i can't stop spending

lemmings1986

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Have a hug. Had a m/c myself so know how awful they are. Aside from wanting a family what makes you happy? What do you enjoy doing? I eat when I am bored (I loathe shopping, food or clothes ) and what I need to focus on is doing non food related things to deal with my boredom. Or in fact just accept that I AM bored. It will pass, most feelings do.
I am not sure what counselling is available for you but would it be worth considering it, especially if you're finding it a strain on your relationship?

snap i eat when im bored obviously not enough or my cupboards wouldnt be full lol, it is a strain sometimes but we are very close even though we dont see each other that much im sure it will sort itself out, thank you for your posts they are really encouraging some of them anyway even if my spelling is c**p lucylucky
will take it one credit card at a time once again thanks

oldtractor

Welcome to the board and well done in taking the step and asking for help. The envelope system is a good one. Why not go and make a list of the food thats in 1 of your cupbaords? then see if you can live for a week just on that and whats in the fridge and freezer. bet you can! give yourself a gold star if you achieve it. is it just food you over pend on or other things too,like clothes and presents?

lemmings1986

oldtractor wrote: »

Welcome to the board and well done in taking the step and asking for help. The envelope system is a good one. Why not go and make a list of the food thats in 1 of your cupbaords? then see if you can live for a week just on that and whats in the fridge and freezer. bet you can! give yourself a gold star if you achieve it. is it just food you over pend on or other things too,like clothes and presents?

no just food really i think its because i work in a supermarket and dnt have time to go into town plus its about 30 miles away and the only thing here is a couple of pubs and food shops i have read a few threads on here and found it really encouraging and have read some great ideas am definatly feeling more possitive and am going to try for my first non spend day tommorow will keep writting on here and see how it goes

eleanor73

lemmings1986 wrote: »

snap i eat when im bored obviously not enough or my cupboards wouldnt be full lol, it is a strain sometimes but we are very close even though we dont see each other that much im sure it will sort itself out, thank you for your posts they are really encouraging some of them anyway even if my spelling is c**p lucylucky
will take it one credit card at a time once again thanks

Well done on asking for help and lots of the above is great advice. Challenge yourself to some no spend days and you will hopefully get more of a buzz when you achieve it than you do when you buy things. Ignore the spelling comment. Good luck x

oldtractor

Right then,heres a stratagy which might be useful. Go to the kitchen and have a look in fridge,cupboards and freezer. Can you put together a meal for tomorrow, or even better all tomorrows meals? eg cereal and milk, tinned spagetti on toast, an fruit salad, boiled potatoes peas and meat?

oldtractor

I agree about the NSdays,it does give a good sense of achievement.

lemmings1986

oldtractor wrote: »

Right then,heres a stratagy which might be useful. Go to the kitchen and have a look in fridge,cupboards and freezer. Can you put together a meal for tomorrow, or even better all tomorrows meals? eg cereal and milk, tinned spagetti on toast, an fruit salad, boiled potatoes peas and meat?

yes i have just found some things on another thread about that will do it when oh gets home at 10 hes normally quite helpful thanks

lemmings1986

oldtractor wrote: »

I agree about the NSdays,it does give a good sense of achievement.

yes have read about that on another thread will do that wen oh gets home at ten hes normally helpful thanks again

Derivative

You need to get out of the mindset that it is "luck" or that you "can't" do things.
Set yourself goals, keep your will, and do them. It is all down to you - other people aren't lucky or special, there is no amazing plan, you just must have the will.

If you make yourself sandwiches for work and do not buy on the move, you WILL save money.
And if you look at a 'ready made' sandwich and balk at the price, you are starting to get into the right mindset.

I often buy full loaves of bread and a pack of meat and make myself a sandwich, still comes out cheaper and I can give the food to local homeless or save for later if I have room to carry it etc.

It will carry you well in life, not just in this pursuit but anything that life throws at you. You are the the most important person in your life, and you have the power to change almost anything about it.

eleanor73

EdgEy wrote: »

If you make yourself sandwiches for work and do not buy on the move, you WILL save money.
And if you look at a 'ready made' sandwich and balk at the price, you are starting to get into the right mindset.

I often buy full loaves of bread and a pack of meat and make myself a sandwich, still comes out cheaper and I can give the food to local homeless or save for later if I have room to carry it etc.

100% agree-at first you may find your homemade sandwiches different because they will not be full of salt and rubbish but you will learn to love your home made fare! I used to buy lunch everyday and spend a fortune. Now I never buy lunch and last time I forgot my lunch I bought a 40p tin of soup and a roll for 17p!! 3 years ago I would have gone to pret and spent £8. Soon you will change your mindset and it starts to fall into place!!
Surely once you've done your storecupboard challenge for a couple of weeks you will be in a good place to get bargains - your work? Can you get yellow labels/whoopsies and freeze?