Those who are waiting to TTC

JellyBox

This very much depends on OHs finances, and that of his parents. We are both reliant on parental help (as with most other 20somethings who graduated during the ruddy recession) and it's not certain what we can afford. All going well, we'd like to be moving in the next six months, it looks like there's a fair bit around our area that would be livable. My implant is due out in January, so that's the latest I'm hoping to have to wait, but we'll see!

I'm just ridiculously excited at the prospect of getting to actually plan, trying to keep that under control though, because I know no amount of planning or excitement ensures it will actually go smoothly!

wangdoodle

Hi. I also used to lurk here but it's so quiet that I started lurking a bit on the TTC thread. I'm not sure they like us waiters lurking too much though, hence this thread was created, so I try not to do it too much.

We are also waiting till after we can buy a house, although that won't happen till next year as we've got a fair bit of saving to do!

shrimpy_80

I used to lurk on here before I was technically 'waiting' and it seemed quite busy then, typical!

We have just managed to buy our first house but it was a struggle. Our mortgage payments are now a bit less than our rent was and we have an extra bedroom, so no wonder its so hard for people to save whilst renting! It all seems a bit backwards!

Fleurlur

Can I join please? We're waiting to TTC because we're going to try and get the due date to coincide with the end/start of my uni year haha So we won't be trying until November/December and I'll be on the pill until about mid-August. Just to give my cycles time to regulate again.

Erinnire

well my situation has totally changed and I am no longer waiting to try.

So I will bid you all farewell and good luck!

blondy24

Hello,

Congrats Erinnire on things changing and TTC

Fleurlur welcome to the thread, it can sometimes be quiet on here so don't worry if people don't reply straightaway. Welcome Jellybox too.

Well I have been off my pill since end of January and already had two periods! Quite surprised since I was on the pill for 12 years! Anyway we are saving this year and will start TTC next year. Still very broody but can see light at the end of the tunnel! Have decided to take up a new hobby (sewing) as bought a sewing machine a couple of weeks ago and watched the tv program this week, just waiting for fabric at the mo.

misscoupon

Gosh, it's been quiet here...
Well I'm no.longer waiting to TTC, I got my BFP yesterday :j:j:j
We have not tried and not prevented since Christmas as we wanted to be in our own home before 'trying properly'. We completed on house purchase on Friday and we're moving in tomorrow
Great timing! I'll move to less than 12 weeks pregnant thread then. Good luck to all!

afoolandhermoney

Been lurking for a while, but thought as there's some new posters I'd say "hi". So hard waiting, esp as I'm 33 and we've no date set for when we'll start TTC.
The main things holding us back are
- a need/want to move to a better area (I won't go into the problems with where we live right now, but needless to say its not somewhere either me or OH want to raise kids)
- OH started new business last year, so as he's now self-employed and we need two years of accounts for a new mortgage we'll not be moving for at least two years
- childcare costs! been doing some research and its terrifying how much it'll cost me to go back to work. Ideally I'd be a SAHM, but there's no chance we can afford that, and it'd be so hard to get back into my field of work if I took more than a year's maternity. So that means saving (a lot) to cover it

Meanwhile, I've got debt free (slipped into OD for a couple of days this month as I mistimed some transfers from my piggybank accounts) and started saving an emergency fund.

I'm trying to get our costs down, ideally to a level where my income covers all the outgoings - that way what OH earns from his business can go into savings/finishing the work on the house needed to sell it all ready for a move.

Sorry for the long post - but it looks like I'll be here a while

blondy24

Hello All,

Very quiet on here. OH and I had a very in-depth discussion yesterday around our plans and have decided to start trying for a baby :j so off over to other thread now, very excited and scared at the same time! Good luck to all waiting to TTC and hope your plans for other things in life e.g. saving, buying house, job etc goes well. I will pop in here from time to time. Take care, and thanks for all your support in the past.

daisiegg

blondy24 wrote: »

Hello All,

Very quiet on here. OH and I had a very in-depth discussion yesterday around our plans and have decided to start trying for a baby :j so off over to other thread now, very excited and scared at the same time! Good luck to all waiting to TTC and hope your plans for other things in life e.g. saving, buying house, job etc goes well. I will pop in here from time to time. Take care, and thanks for all your support in the past.

Congratulations! Good luck and I hope you have a short and happy TTC journey

Well, hello everyone! This thread is very quiet. I have posted on here a few times in the past before I was married. Well, now I am married very exciting. And of course immediately everyone around us starts thinking 'BABIES' as the next thing...

We have just made our first very small movement towards 'it' - the room that will be eventually a baby's room has previously been used just as storage (there are 2 of us in a 5 bedroom house atm!) because we didn't have any storage space in the loft. Last week we got the loft hatch widened, a proper ladder fitted and some area in the loft boarded out for storage. This means that we can clear that room (it is not loads of junk but things like suitcases, Christmas decorations, boxes of old uni books etc...my wedding dress! ). We may decorate it too (at the moment it is horrendous bright red! A teenaged boy had the room before we bought the house and he had an entire Arsenal themed room!) but I don't know if that feels like tempting fate? We wouldn't decorate it as a nursery specifically but in more neutral colours. But I don't know whether it would be best to wait until we were actually expecting a baby. But on the other hand, it will need doing anyway whether or not we were going to put a baby in there. Hmm.

We haven't talked babies that much since the wedding but I think we are still planning on starting to try in January. I will come off the pill in September after our summer holiday and hopefully my body won't take toooooo long to get back to normal. I don't even know what normal is as I have been on the pill since I was 12/13 for painful periods!

I'm scared. Is anyone else scared?! It feels very real now that it is getting so close. A work friend is trying for a baby now - she waited until after my wedding (lol - there was free booze at my wedding!) but now she is going for it....and prior to the wedding we had joked about both trying at the same time and having a baby race. Now I feel like I would still like it to be really quite far away for me. I think everyone around me expects me to pop one out straight away. My sister, who is in her final year of medical school, keeps texting me random things like 'you need to take folic acid x amount of months before trying to conceive' etc - all completely unprompted!

So how is everyone else doing? If there is still anyone here?