Those who are waiting to TTC

Miss_Bolan

I see what you mean about preparing being part of the excitement, there's no harm in being prepared I uess (my little sister was SUPER prepared before her baby was born!).

I have purchased some reusable eco friendly baby wipes, but only because I went with my two pregnant sisters to the baby show and got a little carried away! It is essentially a few plastic boxes with small bits of towling and some essential oils, so nothing which will go bad being stored!

I am sure the family you are nannying for will miss you, but i am sure they will understand that life moves on. Will you be job hunting and hoping to find something before you conceive?

lushlifesaver

We live in a tiny bungalow and once we've got my boyfriends two sports wheelchairs away we have nowhere we can store stuff out of sight which is the only problem! Also, boyfriend's brother and his lass are due to have their second any day now - all of the family are praying its not a girl, it will break the heart of my bfs mum if it is as the lass has already told her that she's unlikely to see the baby much

Bfs mum and grandparents keep saying stuff like 'when you two have kids....I mean if' which is lovely, we haven't been together very long but we're settled and happy

I'm job hunting now, want something local (Wakefield area) but not just any old job in a shop etc - something roughly related to my degrees/experience would be best! Hoping to get something to start in the new year, that way I can get plenty of hours in to save extra money as my pcdl repayments will still have to be made even if I'm not earning etc so want to get some extra money put away for during mat leave

lilmissmup

Hiya ladies!

Yep AF is here in full force!

I am trying to get my more practical side on as I do want to wait until next year really but sometimes its hard!

We are trying to overpay the mortgage so we can move to a bigger house in a more urban area. If we can get down to £100k before we need to sell that will help.

I won't be buying any baby bits until I get pregnant as I have worries it will take me a while anyway!

March time is ideally when I want to start trying as course will nearly be done then, and mortgage payments lower and me and OH will have been together 3 years then.

Miss_Bolan

Hi lushlifesaver, why would your bfs mum be upset if his brother has a girl? Are they not close? I dont blame you for wanting to get a job in your qualified area, it's all to easy to find just 'anything' and get stuck doing it. I dont do what my degree was in, but I didn't really enjoy it to the end so I don't mind! I get ok maternity with my current job so thats ok lol.

Lilmissup, I know what you mean about waiting being hard. I know if I had any inkling I might be pregnant I'd be ectsatic, but I know that really the timing isn't quite right and it would be financially better to wait a bit longer, even if I daydream about a bump 24/7!

I managed to go the doctors today due to this pain in my lower ribs/abdomen which is not getting any better. The doctor thinks I have chostochondritis, basically an inflammation of the cartilidge on my ribs. She has given me anti inflammatories, fingers crossed it gets better soon, or at least the pain wears off a bit, god knows how ive managed to damage myself!

lushlifesaver

Basically middle son (my bfs brother) has been with this lass on and off for years, he stays because of their first child who is now 3 but they fight like cat and dog about anything/everything. The family aren't close with her because she has said and done some things over the years (some much worse than others) and she and the family therefore rarely see eye to eye - unless she needs someone to look after the 3year old! She then turned round and said to them they they probably wouldn't see this baby or their first child anywhere near as much once she's given birth although they rarely see the young lad anymore as it is!

She then turned around and said that she'd need my bfs mum to help with childcare after the birth because she wants to go back to work asap and has an interview for a job where she will have to start in Jan when the baby is only 6-8 weeks old! It's all a lot of drama and an on going saga!

BF and I only got together early this year but we're happy and all of his family have basically adopted me his mum calls me the daughter she never had, his grandparents call me their only granddaughter - I worry that it will upset son number 2s gf but she never comes to any family stuff or out for meals etc so I'm guessing she doesn't know yet. Although bfs mum called me her 'daughter in law' and the other lass 'sons gf' when we all went away for a night but don't think it was picked up on

bride2be2012

Is anyone else just totally hacked off with waiting??? We wanted to wait until we had bought a house and paid of some debts, but having had a carp year with jobs and DHs hours being cut again yesterday at work that just isn't happening...and it seems like every time I log onto FB or check my emails or even look at my bl***y phone someone else is expecting...broke down in tears last night with it all, just so fed up :(

Have checked the entitled to website and we will be about £20 a month worse off while I'm on maternity (as I only work part time just now)...I prob spend that on wine a month lol, so waiting seems kinda pointless...

sorry for ranting, I just needed to let it all out, DH is at work and the dog isn't much good at telling me to get a grip!

Lara44

YES! Really feeling the same Bride2Be. I looked at our situation again and there's the chance that we could try this month and next, because then I'd still be able to take maternity eave before my course ends.

But then in January we'd have to stop trying again, because after that I'd be due after the course finished, and would have to do that really stressful final slog with a huge bump. I don't think that would be very good and I am also worried about the effects of stress on the baby in the womb.

I promised OH last night I wouldn't think about the future any more - no further than our car boot sale on Sunday :rotfl: I'm on my first post-implant period, so we will try in the November and December cycles and then stop until PhD is finished next September. Ofc Ov is likely to be when I'm visiting my family in N. Ireland without OH. But what can you do?

misscoupon

bride2be2012 wrote: »

Is anyone else just totally hacked off with waiting??? We wanted to wait until we had bought a house and paid of some debts, but having had a carp year with jobs and DHs hours being cut again yesterday at work that just isn't happening...and it seems like every time I log onto FB or check my emails or even look at my bl***y phone someone else is expecting...broke down in tears last night with it all, just so fed up :(

Yes!!!
I know what you mean bride2be, between saving for a house and waiting to TTC, it really feels that our life is on hold while everyone else is getting on with things... Am I the only one who goes 'awwwwwwwwwwww' at the Cow&Gate TV advert with kids messing about with music instruments?

Wickedwitch

Is there room for a newbie in here?!
This is my first venture into a thread, quite exciting. My OH and I are also waiting to TTC, though not until DECEMBER 2013. It seems so far away!

We have various debts we want cleared, and desperately need savings for maternity leave etc, but fingers crossed this time next year we will be financially ready, and I will have been in my job longer than 2 years so won't feel too bad.
I feel like I need to spend a lot longer reading through this thread though, have only glanced at the last couple of pages and already feel a lot better that there are others out there waiting to TTC, as well as slightly worried at how underprepared I am - good job I have a while to catch up.

My equally broody OH has a 5 year old (hence my user name, my family find it hilarious that I am a 'stepmother'), and at her party in Sunday there were 2 pregnant ladies and a newborn - I went straight to the bar

blondy24

Hello All,

Have been really trying not to think about TTC as it won't be till end of January 2013. Although I received a Next Preview Catalogue today and was very tempted in buying some maternity clothes as always shop in Next and get 15% off. Do you think this is silly? Has anyone else done this?