Those who are waiting to TTC

misscoupon

jovie wrote: »

Haha it makes me laugh how nobody speaks for days, then somebody takes the plunge and everyone comes out from lurking :rotfl:

Indeed, I'm 'delurking' too.
Last time I posted about how worried I was about no AF since stopping the pill... Well it's finally here nearly 6 months later.
I was so worried that I went to the GP and had to have my hormone levels tested with suspected PCOS but in the end , after multiple blood test and a scan, I'm just fat .
My GP scared me about the risk of even considering pregnancy in my current shape. So I'm now on a mission to lose weight before we start trying in a year (I guess I'm following in COMP's footsteps).
*going back to lurking*

blondy24

Hello All,

Hope you are all well.

I can't believe it will soon be 6 mths before we can start TTC yay. I am trying not to get too excited and wedding planning is keeping me busy aswell as work. I have put in a request to work 4 days per week and still waiting for a response, fingers crossed. Just don't find enough time at the mo to do everything round the house especially as we have OH's 3 children every other day during the week and every other weekend to stay.

chocoholic_chick

Morning all!

Been a while since I've been on here. We had an absolutely wonderful holiday, we did so many things as we knew that this was probably going to be the last holiday we'd be able to have for some time.

We're in the process of getting alot of work done on our house, partly because it desperately needed it and also to try to get as much done before a baby comes along

I've started taking folic acid supplements now in preparation for when we start TTC, and I'm looking at whether we can afford for me to go part time or drop my hours once we have a child rather than going back to work full time. My mum has offered to give up work to child mind for me when we do have children, but I haven't actually told her we're hoping to try for children relatively soon and I'm not actually sure she could afford to give up work in all honesty. I would still give her some money, but I can't afford to give her the same as what she gets paid, but then again I can't afford to pay £800+ in child minding fees if I did work full time.

When I'm on SMP my pay will drop my almost £1200 so we're trying to work out how much we'll need to save before I go on maternity to cover any bills, I think if we make cut backs then we'll need around an extra £300 a month so we need to start saving for that but won't be in a position to until a couple of loans are paid off. So financially we have a few things to sort out, I know people say you find a way to afford it but honestly hubbys wage + my SMP would not cover our bills ( thats cutting out all luxurys including sky, entertaining etc )

Still hoping that maybe after Christmas we'll be in a good position to start TTC though

browneyedbazzi

Hi all,

I've been lurking/away for a while too. Not much has changed for me...work is still terrible and feels worse since coming back from a holiday. I'm still surrounded by babies and pregnant friends and just a bit jealous that I can't join in yet! I am really excited for one of my friends who is due in the next few weeks after trying for a baby for years...I've been very un-MSE and have tons of things in my spare room for her and the baby

I hope everyone is well!

amyloofoo

Just thought I'd share with everyone my mum's new way of trying to convince us to start TTC. Last night at a family meal she randomly said "we could all go away to Austria (where OH and I got married) and you two could go clubbing while grandad and I have baby". Love the bribery lol

browneyedbazzi

Amyloofoo - parents can be quite funny about these things! My mom has always been desperate for me to have babies but has given up mentioning it because I was always adamant when I was young that I wouldn't have any. She used to say 'oh you'll change your mind one day' etc etc until one day I told her that saying that will just give me one more reason not to! Knowing how stubborn I am she shut up and started pressuring my best friend (who I grew up with and it close to the whole family) instead. I think mom will be quite shocked when (if?) we do get pg...and possibly a bit upset that I live thousands of miles away and she won't be able to be involved.

andthethreebears

*advanced warning - hormonal and crazy woman posting*

33 days since i last 'bled', I assume this was just a withdrawal bleed after stopping the pill rather than an actual period.
Been up and down emotionally (cried through almost a whole day at work last week, what was that all about?!), crazily spotty, crampy tummy, bloated on and off, and very headachey.
Took a pregnancy test, negative.
How am I going to do this every month?!

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amyloofoo - my mum occasionally says things like 'when you have a little girl...!' part of me thinks she has a drawer full of cute baby clothes hidden somewhere!
also, my parents are thinking of getting a dog, and one of the dog names she likes is a name I like - how do I bring that up?!
'please don't call the puppy 'insert name here' because that's what I wanted to call your grandchild!!'

bigmomma051204

arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I am an evil witch!!!!! arghhhhhhhhhh!


Right got it out lol!

Have just had a txt off the hubby of one of my oldest friends to say she has just given birth to her baby. And much as i am pleased for her....i am also insanely jealous and feel like i could burst into tears at any given moment....
i am SO jealous and it feels nasty!!!!!! :o:o
My OH doesnt really GET it...men huh.... and thinks i am being silly etc.... but i cant help it!!!

Am i a perfect b*tch bag??

I already have an older child but i had a vile pregnancy, with a VILE man who threw me into sh*t creek and left me at 7months gone - awful birth and NOBODY to share any of it with.... fast forward 7 years, have been with hubby since my ds was 18months(ish) he is his dad to all intents etc... BUT i desperately would like a child with my hubby who doesnt have any biological kids of his own. We were trying for a couple of months at the beginning of this year and then stopped due to my dad saying he might be able to help us get a mortgage...so trying to be sensible, and knowing my dad wouldnt carry on with that if i was preggers as he would worry re money etc (me on maternity and hubby self employed so always hard to feel stable totally lol) we decided to STOP trying (still off pill though and just being extremely careful eeekers lol!).............and for the last few months, it has become increasingly apparent that with the amount of money we would get, we cant buy anything where we are so it feels like we have been waiting for nothing and it will just carry on as we are now in limbo house market limbo! PLUS, i only have one ovary and this has cysts on SO my fertility is reduced somewhat. And i basically dont HAVE the time to wait around until i am in my late 30's as some do! (am 29 btw)

This has just thrown me totally and i feel dire. REALLY dire. And the feeling dire, makes me feel ungrateful and shi*ty!!!!!!

Oh poo - i am just a bad person!!!

amyloofoo

Big Momma, that sounds horrible and you're not a bad person at all - just emotional which is understandable given the circumstances *hugs*

In other news, I went for an interview on an antenatal ward today... I'm not sure if working with so many babies / expectant mothers is going to make the broodiness better or worse lol (that's presuming I get it of course, fingers crossed)

browneyedbazzi

Fingers crossed for you amyloofoo!

I'm still on the hunt for a new job but feeling a bit ambivalent about finding anything because starting anywhere new will mean waiting for maternity benefits to kick in before TTC.

I'm expecting to be more broody than usual for the next little while because one my close friends will be having her little girl soon...they're saying any time now which is really exciting. They say the baby is small so I've been out shopping for tiny clothes (I bought bigger stuff initially because she has gestational diabetes and we expected a big baby but now it looks like none of it will fit for a long time). Some of the stuff is so adorable it makes me ache!