There is light at the end of the tunnel

mummytogirls

Hi Gap, im really glad you and Mr G are getting on so well.

Boooo to the £41 rise in council tax :mad:, but yay to him paying every Friday!

Hope youve had a good day xx

girlatplay

:jYay to being 3lb away from target weight Itsa. It is odd weather here too. Raining today but still not cold. I don't like the cold. Cold makes me want to sleep (curl up in a ball under the duvet to protect myself). It is a bit muggy though and could do with clearing up.

Thanks mummy

£1.30 to PAD today. 40p for sealed pot.

I have to have a rant. Step-Little Miss is quite badly behaved :mad: She is much better than she used to be but she is still disobedient and so very, very cheeky. I got so annoyed yesterday that I told Mr G exactly what I thought of her behaviour and it did cause a bit of an arguement. He doesn't discipline her at all. He once admitted to me that because he only has her a couple of times a week he doesn't want to be cross with her when he does have her. Another problem is that Mr G didn't feel loved when he was a child and wants to show his children all the love in the world so that they grow up knowing they are loved. I told him there is a big difference between love and discipline and you can discipline your children at the same time as loving them. She twists him round her little finger and gets what she wants all the time. When people (not just me) point out that that is what is happening he denies it and says she doesn't (she sooooo does!!) We have discussed her behaviour before and I know he tries harder now but he thinks that shouting at her is enough. I told him that shouting is obviously not working since she is still just as badly behaved. I told him he should use a different method of discipline. If we are out and she is misbehaving he threatens to stop and take her home but he never carries it through. Another point is that one time she got into trouble at after school club because she was kicking and punching one of the staff (a man). Mr G said that she couldn't possibly have done that as she is not like that and wouldn't do it. How on earth can I explain to him that about three nights before that she was kicking and punching him and he didn't do anything about it. She therefore thinks it is totally acceptable to do that. That is not actually her fault if no one has told her it is wrong. ALSO (sorry, am on a roll now) he says he gives her a row when no one else is around and sometimes he doesn't want to embarrass her infront of others. I told him that is not good enough as she needs to be disciplined there and then at the time of the incident and if she is embarrassed then she will know not to do it again. Waiting until about 5 hours later to give her a row for something is pretty pointless. She is cheeky to him too. He doesn't even seem to notice.

ARGH!!!! Sorry for the rant. Just had to get that out of my system. Am I being unreasonable? LM is no angel but if she misbehaves it is dealt with there and then, nipped in the bud and that is it. Sometimes it can go on a bit longer but she gets a punishment and she knows she has done wrong. Her behaviour, whilst not perfect, is much better than SLM's.

I feel quite exhausted now. Glad I got that out though.

Gap x
It is just so frustrating.

Itsadogslife_2

We must be having the same day! Just updated my diary with a post about Little Itsa's behaviour

The one problem we have is that OH has no patience and deals with her the only way he knows how which is to shout. Sometimes I think it is over stupid things that don't deserve shouting, but need explaining. And it just doesnt seem to do any good as she still does things. I think it's like she has kind of become immune to the shouting. Me and Itsa dog sit in the corner with the "here we go again face" - but the biggest problem is that Mr Itsa is very stubborn and set in his ways and she is him all over. I dread to think what it will be like when she is a stroppy teenager He has been better lately though after a good talking too

girlatplay

I saw your post Itsa. It sounds to me like Little Itsa is a normal child like Little Miss. Yes they can be annoying and misbehaved but believe me, I have never met a child as badly behaved and rude/cheeky as SLM. I remember when I first met her. Mr G said you have to treat her with kid gloves. I told him there and then that she should be treated the same as all other kids. If you treat her different she will act different :mad::mad::mad: He still treats her different. She is immune to the shouting too. She knows he will shout but then it is all over, no other punishment so nothing for her to worry about. It just really makes me mad, especially when she won't do as she is told for me (in a car park I asked her to stay beside me and LM because Mr G was going to move the car and there were two other cars there - tiny car park. She heard what I said but chose to ignore me and went towards the car. Mr G went mental and shouted at her). I told him I can't keep her safe if she doesn't do as she is told. I am not one of her parents so I don't feel I am in a position to discipline her but I expect her to do as she is told especially when it is a dangerous situation like that. She is just so disobedient.

I'm getting madder and madder. I need to calm down now. Nearly lunchtime so I am going to treat myself to a Subway. Yum!!

girlatplay

Feeling a lot more calm today. The weather outside is lovely. I have to take a trip up town at lunchtime to return trousers for LM and a top for Mr G so at least I will get out of the office.

£1.30 to PAD today. I also have another 3 £2 coins in the other pot which I will PAD at the end of the month.

More clearing tonight. LM is going dancing with Gap-Parents and Mr G is working so I have the house to myself for a few hours. I really want to be lazy and veg infront of the tv but I'm telling myself that one day I will be able to do that once everything is done. I am shredding old documents at the moment and the shredder is only taking one sheet at a time :mad: The pile was about 20cm high last night. Now it is about 7cm high so will finish that tonight. Takes ages!

Happy Friday everyone, have a lovely weekend.

Gap x

mummytogirls

Hope youve enjoyed the time to yourself Gap! Did you finish the shredding?! xx

girlatplay

That's me just in the door 20 minutes ago mummy. Just about to start the shredding. Called LM (at her grandparents for tea before they go out) and just put in my meter readings (hence why I am on the computer ). Oh, I have also moved a chest of drawers through to the bedroom from its temporary home in the livingroom! So not done nothing in 20 mins!!

RIGHT! Getting off here now before I end up on all night!!!

Gap x

Itsadogslife_2

I have to shred all the confidential paperwork at work and there is lots. We have a shredder but it only likes 2/3 pages at a time, although it does do it relatively quickly. I find it quite therapeutic

I agree about Little Itsa. I watch other people's kids and I actually think she is an angel

Did you enjoy your subway? :cool:

girlatplay

We have a really good shredder at work, takes about 20 pages at a time. I am allowed to use it for personal stuff but honestly, there was so much it was too much hassle to cart it all the way there. I got it all done but it took almost 4 hours in total to do the whole lot

I LOVED the Subway


£4.50 to PAD for yesterday and today. Odd change for sealed pot. £2 coin into the other pot.

Enjoy the rest of the weekend everyone.

Gap x

mummytogirls

Hi Gap, yay to getting all the shredding done and also the £4.50 PAD yesterday :beer:. Keep it up xx