Those who are waiting to TTC

zcrat41

Euronorris - thanks - that's exactly what I've had. Hopefully all will return to normal! Its great to to be able to share info like this on here. Wouldn't always want to tell friends this stuff and its great to hear other people's experiences!

euronorris

zcrat41 wrote: »

Euronorris - thanks - that's exactly what I've had. Hopefully all will return to normal! Its great to to be able to share info like this on here. Wouldn't always want to tell friends this stuff and its great to hear other people's experiences!

Just be aware that the first AF might be a bit of a shock to the system. I was so used to be able to know exactly when it would show and there was little to no pain. The first time after the pill, however, AF showed up on my way home one evening and the cramps were....ouch!

But you get used to it again and re-learn about taking supplies with you close to AF due date.

emsbet

euronorris wrote: »

I actually think he'd be better off in another job as they'd likely treat him a lot better, and he wouldn't have to continually push for mandatory things to be done!

Ahh, honey ((HUGS)). It's a process, and it will take time. Just let yourself feel what you feel. Don't let anyone else let you feel like there is a time limit to it.

I hope the sun is shining for you at least. If not, chocolate is the answer!

xx

It always amazes me how many companies there are out there who fail even to do the things that they are legal required to do! My best friend left her job recently after about four years and she told me she never even had a copy of her contract in that whole time!

I know it will take time but like my sig says, I'm not very good at being patient I just long to have my forever baby (like everyone here and on the TTC thread) but it seems like every time we think we are going to get there it gets snatched away. I'm starting to worry it's not meant to be.

xx

clearing_out_my_pockets

So this weekend has been a productive one TTC wise. No, not like that

Yesterday, on the spur of the moment, we decided to look around and see what we can do with our mortgage when our tracker 'expires' at the end of the year. Once our deal is up, we automatically move onto the standard mortgage rate of 3.99% variable, which is still a risk if the base rate goes up. Amazingly one of the rates we were offered was 3.99% fixed for two years so we've jumped onto that, which will save us £65 (ish) a month from our current rate.

At the moment we overpay the mortgage by £210 a month. As of this Friday, this money will go into a savings account so that we can 'save' for our mortgage payments for when I'm off on maternity leave. By next December (earliest I could possibly need it) we'd have enough to cover mortgage payments for 4 months. Then as soon as we fall pregnant, we'd stop our 'emergency' and 'holiday' savings and divert these into the same account. This would give us a further 3 months of mortgage payments, meaning we could afford for me to take at least 8 months off

clearing_out_my_pockets

emsbet wrote: »

I know it will take time but like my sig says, I'm not very good at being patient I just long to have my forever baby (like everyone here and on the TTC thread) but it seems like every time we think we are going to get there it gets snatched away. I'm starting to worry it's not meant to be.

xx

My SIL had two miscarriages last year and her forever baby was born in April.

emsbet

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

My SIL had two miscarriages last year and her forever baby was born in April.

That's nice I hope we are as lucky and I know that the odds are in our favour I'm just not in an optimistic place right now but I'll get there.

xx

euronorris

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

My SIL had two miscarriages last year and her forever baby was born in April.

And my Mum had 3 in total, but still went on to have 5 of us!

clearing_out_my_pockets

emsbet wrote: »

That's nice I hope we are as lucky and I know that the odds are in our favour I'm just not in an optimistic place right now but I'll get there.

xx

She'd kill me if she knew I was saying this, but strictly speaking the odds shouldn't have been in her favour. She's not the smallest of girls by a long way. She also has endometriosis.

bigzippy

emsbet wrote: »

((hugs)) euro. Your OH's work sound like right d*cks! I hope things work out for you soon.

xx

what she said

fannyanna wrote: »

Size 16 stuff eh. Check you out. You’re going to be Miss Skinny in no time .

I’m pleased you’ve come to a conclusion about your next steps. It must be both quite exciting but also nerve racking to think about getting fertility help. I’m quite excited for you though .

It is REALLY scary an idea, but I looked up adoption process and that was even scarier tbh there was only something like 7 babies under 12 months adopted in 2010... And they don't separate the stranger stats from the stats that relate to, say, a step dad adopting his partner's child etc either. The younger the child you want, the more of a process it is to prove you're worthy/capable too, and with my health I just don't think they'd approve us. And even if they did, it literally takes years to get a baby.

Sorry, went off on a depressing tangent there

I just hope I am one of those that gets the bfp just in the nick of time before the fertility people start weighing in...:cool:

emsbet wrote:

I know it will take time but like my sig says, I'm not very good at being patient I just long to have my forever baby (like everyone here and on the TTC thread) but it seems like every time we think we are going to get there it gets snatched away. I'm starting to worry it's not meant to be.

xx

I'm not comparing my ttc experience to your mc's, but I know that feeling...hence looking at adoption process Chin up chickadee, I know your next bfp will be your stickiest ever bean

Kalama

Blurgh.......alarm went off at 5 this morning as hubby was being picked up for his flight. Been at work for an hour now and still having trouble clearing the marshmallow from my head. So pleased I'm only working till 2pm today.

Another grenade attack last night in the city - that's two in 24 hours. No explanation yet but it is inevitably linked to the fact the Kenyan military invaded Somali last week. I'm won't be going far from home over the next few days!

Me and OH occasionally talk about adoption. We would like our own but also quite like the idea of adopting. Close friends of ours are going through their second adoption and we have been privileged to have them share their adoption journeys with us - it has been inspiring, moving and incredibly joyful.

emsbet - one of my friends went through two mc before having her beautiful boy. It's completely understandable that you are not in an optimistic place right now but the rest of us are sending so many positive vibes your way xxx