daughters bedroom

toejumper

my dd who is 10 is exactly the same, you cant even see the carpet, when you walk into her room your standing on cd/dvd cases, clothes all over the place, what really bugs me though is she has a linen bin for dirty clothes and they just get dropped on the floor next to it and not in it :mad: I usually give it a good clear out every half term but this time im adamant im not going to do it this time, if shes happy to have her room full of crap then so be it.

Mojisola

toejumper wrote: »

my dd who is 10 is exactly the same, you cant even see the carpet, when you walk into her room your standing on cd/dvd cases, clothes all over the place, what really bugs me though is she has a linen bin for dirty clothes and they just get dropped on the floor next to it and not in it :mad: I usually give it a good clear out every half term but this time im adamant im not going to do it this time, if shes happy to have her room full of crap then so be it.

I hope you leave them there! If clothes aren't put in the linen bin, they don't get washed. When she runs out of clean clothes, spend a few hours with her while she collects everything up, puts it all through the washing machine, hangs it out to dry and puts it all away clean.

aliasojo

Mojisola wrote: »

That's not true. Both mine have always been tidy and have done their own cleaning since their early teens.

Have to say I agree. My daughter (11) is a nightmare, her room is a pigsty and she seems completely unconcerned.

Her 2 elder brothers on the other hand were always tidy, one especially.

KxMx

I was always given responsibility for cleaning my own room; if it was a mess I was the one who had to live in it.

If I ran out of clean clothes I suffered the consequences and didn't do it again!

I was always taught to be self sufficient and at primary school age made my own packed lunches (supervised of course). And one toy out meant one toy back in the box.

Unlike my cousin who at 14 still let mummy do it!

Spendless

pulliptears- I like that net for the teddies. Where did you get it?

I have 1 son and 1 daughter and can't say that one is tidier than the other. All that is making my son seem more tidy now is what shellsuit said, he plays less with toys so it's not as bad as it used to be, he also has the bigger bedroom so it doesn't look as messy either. My daughter is far more willing to tidy her place up, without whinging about it than her brother is.

balletshoes

Spendless wrote: »

pulliptears- I like that net for the teddies. Where did you get it?

my niece and nephew have them - they're called toy hammocks, I think you'd get them on amazon or ebay.

BitterAndTwisted

OP, your daughter is only eight years old! She will never learn to keep her room clean and tidy if you don't teach her properly. Once she's old enough to be completely responsible for her own muck, I'd say from about twelve or so, then she can live in a pig-sty if she wants. Until then you have a small window of opportunity to teach her good habits. I'd suggest tidying up every day before bedtime. If she grows into a slattern then you've done your duty as a parent and she can learn the hard way after that if she needs to.

Moominmamma

Lol OP, my DD is 8 too and I swear I could have written your post word for word, right down to the catfood :rotfl:

pulliptears

Spendless wrote: »

pulliptears- I like that net for the teddies. Where did you get it?

I have 1 son and 1 daughter and can't say that one is tidier than the other. All that is making my son seem more tidy now is what shellsuit said, he plays less with toys so it's not as bad as it used to be, he also has the bigger bedroom so it doesn't look as messy either. My daughter is far more willing to tidy her place up, without whinging about it than her brother is.

balletshoes wrote: »

my niece and nephew have them - they're called toy hammocks, I think you'd get them on amazon or ebay.

Yep it was ebay, I think it was about £4 delivered and probably my best purchase. She collects Tatty Ted and has around 100 of the cuddly bears alone. That net is holding about 80 of the bears, and is actually halved. Full size it wouldn't fit because of the window so we had to halve it to fit. It's probably made the biggest difference as they are all tidy now!

kerri_gt

I don't have children but I was never allowed to take food up to my room when I lived at home. Even when I was a teenager, I was allowed to take a drink (usually one of the copious cups of tea I would drink) but I had to bring my mug down.

My room was a bit small to become a real pigsty, however, I have heard that the threat of a parent going in to clean the room and deciding what is/isn't rubbish etc is often a good incentive - so long as it's followed through. Going in and removing a few prized poessions can work quite well - with the argument 'well it can't be that important if you can be bothered to look after it' I'd be tempted to remove everything except for the bare minimum from the room - store it elsewhere (garage, loft, shed etc) and only give small amounts back until she/he can keep a room in a respectable state.

That's not to say the room has to be spotless, but the floor should be clear at least.