Those who are waiting to TTC

lilymay1

I'm probably going to get a bit flamed for saying this but I feel I need to defend the TTC thread after spending so long there.

Everyone starts out TTC in a relaxed way. The longer it takes, and the more difficulties you face, particularly if they are unexpected, the more 'intense' the process tends to become. 'BD' is also universally recognised on internet forums which, at one point, banned the word 'sex' hence it being used.

All I'm trying to say is that it's easy to critisize. No one expects to have problems conceiving and hopefully no-one on here will, but cut the ladies on the TTC thread a wee bit of slack. TTC isn't always a much fun as everyone thinks.....

browneyedbazzi

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Hope people don't mind me still posting here - tell me to pi$$ off off you want!

I got my first period just after five weeks after having the implant removed. I conceived within five months but sadly that pregnancy wasn't to be... This pregnancy occurred 11 months post implant

HTH x

Please stay! It's nice to hear from graduates and you know an awful lot that can be a help to those here.

For those wondering about coming off hormonal contraception after a long time - I used it for 12 years (the pill, then the patch) and had a pretty easy time coming off it. My first proper period (ie not a withdrawal bleed) was about 6 weeks after stopping the patch. I had really light and slightly irregular periods for a few months but I'm now 8 months on and they're regular and back to normal now. I used to suffer with migraines during the withdrawal week and thankfully they're now gone. I'm one of the slightly odd people who lost weight when I started the pill and sadly I've gained a bit since coming off. I also had to change my skin care regime because the products I had been using stopped agreeing with my skin.

Also, regarding the TTC thread - it's nice of ladies from there to pop in here to join discussions and provide advice but please remember that we're at very different points in our journeys and see things from a different perspective. That doesn't mean we don't respect where you're at and we don't all think that TTC is an easy journey with guarantees, but we're not there yet and even when we are that thread might not be right for all of us - there's no 'one size fits all' solution to any issue and we should all do what's right for us. Please don't take our thoughts/feelings about that thread personally - I'm sure it isn't meant as a judgement. Those of us WTTC should be free to openly discuss how we feel without being judged/criticised...even if that includes feelings about the other thread.

cats2012

Hi guys - I'm not TTC just having a nosey because all the lovely ladies from April brides are on here!! I'm afraid I won't be joining you, no babies for a good 3+ years for me and OH but good luck to you all x

daisiegg

lilymay1 wrote: »

I'm probably going to get a bit flamed for saying this but I feel I need to defend the TTC thread after spending so long there.

Everyone starts out TTC in a relaxed way. The longer it takes, and the more difficulties you face, particularly if they are unexpected, the more 'intense' the process tends to become. 'BD' is also universally recognised on internet forums which, at one point, banned the word 'sex' hence it being used.

All I'm trying to say is that it's easy to critisize. No one expects to have problems conceiving and hopefully no-one on here will, but cut the ladies on the TTC thread a wee bit of slack. TTC isn't always a much fun as everyone thinks.....

I wasn't trying to criticise at all. In fact I spoke about them in positive terms saying it is great the support etc. It is not criticism to say that something isn't for you!

Anyway, chances are I will end up eating my words and joining the thread when my time comes!

Pinzy

I'll probably end up joining the TTC thread at some point (i.e. if I haven't conceived a couple months after trying!), it is a great mine of information (I've already bookmarked some of the info from there in my "just in case" folder!) and very supportive. Plus it's so active I'd find it difficult to keep up and feel guilty for not reading all the replies! This thread is a bit slower (like me ).

wendz86

Last time I was trying i just lurked on the ttc thread but will def join this time as looks very supportive .

shrimpy_80

I can't wait to join the TTC thread! We are NTNP at the moment, I came off the pill for medical reasons last year but we are waiting until after we get married in August to start TTC 'properly' - if it does happen before then it will be an early blessing but am lurking on both threads at the moment as I don't really 'fit' on either in a sense (I don't mean that as a criticism of either thread in any way ).

wangdoodle

Hi everyone

I have posted on this thread before but quite a long time ago. I'm sorry I didn't realise it was for members of the April brides thread would it still be okay for me to post here? Don't think there's much chance of me ever being a bride of any sort but I'd really like to be part of a group to support each other through this worrying time spent waiting...

I've been trying not to think too much about TTC but it's not really working. The longer I have to wait the harder it gets not to think about it waaay too much!

My OH would start now but I have to be the sensible one and wait till we're all settled. Anyone else having to get their sensible heads on??

WD x

JellyBox

I have to focus to keep my sensible head on all the time! A huge massive part of me wants to get my implant out now and then get on with NTNP on the basis that it might take forever and if I don't start now what if I have massiveproblemsdownthelineandnothignworksarrrrrrrgh. That's how it goes in my head, a big spiral of panic. I have no idea why I'm so frightened of it taking a long time, there are no fertility problems in the family as far as I know, but I hate every day of waiting. At least I have some events to mark off first, so I can at least feel like I'm progressing, and we have a plan B for if plan A of buying a house is unattainable for the moment. I know the wait isn't forever, but I have wanted a baby for 10 years now (only 25, but yes, I really have been broody since 15) and it feels like it will never, ever, end. I am already terrible for lurking on the TTC thread (sorry ladies who pop back over here, I hate to invade your privacy like that, but I'm a woman possessed), I know all the acronyms and understand them and I've not even ovulated for the last 3 years! That said, when I was last not on the pill, I used to have physical pain in my womb when I saw pregnant women, I've given myself so much grief when friends have got pregnant, sobbed and sobbed with my empty body. I am going to be a nightmare when I actually start. A complete and utter nightmare.

Apologies for the babble ladies. For understandable reasons I keep that particular strain of mental under control IRL, it looks actually unhinged.

daisiegg

wangdoodle wrote: »

Hi everyone

I have posted on this thread before but quite a long time ago. I'm sorry I didn't realise it was for members of the April brides thread would it still be okay for me to post here? Don't think there's much chance of me ever being a bride of any sort but I'd really like to be part of a group to support each other through this worrying time spent waiting...

I've been trying not to think too much about TTC but it's not really working. The longer I have to wait the harder it gets not to think about it waaay too much!

My OH would start now but I have to be the sensible one and wait till we're all settled. Anyone else having to get their sensible heads on??

WD x

Nooooo it is not for members of the April brides thread whatsoever, sorry if we gave that impression, we were just laughing at the fact that a few of the April brides have made their way over here - seems like we're all very traditional in our life plans! :rotfl: This thread is definitely for anyone at all and sorry if it feels like the April brides have taken it over, I didn't"5 mean to!

Why exactly are you waiting, out of interest? I think a lot of people say there will never be a perfect time so there is no point waiting for things to be perfect!