Those who are waiting to TTC

Gillyx

I am getting so broody. I'd honestly have another tomorrow if I could. I know it wouldn't be fair on my son though, he deserves time just us, where I'm not pregnant and he doesn't have a tiny sibling. Bleurgh. My friend is being induced today, think that's what's causing all of this.

browneyedbazzi

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Have to say - that won't get any better when you are TTC - my best friend had her little girl last week and (I'm ashamed to say) I've had to hide her in my news feed. I don't begrudge her in the slightest - the baby was much wanted and longed after but there are 2-3 photos a day going up and I couldn't hear a thing above the deafening sound of my womb clanging at me. We're popping round later on this week (if I can persuade DH) and I'm trying to prepare myself for the "It'll be you next..." comments!

I'm sure you're right comp...I can't really see my broodiness getting any better until I have one of my own. I haven't got to the point of hiding anyone in my news feed yet though. Not all of my friends are on facebook so I get photo messages on my phone too and there's really no way around that!

Not many people know about my broodiness...only a few of my best friends really, the rest I haven't felt a need to tell so they still think I'm not planning on having a family, thankfully that means I don't get many questions about when it'll be my turn etc. Every once in a while my mom makes a comment but I tend to shut that down pretty quickly because if she knew I wanted a baby then I'd have no end of pressure from her.

amyloofoo

Hi everyone,

Bazzi: I went to my pre-employment screening today and found I'd been moved from maternity at the LGI (where OBEM is filmed) to maternity at SJUH so I won't be on the next series :rotfl:This is fine with me though as SJ is about a mile nearer to my house, and my job's not very glamourous so I'd rather not be filmed doing it lol. I do believe the next series of OBEM will be at the LGI though as my pregnant friend was approached about being on it (she declined for similar reasons to my own lol!)

You're right about the additional maternity benefits, it would be a bit of a pain to work there for that long, and then end up not qualifying. It does pose a bit of a conundrum, but I can only imagine that once you have a lovely little baby in your arms you might be thinking less about the finances Hopefully the next 18 months or so will fly by for you, and from there you'll have a quick and easy conception, pregnancy and delivery!

So pleased to hear your friend and her LO are well, I know it's hard to stay focussed on 'waiting' when people around you have gorgeous little babies. Just have a glass of wine and think 'my friend can't do this though :rotfl:'. I've just realised that now I've been moved from LGI to SJ, I may well be working when my sister delivers... not sure how I feel about that :eek: She's already driving me round the bend as she's been hypersensitive about her pregnancy / symptoms from the start, i.e. claiming from her second week that she couldn't wear 1" heels or carry her own handbag - I can only imagine she's going to be a nightmare in labour, I may have to arrange some holiday around her delivery date!

Gilly: Hope your friend had a good delivery and mum and baby are doing well :grouphug: How old's your LO? When do you think you might start trying again? I agree that it would be nice for your son to have some time with just the three of you, but I'm sure they'd love a little sibling too

COMP: Hope the TTCing is going well and we hear exciting news from you soon.... I've not yet reached the point of hiding people on my news feed, but I think actually TTC may well exacerbate my broodiness / jealousy - it's going to be really hard when you're trying but others seem to have no problem. I know you'd still be happy for them, but some days it's going to be more of a struggle than others

Lozza: That's a really healthy attitude to have - caesarians can happen to anyone and aren't really something to get worried about. Glad to hear the news about the mortgage too - hopefully being in a position to save will mean being able to TTC sooner, it'll be nice to see some graduates from this thread

Hopelass: Trying on holiday seems to be a good plan - I'd read a few posts from people who've taken that approach and have 'fallen' quickly... I think it's mine and OH's plan to start trying while we're away too, although you're right about checking the walls aren't too thin I'm glad there are others on here who're OBEM fans... I've become totally addicted lol!

I hope your SIL has an easy pregnancy and this makes her less self-absorbed; I know it's probably long shot if she already has one LO, but we can hope for miracles!

Lilian: OMG that sounds terrifying - please go and see your doc ASAP if it continues to get worse / not heal. I know the temptation to start trying is strong, but you need to think about what's best for you and your LO and I can't imagine trying when you're still not healed is going to be comfortable or pleasant, especially if you do conceive and then have a difficult labour. Have they given you any idea how long it should be until you're starting to notice an improvement?

Andthethreebears: Hope your cycles and headaches start to settle - have you spoken to your GP to see if there's anything more than can be done beyond the usual advice of staying hydrated, exercising and watching your diet (that seems to be the advice for everything :rotfl:)? Hopefully it's just a case of your body getting used to not being on the pill anymore and it'll settle in its own time.

MEGA LONG POST ALERT,

Amy xx

slowlyfading

Can I change my timing thing on the front page? Looks like it'll be September 2013 at the earliest

amyloofoo

slowlyfading wrote: »

Can I change my timing thing on the front page? Looks like it'll be September 2013 at the earliest

Awww, why the delay hun? :grouphug:

findingmyownway

Just been lurking on here and realised I am still on the front page. I got a suprise BFP a couple of weeks ago though, so appear to have graduated without trying :-)

Good luck to you all

slowlyfading

amyloofoo wrote: »

Awww, why the delay hun? :grouphug:

Lots of reasons money being the big thing (isn't it always?) and I'm starting a new job in January so need to be there a while before trying, and I also need to get to a healthy weight and lots of other things I don't want to wait that long! But, need to be sensible I guess thanks for the hugs x

amyloofoo

slowlyfading wrote: »

Lots of reasons money being the big thing (isn't it always?) and I'm starting a new job in January so need to be there a while before trying, and I also need to get to a healthy weight and lots of other things I don't want to wait that long! But, need to be sensible I guess thanks for the hugs x

You're always welcome to hugs! And however hard it is to wait, you're doing the right thing in making sure you're healhy physically and financially first :T Congrats on the new job btw

P.S. I'm joining you on the old style weight loss challenge - :beer: for when we meet our goal weights!

slowlyfading

amyloofoo wrote: »

You're always welcome to hugs! And however hard it is to wait, you're doing the right thing in making sure you're healhy physically and financially first :T Congrats on the new job btw

P.S. I'm joining you on the old style weight loss challenge - :beer: for when we meet our goal weights!

Thanks - I know in my head it's the right thing to do, doesn't make it any easier though! And good luck with your weight loss target

browneyedbazzi

slowlyfading wrote: »

Thanks - I know in my head it's the right thing to do, doesn't make it any easier though!

It certainly isn't easy and I think the only thing that would make it easier (for me at least) is a crystal ball that shows you with a healthy baby after the wait. Otherwise there's always the doubt that waiting is the wrong thing to do because of the fertility problems/complications that increase as you get older.

I'm certainly not helped at the moment by my friend who's over the moon with her new baby and keeps telling me that I need to do it too. I think I'll be a lost cause once I go for a visit and hold the baby!