Those who are waiting to TTC

good_vibes

Hi all,
Have been lurking on here forever. My first post.
Have been with my partner for 2 years (known him for 3) and moved up north to be with him 4 months ago. Was a easy move, yes I miss my family and friends, but life is so much better overall. I was in a responsable Job, which left me stress depressed, no time for myself and alone. It's only you that can make the change. I threw myself in the Job due to a nasty break up, to help me get past it. it didn't work.
Ex was on about having a baby would make him the happest man. I felt what would happen if I didn't give that to him. I withdrew, because I felt he didn't love me for me and then I got emotional abuse and he was convinced I was having affairs everywhere. It was bad time for me. He went his own way and found someone who gave him a baby.
I have moved on from that place now and so lucky and deserve the loving partner I have now.

Due to the many things above, I negleted myself for a while and now been sorting out several of these things I have neglected.
One thing on the list was time is up on my Copper coil. I dicussed this with my partner. As I am unsure if this could come out straight away and what to use next.
I have wanted children for a long time. I am 35 years old and didn't want to start anything with hormones in (was a size 20 on them, now size 12).
We had the chat and we are happy to leave to fate once my coil comes out next week (hopefuly).
He had his own pressures on his last relationship about ttc and it killed his relationship.

It was a great chat and he said he would love a child, but the most important thing is that I am with him.
Both want to carry on as normal and see what happens.

clearing_out_my_pockets

euronorris wrote: »

Hi All!

Hi COMP! Don't worry about the updates not being super quick, it's great that you're still doing them for us! THANK YOU!!

Me - I spent most of the weekend in the kitchen, cooking and baking, and cleaning (and still, I have a LOT of pots and pans etc to clean! Deep joy!).

My job - still unsettled. Will be for a while yet. Plus side - OH's job is starting to look better. They finally gave an offer that matched his current salary, benefits etc (WAHOOOO!!!). But, he still has some things to negotiate with them. Mainly, he wants to maintain current contract, until April 2013, and then switch over. But he wants something in writing from them to say that they will honour this, and he will def have contract in place from April next year. IF they agree, then we can start looking at mortgages and houses. We'll see how this week goes.

Sorry for being AWOL, it's just that I don't have much to add, and when I do, it isn't particularly positive. I don't want to bring the thread down.

I hope you are all well, and welcome to the newbies! I hope you all had a fabulous Easter weekend!

Glad things are looking up with OH's contract - let's hope you're both in a more settled position sooner rather than later!

And as for being AWOL because you don't want to bring the thread down - that's what the thread is here for! As a sounding board for everything that is preventing us from TTC now!

AFM - it's CD1 and fertility friend is fascinating me. I told DH yesterday that AF was on her way so there's no point testing. He asked how I knew and I showed him my chart! :T Now craving chocolate though, which is a bad thing as it's weigh in day today! (Had a sneaky peek on the scales this morning though, so hopefully no damage done over easter)

euronorris

I know, I know. But I just don't have much to add sometimes. And other times, I have nothing to add. Feel like I am limbo right now, with everything (not just TTC), and I hate it. Not much I can do about that though.

AF showed up on Friday too. So I was in quite an awful mood that day, and couldn't wait to get home and have a glass of wine!

Well done with the continued weight loss also! Hope the weigh in goes well!

clearing_out_my_pockets

euronorris wrote: »

I know, I know. But I just don't have much to add sometimes. And other times, I have nothing to add.

That's how I feel on the TTC thread

walby1993

:wave: Welcome Toothfairy and Good Vibes

:wave:Hi COMP, sorry to tread on your toes . Hope all is going well for you now you have graduated and your not getting stressed by it all. Let us know when you get your BFP!

Euro, don't worry about not being positive, that is what the thread is for. Sometimes just sounding off can make you feel a whole lot better.

clearing_out_my_pockets

walby1993 wrote: »

:wave:Hi COMP, sorry to tread on your toes . Hope all is going well for you now you have graduated and your not getting stressed by it all. Let us know when you get your BFP!

