Those who are waiting to TTC

StressedBear

Welcome Katniss
I sympathise with your concerns, I am having a real head vs heart battle with myself at the moment over the nearly the same thing. I can’t really advise you one way or another, other than to do what’s best for you. I know that’s easier said than done, for us, I keep thinking, do we start trying now and struggle with a child to look after when we can barely afford to look after ourselves? Or do we leave it a few years until we’re back on our feet financially and then risk it being too late? Aaaargh, having no money sucks! Good luck to you whatever you choose.
Also, sorry to hear you’ve been set back Mrs_T_M. Good luck with the weight loss, hopefully the thought of a little babba will spur you on

katniss

StressedBear wrote: »

Welcome Katniss
I sympathise with your concerns, I am having a real head vs heart battle with myself at the moment over the nearly the same thing. I can’t really advise you one way or another, other than to do what’s best for you. I know that’s easier said than done, for us, I keep thinking, do we start trying now and struggle with a child to look after when we can barely afford to look after ourselves? Or do we leave it a few years until we’re back on our feet financially and then risk it being too late? Aaaargh, having no money sucks! Good luck to you whatever you choose.
Also, sorry to hear you’ve been set back Mrs_T_M. Good luck with the weight loss, hopefully the thought of a little babba will spur you on

Thanks for the welcome Stressedbear....i'm sorry to hear you're in a similar situation....it's such a tough call! Now if only we could win the lottery eh

Have a nice weekend everyone x

browneyedbazzi

Katniss - you are definitely not alone! I think that the conflict between wanting the time to be right (financially, career-wise, for the relationship etc etc) and worries about waiting too long is something a lot of people experience. It's certainly an argument that goes on in my head on a regular basis.

lilymay1

I don't think there is ever a 'right time' to start thinking about having a baby. No-one ever regrets having children, but people often regret not having them. If I were 37, I wouldn't be hanging around much longer...mostly because you're cutting it bit fine should you need any medical assistance to conceive. Well, for NHS treatment anyway.

Good luck with what ever you decide.

Cookiee

Hello lovely ladies

I have subscribed to this thread as as of Sept we will officially be trying :j

Let me introduce myself and DH. I am 32 and DH is 40 this year. I have PCSO and endrometriosis We have not been in a position where we could afford children but this year we will be debt free in Sept :T so roll on the 26.09.13 :rotfl:

We know we could be in for a bumpy ride but my gynacologist is a fab man and has given me lots of advice and I know I will be looked after lots. I have had the merina coil for the last 8 yrs, which had totally changed my life. I was in hospital for 2/3 days a month with severe bleeding and pain. I must admit I am scared stiff about having it removed but keep telling myself there is a reward for it :A

People have said to us previously "dont you think it's unfair to your DH that you wont have his kids" or "if you wait to afford kids you wont have them" :eek: And this was from his "lovely" sister!!

Whilst we might be older than we hoped to start trying, we cannot afford the £800+ a month loss from my wages on SMP. We have planned that we can save what we were paying on loans to a saving account to cover the drop in wages for me for 9 months Plus a little extra for baby/mummy things x

Unfortunately, I will have to let work know as soon as I am pregnant as I have had 3 M/C and 1 unavoidable termination due to a hole in my tube - ectopic Thankfully I only work in an office and they are a fab company to work for so will get plenty of support.

I look forward to chatting will you all and sharing our up's and downs (if you get my meaning :rotfl:)

Love Cookiee x

hmd1987

I am a newbie to this thread too, so please be gentle

I am in a same sex relationship, been together just over 7 years, married 2 of this. Been in our home for just over a year (had been renting together previously). There is a possibility that we could start ttc in around June this year (don't want to go into too much detail). We can financially afford a baby etc but we only have a peugeot 107....we don't have enough cash to buy a bigger car. Would this put any of you off? Our plan B was to start tic around sept 2014, which means we would hopefully have a large chunk of money saved up (maybe 10k) but I'm not sure we can wait that long :S

slowlyfading

We've only got a small car too - which is one of my worries if (and when!) we start to ttc, as I don't know whether we could afford it?

hmd1987

i;ve been trying to tell myself that a large car isn't necessary to have a baby...plenty of public transport available. Plus cars haven't always been around...I guess we will see, I think I worked out that once baby gets those free nursery hours (think at age 3?), then we can start saving alot more and then buy a bigger car

JellyBox

Hi all, I know this thread isn't massively active, but I saw it months ago when I wasn't in this category (it was a distant future, but not planned in enough). Now firmly here, waiting until we have somewhere better to live, preferably an owned home. Hoping to not be here too long, but thought I'd pop in and see if there are any other waiters about!

shrimpy_80

Hi Bex, I used to lurk on this thread but as you say, it is very quiet! I am getting married in August and planning to start TTC after that. I had an operation in Dec and was told not to start trying for at least six months, so we decided after the wedding would be a good time. Although I might get impatient before then! How long do you think the new house will take to sort out?