daughters bedroom

snookey

Hi dont worry about the youtube bit my daughters idea of dressing up is like a scarecrow with lots of layers. My partner monitors everything she does as everything goes through his computer first. The film only goes to youtube when he has seen it.
As for food well I have told her not to take food into her bedroom but kids are sneaky and thats why the evidence is hidden under the bed. What was going through her head with the dried cat food only our four cats can vouch for that and their not spilling the beans, lol.
Im glad Im not the only person with a Stig on here.

FBaby

yep, I've got two like that too, although DD11 is worse than DS8. It beggars belief. She is a very clever girl, top of her class, incredibly organised at school, her work is tidy and neat, her teachers tell me she is always helping tidying in class and really good at it and were shocked to hear about the state of her bedroom. No matter what I do, it ends up with stuff all over the place, dirty clothes under the bed, pieces of scap paper all over the floor, bin over flawing, magazines everywhere... she is a horder and will keep the most pathetic things...

I try hard to get her to clear up and as she is a well behaved girl, she will get on with it, but it is to no avail, she just can't go pass the basic of pushing things around. I can't get too cross as unfortunately, i was just the same as a kid. What amazed me was to learn only a few years ago that my tidy and organised mum was also just the same as a kid (I am now tidy myself!). It clearly runs in the family, so hard to change what's in our genes! My worry is that we have just moved with my new partner who is on the extreme scale of tidingness, and I imagined he would find it very hard as untidiness is a serious source of anxiety for him, but thankfully everyone has adjusted well. He totally fails to understand how she can feel satisfied in her mess and why she can't learn to put things back as soon as she uses it as he has always been a very tidy person (as his mum!), but he is ok as long as it stays in her bedroom and when he does decide it is time for something to be done, he speaks to her kindly and patiently, so she doesn't react defensively.

I really really wish I had tidy kids, but they are absolutely perfect in every other way, so concentrate on counting my blessing rather than focussing on what I am unlikely to change in the short term!

no_pennies

shes eight i wouldnt expect an eight year old to keep a room clean !! maybe thats just me ,i do agree she should try to tidy up but there is a difference between clean and being tidy and its your job to show her the way

Mojisola

no_pennies wrote: »

shes eight i wouldnt expect an eight year old to keep a room clean !! maybe thats just me ,i do agree she should try to tidy up but there is a difference between clean and being tidy and its your job to show her the way

I'm with you on this. At this age, I would still be teaching the child how to behave and living in this kind of mess would be unacceptable.

What would upset me about it is the lack of respect shown regarding the possessions. Someone has worked and earned money in order to buy everything in her room. If she thinks so little of the clothes and other stuff that they can be left scattered around the room in such a mess, I would think she needed to learn the value of them all.

If working with her to get her room tidy didn't improve things, I would take everything that was left lying around out of her room. She would only get them back bit by bit as she showed she could look after them properly.

pulliptears

Ohh OP I feel your pain, I posted the following photos on here last year to shame her...didn't work lol. What did work though was removing her precious laptop to the dining room table and refusing to let her have it back in her room until it had been tidy for a month straight. She's 13 so having to sit downstairs with us watching her did not go down well hehe.

Some before and after pics for you...



Same room, same corner today:



Some other before pics:



Dumping ground behind the door. Food and general crap.



under her desk. The plugs were dangerous and that pink and black thing is a Nintendo DS.

She is still messy don't get me wrong, but the thought of having to spend months in the dining room tend to keep her on her toes

sparrer

The only thing I can say is it gets worse before it gets better . My 'children' are DD 38 and DS 29 with children of their own and they're just beginning realise what I went through as the mother of young 'uns. If it's any consolation girls usually tidy up by the time they're 18, boys - never! Congrats on having a girl

pulliptears

sparrer wrote: »

The only thing I can say is it gets worse before it gets better . My 'children' are DD 38 and DS 29 with children of their own and they're just beginning realise what I went through as the mother of young 'uns. If it's any consolation girls usually tidy up by the time they're 18, boys - never! Congrats on having a girl

Really? My DS (Now 18) has been spotlessly tidy since he was a toddler. He cleans his own room, hoovers and polishes etc. Never had a problem with him whatsoever, its DD thats the messy one and my OH's mum, who also had one of each reckons her daughter was much untidier than my OH.

shellsuit

My kids used to be messy sods, but that was when they were younger and had toys.

Now they're teenagers and don't have toys, their rooms are always nice and tidy.

The worst they do is leave plates and glasses in their rooms for a couple of days. I don't mind them eating a drinking up there, so long as they bring the bloody dishes back down!

Their washing goes in a basket on the top of the stairs and either me or them will hoover their bedrooms weekly.

Mojisola

sparrer wrote: »

The only thing I can say is it gets worse before it gets better . My 'children' are DD 38 and DS 29 with children of their own and they're just beginning realise what I went through as the mother of young 'uns. If it's any consolation girls usually tidy up by the time they're 18, boys - never! Congrats on having a girl

That's not true. Both mine have always been tidy and have done their own cleaning since their early teens.

LoopyLil_2

My daughters are just the same, DD1 is much worse than DD2. DD1 leaves clothes, books, hairdryer etc on the floor along with plates & cups. I often tell her if she ever had to get out in a hurry in the middle of the night she would break her neck before she got to the door! I just tell my kids that if they don't tidy their rooms I will go in with a brush and shovel and tidy up for them (everything left out would be in a black bin liner and in the outside bin!) and it works!

DD2, when she was little, I told her if she didn't tidy her toys away off the floor they would go for a flying lesson out of the window, she looked at me and said 'no they wont.' Buzz Lightyear was the first to have a flying lesson onto the lawn below! After she saw that there were no more flying lessons for any of her other toys