Can't control my jealousy & insecurity

blue_monkey_2

I agree with everyton else. She sounds pathetic to be honest and she sounds VERY jealous of what you have.

She might even be trying to get what you have, however, you have to have faith in your husband.

You can stop him going wherever you want however it will have the opposite effect, he will feel trapped and then might get fed up and leave.

or you can let him go and show HIM that you trust HIM. You know that he would not be that stupid as to go near her but, imagine what would happen if she tried it on. He would no doubt tell you, you can tell your mum and dad and then how is that going to make her look?

She might have been daddy's girl when she was a kid, it is probably why she is acting like this because she wants everything her way, however, let her get on with making a fool of herself. And when she is flirting with your hubby next time... sidle up alongside him, ask if he wants a drink and kgive him a quick kiss, and then turn and give your sister a smug smile.

Your sister sounds like someone I know, she is poison and taints everything she touches and everyone she makes friends with. She is only lonely person as no-one wants to know her for more than 5 minutes and she has no friendships or relationships of value. Just ask yourself who has the better life, it certainly isn't her. She might have a nice toned figure and big boobs but she has little else and people see past that eventually, hence her lack of relationships and friendships. I know what I would rather have.

Trust your man, don't let her wreck your relationship phsycologically - it is what she wants.

blue_monkey_2

summerday wrote: »

Er, did I read this correct??! 15 and a half stone? And she thinks she has a toned body that everyone really needs to see in just her undies?! I was imagining a 20 year old size 10 girl!

Sorry, I genuinely mean no offfense to anyone overweight else and am myself overweight I'm just so surprised at this weight revelation.

LOL, I thought the same. Maybe she is 8ft and the tallest woman in the world....

Plans_all_plans

I'm usually a big advocate of family and don't really believe in fallouts among families, HOWEVER, if my sister was like yours and (seemingly) had no redeeming features, her feet wouldn't touch the minute she started coming onto my husband! Also, I'd have definitely thrown her out of my house with a few choice words having had her come downstairs in her underwear! What were your parents thinking letting her do that in front of their friends when she was growing up? My mum'd have battered me!

Also, have you actually heard any of these blokes say they fancy her? I don't believe it myself! At 15.5 stone, she'd need to be about 6 foot 1 to carry that off in any way shape or form!

RadoJo

I can kind of understand your husband feeling that he is torn - if he goes, then you'll feel let down, but if he doesn't, it's like admitting that he can't be trusted around her. Can I just ask why you didn't talk to HIM all night after your sister flirted with him? Perhaps he feels as though you assume he's the same as all the other people she's manipulated and wants to prove that he isn't.

justmel

If it were me i would want my husband to say no to her too,it isn't about controlling him it is about him knowing what she is like and having enough consideration and loyalty to put your feelings first,she would have been out of my life long ago too but blue_monkey has made some excellent points in that post.

Your sister is insecure to behave that way and she knows her actions upset you,she gets her satisfaction from causing upset in your marriage and if you show this it will fuel her even more so as much as it hurts i think you have to bite the bullet and act like her actions don't bother you in the slightest.

Do have faith in your husband and let her see that your marriage is happy and secure,it will show her that anything she says or does will not shake your marriage and hopefully she will give up trying,my guess is that there are more people laughing at her than there are drooling over her because she is such an attention seeker.

She ought to be pitied really,she is very obviously jealous because she would love to have what you have but is seemingly too shallow to achieve it,no relationship lasts based on looks or body alone.

sjc3

lookingforsun wrote: »

Thanks - funny thing is she is now 40 & 15 1/2 stone, so she doesn't look like she used to, but still flirts and makes me insecure

Toned at that age and that weight - I dont think so :rotfl::rotfl:

Not unless she wraps herself up like a freezer ready chicken in tight clingfilm.

Next time you speak to her could you find out where she buys her "hold it all in undies" please?

olibrofiz

Oh my, sounds like she's jealous of you and what you have & needs to be the centre of attention, how sad for her. And I don';t think you're stupid or selfish at all xxx

You need to be a bit more confident, after all, your OH chose you and not her. I wouldn't be too happy if my OH was going to help her look at a car, can you not maybe go with them?

elfen

Next time you see her, tell her being able to see her Spanx and the lay of her Wonderbra does not look attractive

lookingforsun

olibrofiz wrote: »

Oh my, sounds like she's jealous of you and what you have & needs to be the centre of attention, how sad for her. And I don';t think you're stupid or selfish at all xxx

You need to be a bit more confident, after all, your OH chose you and not her. I wouldn't be too happy if my OH was going to help her look at a car, can you not maybe go with them?

I can't go, as she is going to drop off her 10yr old son with me to look after (along with our baby).

The car belongs to a friend of hers, so she says they can go for a drink after - this is another reason I'm really p***ed off, I haven't been out for a drink with DH since DD was born.

She's also having a big party for her birthday (she always does) and DH wants to go. Now I NEVER go to these parties - long before I met DH. The times I did go I felt sidelined, and never enjoyed them, and am annoyed that she asked him (knowing I wouldn't even mention it to DH).

It's not about trusting DH, it's just not necessary. Dad usually goes with her to look at cars, or she gets one of dad's mechanic friends - so I don't know why she wants my DH - to be honest she should get her own man... it just doesn't sit right.

I also wanted to add that DH has gone with another woman to look at a car - she was an ex 'friends with benefits'. I didn't like it, but I kept my mouth shut, especially as he didn't tell me (he left his facebook open & I saw a load of messages from her asking for his help). Evenually he went round to her house to fix things, and told me about it... I did question him, he said he likes helping people. But this is different.

kazwookie

I would tell your sister to go and do one and get stuffed.

TBH you don't need her in your life from what you have said and you would get on a lot better with out her in it.

Good luck