Can't control my jealousy & insecurity

suited-aces

Nearly 30 posts before it's all the man's fault.

Well done on showing more restraint than usual, ladies

balletshoes

suited-aces wrote: »

Nearly 30 posts before it's all the man's fault.

Well done on showing more restraint than usual, ladies

ta very much .

blue_monkey_2

LOL above.

Seriously though, I'd be saying yes you can go and look at the car but no, you will not under any circumstances be babysitting for her. End of!! Who care's what ructions it causes.

In fact, I'd be feigning a sickness bug that day - poke your fingers down your throat and make yourself sick, that'll get you out of it. Ha ha!!

I do have to say, my relationship with my sister is nothing, if she started asking my husband to look at cars and go for a drink there is no way he would be going. And I don't care if he thought I was controlling. He would not be getting back in the house if he went against my wishes as my sister is a sly bi tch and he knows what me feeling are about her.

OP. Facts are this - if he is going to go off with her he will, they will do it when you do not know so even if you stop this you will not stop that if that is what he really wants to do. Sorry. Do you KNOW your husband? Has he any interest in her? Because if not then you have nothing to worry about with this at all, you should let them go. If you feel that he is going to do it, then stopping them this time is not going to make no difference and they might start arranging stuff in secret to get back at you. You need to take a deep breath and let it go and let her make a fool of herself.

However, I would be making it VERY clear that your husband will not be going out socially when you are left at home with the children. And I would be sending her a message tonight that says as she clearly has social plans with YOUR husband and it has sod all to do with getting a car then she can find her own babysitter for the night. It's not going to be easy letting him go but you really must turn the other cheek and not let this eat you up otherwise it might go against you. Yes, it is going to be hard but you really have to try.

God, I wish I could give her a slap for you for making you feel like this. Anyone else want a go too??

balletshoes

suited-aces wrote: »

Nearly 30 posts before it's all the man's fault.

Well done on showing more restraint than usual, ladies

In all seriousness though suited-aces, although a sister should have loyalty to her sibling and not want to upset the balance of her sister's marriage with her behaviour, thats clearly not the case with OP's sister.
In this situation, with the party, the plan to go for a drink with her sister instead of going home to OP etc, OP's OH should absolutely show loyalty to his wife, and listen to, and take heed of, her feelings.

meritaten

hun - she is playing on your jealousy and insecurity because she is well aware of it! and HER insecurity knows no bounds! I would wave them off with a smile and when your OH comes in - ask him with a smile if he had to beat her off with a stick!
If you are rowing with your OH - then you are doing exactly what she wants you to do! and I bet your OH is just waiting to tell her what he thinks of her!

suited-aces

Tbf, if he wanted to go shag her, I'd suspect he'd be a lot more subtle and clandestine about it

January20

suited-aces wrote: »

Tbf, if he wanted to go shag her, I'd suspect he'd be a lot more subtle and clandestine about it

Are you a man suited-aces? If so, can you shed some light on why he would ignore his partners feelings and go ahead and help a woman he supposedly doesn't like very much, whilst planning to have a drink wiht her afterwards? Because I truly don't understand.
if you're not a guy I still want your opinion :rotfl:

suited-aces

Maybe trying to help mend bridges between sisters, or like my own dad, just too helpful for his own good. But rest assured OP, if he was going to sleep with her, it'd be a lot more discreet

January20

suited-aces wrote: »

Maybe trying to help mend bridges between sisters, or like my own dad, just too helpful for his own good. But rest assured OP, if he was going to sleep with her, it'd be a lot more discreet

Two sisters fighting? Better not get in the middle, even with the best intentions in the world! Guys can be so naive and innocent sometimes :rotfl:

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Has it occurred to you that most men are polite to her because they are absolutely terrified and have no idea how to deal with a fat old tart hauling her carcasse around like an alleycat on heat?

The vast majority are probably trying not to vomit when she shuffles her sagging, sweaty cleavage under their noses.

Your husband included.