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clearing_out_my_pockets

Fortunately the wedding is later in the day, so I could have the baby in the morning and still make it to the reception :rotfl:

My brother was so worried about telling me their wedding date - he thought I'd be annoyed. Many would be, after all they've chosen:

- A date two days before our wedding anniversary
- The same venue
- The same colour scheme
- They want the same table centrepieces
- They want the same cake supplier
- They're using the same suit for the pageboy

But me? I'm just happy that they're getting married - in fact, I'm a bit flattered that they liked our ideas so much!

clearing_out_my_pockets

euronorris wrote: »

Congrats for your brother COMP!

I have to stop myself thinking about 'what if's' and 'when' sometimes cos it gets me down

I have days like that a lot of the time

Magicboo

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

But me? I'm just happy that they're getting married - in fact, I'm a bit flattered that they liked our ideas so much!

That's the way to do it! Well done for not being a bridezilla!
I have 3 weddings coming up who have all asked if they can borrow the bunting we bought for our wedding and I'm so chuffed that someone liked our idea that much! 2 of them didn't even come to our wedding but have seen the pictures and loved the bunting so much they've asked for it!

euronorris

Doesn't help that I had a little tiff with the OH this morning.

I know he's upset about some stuff, but he won't talk about it. Instead, I just got an earful from him this morning for mis-hearing what he said. So I told him I was off to work then, have a good day and he says 'Oh it's like that.'. Yes, you're being rude, so I'm leaving for work instead of listening to that.

I do want to support him, and help him, but I am not willing to let him take his anger and frustration out on me.

Birdie85

I get that attitude from my OH, he's incapable of recognising when he's in a bad mood so it must always be me who's caused it. Makes me insanely angry, when he's really bad I find myself questioning what the heck I'm doing with him. Then of course the air clears and I realise that he's lovely really. He was a nightmare over the weekend though, it was a parade day in town so we were planning on watching it when it started at 2. It was my fault that we didn't have anything to do between 12 and 2, it was my fault that the parade started early so we missed part of it and it took ages to get round to our back up spot so we were just hanging around for 40 minutes, it was my fault that he got cross at the parade marshall lady who pushed him off the road as he was blocking the path of a bus trying to get through (apparently I should have backed him up, and say what? 'Yes darling, you're right to stand in the middle of the road complaining about all the people in your way' Baring in mind that I'm on the Autistic Spectrum and hate crowds of people and was getting pushed all over and trying to not have a panic attack at the time and he wasn't helping, but no, it's all about him!). Then he was too hot, then he was annoyed because the parade wasn't even that good, then he was hungry, then we was bored because we had no more plans for the day and couldn't go out in the car as our road was shut due to the parade going past our house... urgh it just went on and on! On Sunday he was in a horrid mood because he'd had too much sun on Saturday and didn't feel well! I have never met anyone with such bad mood swings and such a terrible inability to deal with them! If I dare say anything about it I'm the bad guy and he gives me a massive guilt trip! Grrr, I feel like sending him back to his mother sometimes telling her that she broke him by spoiling her 'baby', I'll have him back when he's fixed!

COMP, you do well for taking all of that in your stride! I don't think I'd get really annoyed as it is flattering, but I do get a bit upset when someone 'copies' me because I think about all the hours I spent putting things together, and they're saving themselves the legwork by just borrowing the finished product!

euronorris

Yeah, which is exactly why I didn't want to stick around, because if I pointed out that he was being unreasonable and was actually upset about something else, I'd get an earful about being wrong about that too.

Sometimes it's best to just walk away, whilst letting him know why. He doesn't like it, but it gives me time to cool off and he gets the message.

I just called to say I'd transferred some money for the flights we booked. He was all 'mmm, hi' to begin with (I think he was expecting me to bring it up again), and then seemed to cheer right up when I told him the money was transferred (and he probably realised I wasn't going to dwell on this morning).

Glad it's not just me.

clearing_out_my_pockets

The wedding thing - I really don't mind! DH & I paid someone to do our centrepieces - they want to do a cheap DIY version. Venue - they have the same one, but they're only having the evening buffet so they only have to feed people once. They've got a really tight budget so they're looking to DIY a lot of it and it'll be ten times more work for them than ours was for us. I'm just looking forward to being able to help out!

DH and I are keeping our distance from each other at the moment - he's told me he's going to be under a lot of pressure at work and he actually said that he realises that he takes things out on me when he's stressed. So evenings in our house are 'interesting' at the moment. DH disappears upstairs on his playstation and I'm downstairs either on my playstation or reading a book....

pinkpuppy

Hello everyone

Would you believe it, just as I am days away from coming off the pill, I am starting to wonder whether my OH is really the one for me...

We've been together nearly 3 years and I love him to bits. The problem is I don't trust him 100%. He has never cheated on me and I'm 99.9% sure he wouldn't. The issue is he has a lot of female friends and a couple in particular that he talks to a lot I have never met.

I'm pretty sure he's been talking to one of them about me recently and not all of it was complementary. I know everyone blows off steam to their friends about their other halves, God knows his ears would be burning if he heard what I said about him sometimes. I just don't like the idea that some woman who has never met me knows more about what he is feeling about our relationship than I do.

He says if there was anything significant to discuss then he would talk about it with me but I'm still feeling rubbish about it. Not the best timing in the world either.

Oh well...

PP x

euronorris

((HUGS)) PP, it is difficult isn't it.

I know I've been considering the pros and cons in our relationship since the idea of babymaking has become more real and discussed more in depth. I think it's only natural to want to make sure that you are choosing the right person to do this with.

How come you haven't met this other girl? Why don't you ask OH if you can all go out for drinks one night, as it will help to put your mind at rest.

I know it can be a bit difficult when your OH has close female friends, but knowing those women certainly helps. It did for OH and I anway, although I am not sure he was too pleased when she and I became closer than he was with her. lol. Suddenly, she wasn't this great person anymore, can't keep secrets etc etc. hahaha.

Magicboo

oohh PP, that's not a good atmosphere or emotional state to start trying for a bubs.
Could you talk to him about how you feel? Is there any good reason you've never met these female friends? Could you meet them to put your mind at rest? I'm not sure I would be happy if DH had friends that I didn't know, male or female-I'd want to know why I couldn't meet them!
big hugs xx