Those who are waiting to TTC

wangdoodle

Thanks for your reply daisiegg, so glad I'm not posting in the wrong area! Was worried about gatecrashing!

We're currently waiting cause of my work situation and also our housing situation. Sigh... My job is not secure right now. I'm hoping for my position to be reviewed by the end of the year, which would hopefully involve a promotion and a bit more security for me. Also me and OH are currently living apart. I have resisted getting a place together as I'd like us to be married, but I don't think he sees it that way. So I have relented and we will be looking for somewhere in the coming weeks. Ideally I'd like to buy somewhere before we TTC but that's not an option right now

JellyBox I sympathise, it's not easy being sensible. Some days I just want to be like scr@w it, let's try now! But one of us needs to use our brain. Hehe I totally panic about having problems too, and I'm a lot lot older than you.

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laurabllue

My last packet of pills finished the day after we got back from honeymoom so I've only been off them 3 weeks, I don't have muc to report at the moment! I always used to take two packets together and was good at timing the break around holidays etc so not having that certainty and control freaks me out a bit. I hate the idea of not knowing when a period might show up. I know before I went on the pill I was quite irregular which is why I wanted to try getting my body back to (as close to) normal before we properly start TTC.

I have noticed that my appetite seems to have disappeared though. I did put weight on when I went on the pill and have gone up a bit over the years. But since I've stopped it I find if I have breakfast when I get to work I'm not usually wanting lunch till gone 2, and now for example I'm not too fussed about dinner. If only I had discovered this pre-wedding!

People keep asking about babies and I find it really quite awkward. It feels like they're basically asking about our sex life!

daisiegg

laurabllue wrote: »

My last packet of pills finished the day after we got back from honeymoom so I've only been off them 3 weeks, I don't have muc to report at the moment! I always used to take two packets together and was good at timing the break around holidays etc so not having that certainty and control freaks me out a bit. I hate the idea of not knowing when a period might show up. I know before I went on the pill I was quite irregular which is why I wanted to try getting my body back to (as close to) normal before we properly start TTC.

I know exactly what you mean - I am worried about this too! I am the same, I run three packs together and only have a period when it is convenient (well, as convenient as it can be) I am going to come off the pill after our summer holiday (because I definitely want to make sure I don't have a period on the holiday!) and I am really hoping that the 5 months or so will be enough time for things to start to get back to normal before starting TTC after Christmas.

Like someone else said above, I am also irrationally terrified that I won't be able to conceive. Again there is no real reason for me to feel like this. I don't know if it is because I lurk on the various TTC threads a lot and see the realities of how difficult it can be, or what, but I have a really big fear that I will struggle. Strangely, my mum used to tell me she felt the same - she wanted babies SO much that she was convinced she wouldn't be able to have them. Which is possibly why she wasn't as careful as she might have been and I popped along precisely 9 months after the wedding! :rotfl: (very much wanted but a bit too early - meant my mum had to give up her career, which she hadn't planned to do so soon). My mum was always very fertile and tells me she was able to get pregnant as soon as she thought about it each time. There is no history of infertility in my family and I have no gynaecological problems (except for mild suspected endometriosis) so really there is no reason for me to think I might struggle, yet I still feel really worried. I should stop borrowing trouble!!!

claire16c

laurabllue wrote: »

I always used to take two packets together and was good at timing the break around holidays etc so not having that certainty and control freaks me out a bit. I hate the idea of not knowing when a period might show up. I know before I went on the pill I was quite irregular which is why I wanted to try getting my body back to (as close to) normal before we properly start TTC.

daisiegg wrote: »

I know exactly what you mean - I am worried about this too! I am the same, I run three packs together and only have a period when it is convenient (well, as convenient as it can be) I am going to come off the pill after our summer holiday (because I definitely want to make sure I don't have a period on the holiday!) and I am really hoping that the 5 months or so will be enough time for things to start to get back to normal before starting TTC after Christmas.

Just popping over from the ttc thread to say don't worry too much about this!

I was exactly the same, I used to run packs together, have maybe 5/6 periods a year and sometimes not even finish a full pack Id just stop when it was a good time to have a period, as the 3 week thing is fake anyway so it didn't really matter. So the period was always scheduled for exactly when I wanted it!

I had irregular & very painful periods as a teenager too, so I was pretty scared!

However, my periods are now much lighter and almost pain free.

They're still irregular 2 years later, Ive had tests come back normal, so I think its just how my body is. But I can still work out when its coming, because I work out my ovulation - and then my period comes around 12-14 days after that. So once you know your ovulation you will know when to expect it.

So although I cant control when it comes, I do at least now know when its going to arrive! I wish we had been taught this as teenagers because it would have been very useful to know in some cases when it was coming as I normally had to spend the first day in bed, and hence could have planned activities around it!

louby_lou

Hello there - may I join in please? I feel a bit early for the TTC thread as we are trying to sort out our jobs, promotion, finances a little more before we start trying properly.