No offence taken

I do still read this thread as I was here for so long! And as for the BFP announcement, I'll probably make it here first! I know a little while back there was a discussion about how long it 'typically' takes so I'd like to update you with 'real' data on how long it takes us.

So far we're pretty relaxed about it and definitely not stressing. As far as I see it, there's no point stressing after a month when so many people on these boards try for years

euronorris

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

That's how I feel on the TTC thread

It can be a little intimidating there sometimes. There is so much collective knowledge and experience. I also noticed there was a little upset there recently, but it seems it was dealt with nicely/well and all is OK now (I hope).

And Colli got her BFP! So happy for her!

Thanks Walby. I think part of the problem is that the same issue is always there for me. Sometimes there is only a small step forward, and then 1 or 2 backwards, so I just feel like I'm repeating the same stuff over and over again. Because, well, I am. And I get so frustrated with OH. He keeps saying that if they don't do this, or don't do that, then he's walking out blah blah blah. But it never happens. They never follow through, sweet talk him round, and then he's hanging on again...waiting. I just keep asking him now, how long is he going to play that game and keep backing down. He says he hasn't backed down. I point out what he said, and then he tries to convince me using the same reasons they gave him. Won't work. I don't believe a word they say. Heck, even if he got his contract, all signed and hunky dory, I'd still be waiting for them to try and get out of paying him x, y or z.

I want to unleash my fury on them!

I can't talk about my job situation publicly, which is so annoying. I could rant about that one for pages! :rotfl:Probably best that I can't then, saves everyone elses sanity! :rotfl:

Ahh, is it fun though COMP? Exciting? Or does it start like that, and then it calms down a bit cos you have to wait for your cycle and your body to do stuff. Does that even make sense? I know what I wanted to say, but it came out all wrong! :rotfl:

clearing_out_my_pockets

euronorris wrote: »

Ahh, is it fun though COMP? Exciting? Or does it start like that, and then it calms down a bit cos you have to wait for your cycle and your body to do stuff. Does that even make sense? I know what I wanted to say, but it came out all wrong! :rotfl:

The main fun I'm having (apart from the *ahem* "fun) is at DH's expense. Bless him he hasn't got a clue and at the weekend he asked how I know when I'm fertile (he knows I'm temping) so I told him everything. I think he thought it would happen first time, so he's more disappointed than I am today.

I'm not all that excited either - it's more frustrating I think because of the fact I've wanted this for so long. In my mind I've been TTC for ages, I need to keep reminding myself that actually I've not been!

euronorris

I can understand that! I think I will be the same when the time comes! lol

Oh bless your DH! It's good he wants to know though I've been drip feeding my OH info for a while now, so he's getting fairly knowledgeable. Was a bit upset over the weekend though, when he errr reached out for the melons, I slapped his hand away and snapped 'Do NOT touch them! They hurt like hell!' lol. I had 4 or 5 months with next to no tenderness, and then bam, last 2 months they've been really sore just before, and just after AF starts.

Are your cycles settling into a rhythm/pattern now do you think (soz, haven't looked at your chart recently)?

clearing_out_my_pockets

euronorris wrote: »

Are your cycles settling into a rhythm/pattern now do you think (soz, haven't looked at your chart recently)?

It's difficult to tell - I started temping before the implant came out so temps were fairly high (comparing it now, temps on the implant are consistant with my post OV temps). They were still raised for about a week aftter the implant came out, then they dropped until OV about a fortnight later.

So (fingers crossed) if you ignore the times when my body had fake hormones in, it looks like I should have a 30-day cycle.

I wouldn't bother looking at my previous cycles - I was fiddling with the settings last week (merging & splitting cycles because I wasn't sure what day to call CD1 last month) and I accidentally deleted three weeks worth of data. :rotfl:

Apologies to those of you on the thread that don't use FF, as that won't make a bit of sense to you!