Those who are waiting to TTC

Cinny91

Congrats to your cousin, Ellie And of course we're not going to judge you, don't be silly. It's perfectly natural to feel slightly jealous as it's something you want so badly, don't be too harsh on yourself.

OH and I kind of did the baby dance last night. Totally out of the blue. I'm the worst person for keeping track of my cycle, but I've done a little guess work and it is this week I'm well, er, eggy. Going to the Doctors this evening as I've finally got transferred to a local one, and I was planning on telling them we're planning on trying in the future as to make sure I'm healthy enough for pregnancy. But I don't know if I should tell them I'm actively trying for a pregnancy now? Still, I'm not moving myself from this thread. The next one is all periods, weird abbreviations I don't fully understand and way too much planning for my liking. Anyway, last night was just a one off thing. We have been a little too relaxed with contraception since we officially started saving, and chances are nothing's happened.

Ellie83

Cinny91 wrote: »

Congrats to your cousin, Ellie And of course we're not going to judge you, don't be silly. It's perfectly natural to feel slightly jealous as it's something you want so badly, don't be too harsh on yourself.

OH and I kind of did the baby dance last night. Totally out of the blue. I'm the worst person for keeping track of my cycle, but I've done a little guess work and it is this week I'm well, er, eggy. Going to the Doctors this evening as I've finally got transferred to a local one, and I was planning on telling them we're planning on trying in the future as to make sure I'm healthy enough for pregnancy. But I don't know if I should tell them I'm actively trying for a pregnancy now? Still, I'm not moving myself from this thread. The next one is all periods, weird abbreviations I don't fully understand and way too much planning for my liking. Anyway, last night was just a one off thing. We have been a little too relaxed with contraception since we officially started saving, and chances are nothing's happened.

Thanks Cinny, you ade me feel better, because I was really starting to think I was a horrible person It's just that everyone around me is pregnant and I am very broody I am so happy for my cousin: what is not to celebrate when a baby is born to 2 nice people who love each other very much?

Aww, I love that expression: "baby dance" (if that is what I think it is ). Is it an common expression in the UK? I had never heard that before My husband and I have always used a condom, even when I was (briefly) on the pill. At least baby making will bring something new to our private life too No more fiddling around to find a condom....

I have to admit, I went on the other thread and I got a bit scared too :rotfl: But sometimes I read that women project their anxiety on having a baby and that it is a way to feel "in control", especially when they've been trying for a while.

Now, who knows, there may be a mini Cinny in 9 months time Wouldn't that be great?

clearing_out_my_pockets

Cinny91 wrote: »

Still, I'm not moving myself from this thread. The next one is all periods, weird abbreviations I don't fully understand and way too much planning for my liking.

I haven't left this thread properly

When I got my TLP (Tiny Little Positive) and posted it on the other thread, I was told I'd have to stop posting on the WTT thread Unfortunately the TLP didn't last so I'm still on both threads (assuming you're still happy to have me)

Ellie83

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

I haven't left this thread properly

When I got my TLP (Tiny Little Positive) and posted it on the other thread, I was told I'd have to stop posting on the WTT thread Unfortunately the TLP didn't last so I'm still on both threads (assuming you're still happy to have me)

Sorry, I don't understand what is a Tiny Little Positive :rotfl: I thought a test could never be positive by mistake? Oh Lord, there is a lot I need to learn!!!

And don't laugh but... I didn't know there were ovulation test kits!!! Having said that, when you have PCOS, it must come in handy to find out whether or not you're ovulating... Look at me talking about ovulation and all :rotfl: OK, I stop now, I'm still waiting TTC

clearing_out_my_pockets

A tiny little positive is a faint line on a pregnancy test. It normally means you're very early on and the hormone levels aren't very high. In my case it was what's known as a chemical pregnancy - the embryo failed to implant and the 'pregnancy' was lost.

I'm not using ovulation tests - not really my thing. But as you say it would probably be useful if you've got PCOS or very long cycles.

head_in_clouds

Hi everyone

It seems we all have different anxiety when thinking about the future, yet we are so focused on little bundles of joy, we must be slightly mad!
So still no sign of AF yet, but done a test and was a BFN so back to waiting patiently. I am heading off to spain next weekend so hopefully that will be lovely and relaxing

Ellie83

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

A tiny little positive is a faint line on a pregnancy test. It normally means you're very early on and the hormone levels aren't very high. In my case it was what's known as a chemical pregnancy - the embryo failed to implant and the 'pregnancy' was lost.

I'm not using ovulation tests - not really my thing. But as you say it would probably be useful if you've got PCOS or very long cycles.

Oh no, it's so sad I guess that's why they say to wait a little longer. I'm so sorry for you

I first found the ovulations tests very weird but then remembered that some women are not blessed with regular cycles sadly. I'm lucky in that despite my PCOS, my cycles are fairly regular, except when I'm really stressed (so at the moment, not brilliant...)

head_in_clouds wrote: »

Hi everyone
I am heading off to spain next weekend so hopefully that will be lovely and relaxing

A perfect time to start trying if you ask me

optimistic-mummy

hi all, i know earlier in the thread people were talking about things they have already brought well.... i found a cot bed in great condition free to good home..... but it was like nearly the other side of the country lol.. i didnt realise till i told FIL and MIL where the location was .... and they said it would be too far to travel.... but they then said not to worry cuz they will get us one!!! i didnt know what to say .... feel guilty now hope they dont think that when the time cuz they will be expected to buy things .... also hope i didnt put them in an awkward position ... will see when the time comes ... hopefully we will buy one before they do, last pregnancy we went looking for a cot only to reserve one and go to MIL's house to find out FIL had ordered one that day online, i tryed to give them the money but they wouldnt let me. it was their gift ... as well as going half with us on a pushchair and buying a baby swing .... hope they dont think they will have tp do that next time round as i know financially they are struggling abit and would hate for them to rake up more debt for us..... what do i say to them without sounding mean and unappreciative. xx

Ellie83

Mmm, not easy Optimistic-Mummy... If you tell them you don't want their help because of their financial situation, they'll be hurt. They'll be hurt too if you say you don't need help full stop. If you do the nice thing and say "no, you've been so generous the first time, we can't accept", they'll feel bad too.

Why not tell them: "actually we got that and that and that covered, but if you really want to help, we could use X, Y, Z" (and give examples of things that are cheap but very useful). Or maybe tell them you'd rather have something homemade? Tell your MIL you'd love a handmade knitted blanket for the baby? Are they crafty/DIY people? Because they could also help by giving some elbow grease redecorating the nursery?

Only suggestions. I know grandparents can sometimes get carried away: they're just happy

optimistic-mummy

thanks ellie83 yeah they are really good at DIY baby will be sharing with LO once its old enough tho and in with us before that. but i was going to decorate the corner of our room where the cot is going to be so might ask if they can help with that. MIL is really imaginative too so i know they will come up with lovely ideas x