Those who are waiting to TTC

toffee87

Hey all! Newly married and waiting to try! Credit card bill £4,750 and about £750 overdraft. It is very hard to wait, but as everyone says having a baby is stressful. Though people also say if you wait til you have money, you'll never have kids!

browneyedbazzi

toffee87 wrote: »

Hey all! Newly married and waiting to try! Credit card bill £4,750 and about £750 overdraft. It is very hard to wait, but as everyone says having a baby is stressful. Though people also say if you wait til you have money, you'll never have kids!

Welcome to the thread!

I think it's true that you could wait forever if you're waiting for 'perfect' timing...there will always be one more baby free holiday you'd like to take, a desire to be in a better job, have a home or a bigger home of you own, a bit more money in the bank/less in debt. But that doesn't mean that we shouldn't try to be in a good position to give our future babies the best possible start in life

Realistically, if you don't have any medical issues etc, you're young and have time to get yourself into a good position and it's worth doing. After all stress isn't good for TTC, pregnant ladies or new parents so if you can avoid a bit of stress by getting yourself into a better position then it's worth doing.

At least that's my opinion. There will be others!

amyloofoo

browneyedbazzi wrote: »

Welcome to the thread!

I think it's true that you could wait forever if you're waiting for 'perfect' timing...there will always be one more baby free holiday you'd like to take, a desire to be in a better job, have a home or a bigger home of you own, a bit more money in the bank/less in debt. But that doesn't mean that we shouldn't try to be in a good position to give our future babies the best possible start in life

Realistically, if you don't have any medical issues etc, you're young and have time to get yourself into a good position and it's worth doing. After all stress isn't good for TTC, pregnant ladies or new parents so if you can avoid a bit of stress by getting yourself into a better position then it's worth doing.

At least that's my opinion. There will be others!

Mine too Bazzi

Toffee, I'm also a newlywed 25 year old who can't wait to try but have too much debt to get rid of first, so I feel your pain! You'll get lots of support in here though, and you're definitely on the right forum if you want to get rid of the debt sooner rather than later I've found some amazing advice on here and feel like I'm finally taking control of my finances! Is there something you can focus on that you'd like to do before being pregnant / having a baby? Every time I get super-broody I'm thinking about the snowboarding and boozy holiday I want to take next year

daisiegg

Hi all

I keep seeming to miss this thread when it pops up on the front page...and I always forget to search for it.

Still plugging along and waiting....I know so many people who have recently had babies and it just makes me so broody! But at the same time I'm sort of ok to wait a little bit longer - I'm only 24 and I want more fun time before baby time. Mind you, that's just the feeling right now - in 5 minutes it will probably change!

We are getting married at the beginning of April 2013 and I think we'll probably start TTC in September or something...though I have to admit We will probably be much less 'careful' as soon as we're married! Financially etc we'd be all set to have a baby - we have a lovely house with plenty of room - money is fine, etc. I suppose it's just a really big change and OH knows exactly how big as he has a daughter (who was unplanned when he was very young). I know he really likes our lifestyle - nights out, holidays, mornings in bed etc...and so do I...but I also WANT A BABY! I know he does want a baby with me, we talk about it all the time. I think starting trying in September 2013 might be the best thing

Gillyx

It is the biggest change. My life has done a complete 360. We left our son for the first time in 6 months last night to go to the cinema and I felt like I was missing a limb. That made me realise I have adjusted, but I do still have days where I miss my old life so much. To be able to go to Tesco, by just getting up and going are long gone, it's what time is his nap, when is he due food/milk, oh crap he's been sick, full change and then you're rushing to Tesco like a mad woman to get back before it's dinner time. In saying that I'm broody as hell and want another now, so it hasn't put me off too much

lozza1985

I think it's really hard to say when it's right, but I know me & Dh always wanted to have a house & be married before trying, and to try and get ourselves sorted financially as best as possible before taking the next step, unlike most of my family who 'accidentally' got pregnant and think we're a bit peculiar because we don't have kids yet - were not even 30 yet so it's not like we're old!

Whackadoodle

Hi all,

Hope you don't mind if I tag along with you guys?

Hubs and I hopefully (if I've done my sum correctly!) will finally be TTC by the end of this year! It's been a long time coming, (been together 11 years and married 5).

I know you shouldn't wish your life away but I do wish this year would hurry up

browneyedbazzi

Welcome Whackadoodle!

This year will be over before you know it...Christmas is only 5 months away! eeek!

It's odd wanting time to pass quickly for one reason at the same time as wishing it would go slowly in other areas. I feel quite contrary today.

amyloofoo

Well, an exciting update for everyone! We've been looking after my little nephew (5 months old) a lot recently, and hubby came home from work very loved up last night, started rubbing my tummy and said he'd like us to 'stop not trying'. :eek: What we've eventually agreed after much excitement and cuddling is that we're going to stop preventing, start temping and getting ourselves ready (exercising, stopping smoking on his part [something he rarely does] and lots of BDing :rotfl:) and although we're not officially trying 'til April, we'd be delighted to have an 'accident' before then :j:D:T Very excited and a bit scared

browneyedbazzi

Wow amyloofoo that's very exciting!!! I think it's a good idea to have a while of not trying/not preventing so that you can just relax and see where nature takes you before getting into all the stress that must come with properly trying. I'm sure you won't have an 'accident' but perhaps a 'surprise' instead?