Partner's friend damaged my car...

achtunglady

better still, film it and post the results on youtube

Ezmondino

Most interesting thread I've read in ages.
Hope it gets sorted OK in the end.
The "friend" sounds like a "friend" not worth having I'm afraid.

globetraveller

:rotfl:

achtunglady wrote: »

better still, film it and post the results on youtube

or threaten to put the cctv footage on it:rotfl:
Seriously, if you aren't caring about the money, I'd leave it to your OH. That way, the decision she makes about her friendship will be hers and easier for her to make.
What an interesting thread- for us, if not you:)

Tropez

globetraveller wrote: »

:rotfl:
or threaten to put the cctv footage on it:rotfl:
Seriously, if you aren't caring about the money, I'd leave it to your OH. That way, the decision she makes about her friendship will be hers and easier for her to make.
What an interesting thread- for us, if not you:)

That is mostly how I see it. Regardless of my personal feelings towards the friend prior to this whole debacle, I would never presume to try and break up my partner's friendship and even now I feel it is solely up to her to make up her own mind. While she was fuming over last night's phone call, I was insistent to myself that I wouldn't say anything that could further add fuel to the fire, and so just let her vent.

Of course, it is hard for me, knowing how much this so-called friend has upset my partner by lying to her, not to want to react a little but that is because I'm protective of my partner's feelings.

somethingsgottogive

Loving this thread - Tropez, you're truly awesome, couldn't have handled it better if you'd tried!

barbiedoll

Skint or not, this "friend" gives poor people a bad name. I'm skint, my best friend is married to a rather well-off guy. When I stayed with her a few years ago, I managed to break the wall bracket holding up her expensive looking shower head. I was mortified and offered to pay for a replacement immediately, despite knowing that it would take me well over my overdraft limit. She wouldn't hear of it, as she said "it's not like we can't afford it" but that wasn't the point. Her husband was very kind and insisted that it really wasn't a big deal but even so, I bought them a bottle of champagne as compensation. (Cheap champagne, but it's the thought that counts! )

Using the fact that you earn a good wage is no excuse for her to lie about the damage she caused. She must know you well enough by now to know that you wouldn't "kick off". She's just a shyster who doesn't want to pay. She probably begrudges using her drinking money to pay you for the repair, yet I bet she will be happy enough to accept a lift from you when she's falling over in the street. :mad:

Tropez

My apologies for bumping this up but I thought anyone who might be interested would like the conclusion of this fiasco.

My partner's determination that her friend pay for part of the cost of my car repairs seemingly paid off, as she did come to an agreement that her friend would pay a small amount each week until they reached a suitable figure - not even a third of the cost of repairing my vehicle but we both knew this friend wasn't going to be able to pay much and as I'd already mentioned, I was only ever annoyed about the porkies coming from the friend.

Anyway, they did that and all seemed fine... a little distrust perhaps but they buried the hatchet, or so I thought.

My partner has been after a new car herself for a while as hers was quite old, was bought second hand, constantly needing a service etc. and a couple of weeks ago she bought herself a brand new car from a local dealership.

Today my partner, her friend, and a couple of other friends went out for the afternoon and of course my partner drove her new car. According to my partner, who only recently got home and is now having a bath to unwind, after several digs from her car-damaging pal, my partner asked her what her problem was, causing this friend to launch into some tirade about how she had been paying for my partner's new car, and how my partner has been lauding about her "new found wealth" ever since she has been with me (yeah, like I'm Richard Branson or something...) and a bunch of other nonsense that I can only assume is down to some primitive jealousy that my partner is doing the best for herself and this friend isn't.

What a prat... Suffice to say, their friendship is over and it also seems the car damaging now-ex pal also managed to alienate herself from the other friends that were with them due to her silly outburst.

ambercam

I've only just read this thread for the first time, but glad you got it all sorted OP. Your partner's ex friend sounds like a nasty piece of work who she will be better off without. I know from past experience that telling someone you've hit their car can be nerve wracking, but it shouldn't stop you from telling them.

Your thread reminded me of the time a friend had invited me round for dinner and upon reversing onto their drive I heard an almighty bang and realised I had hit their car - which was their pride and joy. I didn't even dare look at the damage I'd caused, I went straight up to their flat and said "I've just crashed into your car". My friend just started laughing, thinking I was winding them up - their love for the car was a constant source of amusement amongst our group of friends, it took me a few minutes to convince my friend that I wasn't joking. Off we went downstairs to inspect the damage - well my friend did the inspecting, I was still too scared to look! I've never been so relieved to hear the words "you haven't crashed into it, you only knocked the wing mirror". After that my friend always came down and made me get out at the end of their drive so they could park my car for me lol.

globetraveller

Thanks for the follow up. Your OH will be so upset just now- but at least her "friend" has made it easier for her with her appalling behaviour.

kiddy_guy

Tropez - now you're not going to risk your Partner and her ex friends relationship - how about a cheeky submission to the small claims court now for the car costs?