We got married in October but have been together for about 13 years. I'm 29 this year and thinking we'd like to have our baby over the next year or so in a perfect world (we are planning for one on account of financial planning) but we shall see what hand life deals us. We have bought the house now and are 6 months in to it so getting the hang of this mortgage malarkey. Just.

May I ask, what milestones other people are looking to achieve before they start please?

Debt wise we have the mortgage and a small-ish credit card to pay but that's it for now. Do others save a great deal before / while trying? I have no savings at all at the moment after ploughing everything in to the mortgage deposit, but am hoping to be in a position to do so soon as I've now paid off my student loan and have just been promoted.

My husband just can't wait for any excuse to start trying. Bless him!

laurabllue

I'm not entirely sure what we're waiting for now! we've been together for ten years and got married in March I've been in my job for three years and won't be getting more money anytime soon. My OH has a good job and we have a house that's big enough for a baby, a car big enough for a baby and very willing parents who are queuing up to babysit already!

I'm find the idea of admitting we're thinking of trying difficult. When we were looking for a house I was happy to speak about it all the time but once we found one and the purchase was going through I didn't want to talk about it in case I jinxed it. I guess this is kind of the same.

I guess at the moment we're going with not trying, not preventing and getting on with life, planning a summer holiday and house renovations. If something does happen in the next few months it'd be amazing, but otherwise come September/October I think we'll start properly 'trying.'

Nicky_Noo_Na

Hi all.

I've been lurking on this thread for a few months now - didn't want to get ahead of myself and make myself mad with thinking about babies all the time but finally in a position to plan trying. I recently got a promotion at work which means I have a permanent job that I love and is well paid, took 6 years of training and thumb twidling to get there but its happened at last! Now the plan is to do up the house and for hubby to find a more secure job, we've got a big holiday booked for September and then the real countdown is on. Originally wanted to be in my new job a year before trying but considering bringing it forward a few months so going to stop my pill after our hol in Sept and then give myself a bit of time to 'regulate'. Been reading some horror stories on the old interweb about bad side effects of coming off the pill such as mood swings, headaches, migraines, chest pains, IBS etc etc plus the possibility of not even ovulating for several months!! so feel like I need to factor time in to get back to normal then maybe start trying at xmas or spring next year. Also worried about contraception once off the pill as I know a few friends who have had condoms break on them so thinking of starting to take folic acid just in case we were to get lucky earlier than expected - does anyone know if its ok to take the contraceptive pill and folic acid at the same time? I assume they don't interefere with each other?

So glad to see a bit moreinterest in the thread recently and hope it keeps up some momentum.

Browneyedbazzie - I remember your story from my months of lurking, hope you get to the bottom of the problem with your OH as it sounds like it would be a good time to start trying soon now you are settled in your new job, etc. Good Luck!

browneyedbazzi

Hi Nicky - welcome to the thread!

Try not to read too much online (or at least worry about what you read) about issues with coming off the pill - there are some horror stories around but very few people post about positive/uneventful things so the negative side is vastly over-represented. The majority of people don't have any problems and you're much more likely to end up in that group than with the people with horror stories - and if you do end up with problems there will be plenty of time to worry about it when it happens!

As for condoms breaking - if they're used properly then it's extremely rare. As long as you follow the instructions (including how they should be stored, using them within date and not using the wrong types of lubricant with them) they're quite reliable. Also, if one does break and it's a fertile time for you there is the option of a morning after pill.

daisiegg

louby_lou wrote: »

May I ask, what milestones other people are looking to achieve before they start please?

No big milestones really, to be honest. We definitely wouldn't have considered trying until we were married - and now we are. We wouldn't have considered trying until we had bought a big enough house - and we bought a 5 bedroom nearly 2 years ago now. I think really we didn't want to go straight into babies the second we were married; we want some time to enjoy it first. And at least one more really good holiday before we can't do them anymore for a while!

I feel a bit conflicted at the moment because one part of me is getting really broody. Not even just broody for the baby part, but somehow really wanting to be trying to get pregnant, and then to be pregnant. However another part of me is petrified that if we start trying in January, that is only just over 6 months away! My first couple of months of marriage will have been a complete wash out as I broke my foot on our wedding day, so I have been really quite immobile and we haven't been able to go out or do anything at all by the time I am back to normal it will be nearly 3 months of only being in our house and at work, not driving, not going anywhere or doing anything. It has been really depressing and it makes a part of me really want more time to make the most of being married and together and to enjoy that, before having to be extremely sensible for a very long time. But then....broody! Babies! Lol.

I suppose another thing that is very important for me to do before TTC is losing weight. I keep conveniently forgetting about that! Because it is not much fun...


Hope everyone else is doing well

astridat

Hello everyone :wave:

I wonder if I can join this group?

My husband and I are 24 and have been together 10 years, married for 2. We have always wanted kids but have obviously been holding off until we were slightly older, more financially stable etc...

So now we are slightly older and more financially stable, we think will be starting TTC probably within the next year. I have come off pill and we are using a mix of condoms and withdrawal. I wanted to come off the pill so I could get my body back to normal before TTC and know what's regular etc.

Even though we may not start 'properly trying' for a while, should I be taking any supplements?

Thanks