its getting to me, as I'm always thinking about it).

So, key stages to getting ready to TTC
- save deposit for bigger house / house in nicer area (target £20k, based on 10% deposit and house prices on rightmove for the sort of place we'd be looking at; some might be covered by any equity we still have left in our current place, FTB in 2007 so there may not be much)
- get current house ready for sale (the project turned out a bit more of a project than we thought, and combined with a drop in income this year we've stalled a bit mid-way through a lot of stuff)
- save to cover shortfall of income during maternity leave (I'll only be entitled to SMP and would like to take a year off ideally)

astridat

Hello ladies,

So my husband and I have decided to start 'trying' in September, after one last holiday .

As we are currently using a mix of condoms and withdrawal so I am taking Folic Acid tablets just in case, I got the Seven Seas- Trying for a baby, I presume these are a good option?

Whilst I am desperately excited, I am now just terrified we might have a hard time TTC. There is no reason we should, we are both young (24) and healthy. My mother did suffer with endometroises and struggled TTC with one of her three children, however I have had no symptoms. I'm sure everyone deals with this same fear??

Wish everyone well x

MarleneB

Hello everyone, can I please join? :wave:

I got married last month and honeymoon isn't till September so i'll be TTC in September like astridat
We'll be a bit more financially recovered then too after paying off the wedding.

I'll probably come off the pill next month and just use condoms, i'll also start taking the vitamins with folic acid.
I've been worried about the effect of being on the pill for so long (14 years) but some of the comments about this on here have been reassuring! Also i've just turned 30 and i'm suddenly very aware of my biological clock ticking!

I do feel really broody though and a part of me wishes I could start trying straight away!!

VickyVics

Hello Lovely Ladies,

I am in the process of getting ready to TTC (we have always intended on starting to TTC in January 2014). However I accidentally missed a couple of pills in the excitement of being on holiday in May which led to a missed period at the beginning of June. I had some very light spotting and then nothing. I quickly got excited and hopeful about possibly being pregnant (it was almost a relief to possibly have the 'are we ready' decision taken away from me). After a week and a half of negative tests I finally plucked up the courage to go to the doctor this morning. He then proceeded to tell me that was probably a hormone imbalance

We are now back to the original plan of TTC in January and I have to admit that this experience has prompted me to start to get my body ready for TTC. So I have decided to come off the pill (to try to get my period back to a regular cycle) and also to start to take Folic Acid.

Marlene: I completely understand how you feel about being worried about getting a regular period back. This is probably the one and only time I will ever be impatient to get a period! I just want to know that everything is ok.

Astridat: Congratulations on setting a TTC date. It is all so exciting. Fingers crossed it happens quickly once September comes.

wangdoodle

Hi girls

Nice to hear a few more positive stories and people setting dates to TTC. Exciting!

AFM, OH and I have agreed to set aside time this week to talk about the future. I'm torn between feeling excited that this might bring things forward slightly for us, and scared that he's going to tell me that he doesn't want our future together with children after all. It's so confusing!!

afoolandhermoney

Got everything crossed for you wangdoodle

very exciting to hear other peoples positive stories. Feeling a bit more in control of myself today - got to play "aunty" yesterday with my friends little one, OH should have been there but as he wasn't I/we avoided the usual questions of when it will be our turn.

RE: some comments on getting a regular period after being on the pill. I can only add my experiences of being on again/off again with the pill over 15 years. On at 16 (prior to which periods moderately regular as in every month but varying by a few days each time, something like between 26 and 29 day cycle), off at 21 for about 15 months and they never settled into a pattern (mostly this can be attributed to stress - last year at uni!) so I went back on again. Came off a second time three years later (thanks to severe migraines) and immediately clockwork cycles, 28 days every month without fail. Back on again for the last 6 years. IMHO stress has a huge influence on how regular my cycle is, and keeping active and to a healthy routine (getting up and going to bed at about the same time every day, even weekends; eating regular meals) certainly made a huge difference when I came off 2nd time around (it also helped loads with cramps which I'd previously suffered quite badly from).

wangdoodle

Aw, thanks afoolandhermoney Well done avoiding the annoying nosey questions and glad you had fun playing aunty.

As for coming off the pill... I currently have the implant (nexplanon?) and I am a bit concerned about coming off it. I have been on various pills, injections and implants for the last 15 years (eek!) :eek: I can't even remember what my cycles were like and I haven't had a period for years. Given my age I will probably come off it sooner rather than later. It all depends in how OH comes round to the idea.