DLA Fail

Brassedoff

pwales wrote: »

its her future !!!! sort it out properly get the diagnosis and if needed get it sorted, THEN after your kid is sorted out THEN chase the cash!!!!!!

Hear, hear. Priority should be make sure kid is OK, sort out treatment, then see IF there is any other help.

teabag29

pwales wrote: »

you may not need diagnosis for cash but dont you think for the health of yourre child she needs a diagnosis?

Obviously which is why i'm doing everything in my power to get her one but i cant make professionals work quicker than they are, she is not the only child with problems and these things take time and shouldnt be rushed. i'm sure they will need to see her over many months if not years before they give diagnosis so that it is accurate

pwales_2

teabag29 wrote: »

What do you mean where the priorities lie. my priorities lie with my dd and top priority right now is getting her safely to school without being ran over and i can only do that with the help of transport which i cant get unless shes on dla. There are many other things I would use ay dla i was awarded for which would ease life a little including respite care. Please dont presume I'm a money grabber or something just because ive made an application for something i may well be entitled to. Until you have had a day experiencing what i do everyday do not judge, you dont know me to make those judgements. My priority is and always will be my daughter.

Until you have had a day experiencing what i do everyday do not judge, you dont know me to make those judgements. My priority is and always will be my daughter
i have not walked in your shoes directly but i have ran miles in your daughters shoes, later i have seen the hurt i caused....i say again that I CAUSED. i was sorted by given a chose to make comform or care the chose was mine

teabag29

Brassedoff wrote: »

Not judging, how far away is School?

She can obviously walk without difficulty. Do you walk with her? Why does she behave like any other kid once in School?

School is 10-15 min walk away and but i have to drop my younger kids off at primary school first so thats another 10 mins. Yes i walk with her i have to which means leaving my younger 2 in their playground waiting for school bell for 20 mins which is ok on a sunny day but not good when its raining. She doesnt behave like other kids in school and im constantly getting calls from her teachers, also she gets taken the mick out of because she talks to herself and hears voices and things.

teabag29

pwales wrote: »

Until you have had a day experiencing what i do everyday do not judge, you dont know me to make those judgements. My priority is and always will be my daughter
i have not walked in your shoes directly but i have ran miles in your daughters shoes, later i have seen the hurt i caused....i say again that I CAUSED. i was sorted by given a chose to make comform or care the chose was mine

You havent walked anywhere in my dd's shoes. It seems that you were troublesome when you were younger and so you think every child that behaves badly must be like you were, that is not so. Did you suffer abuse as a child? did you hear voices that werent there? did you not understand danger by 12? did you talk to yourself and have a split personality? Was there alot of mental health in your immediate family?
not every child is the same and a child that behaves bad does not mean they should be branded as naughty children who need discipline.

jetta_wales

teabag29 wrote: »

School is 10-15 min walk away and but i have to drop my younger kids off at primary school first so thats another 10 mins. Yes i walk with her i have to which means leaving my younger 2 in their playground waiting for school bell for 20 mins which is ok on a sunny day but not good when its raining. She doesnt behave like other kids in school and im constantly getting calls from her teachers, also she gets taken the mick out of because she talks to herself and hears voices and things.

Most junior schools have breakfast clubs now which could be an option and solution to the timing issue of your school runs.

jetta_wales

Sorry but if there's "a lot of mental health issues in the family" I'd adopt or use donor egg or spem instead of that from the side of the family with lots of mental health problems, just something else I really don't get tbh.

pwales_2

teabag29 wrote: »

You havent walked anywhere in my dd's shoes. It seems that you were troublesome when you were younger and so you think every child that behaves badly must be like you were, that is not so. Did you suffer abuse as a child? did you hear voices that werent there? did you not understand danger by 12? did you talk to yourself and have a split personality? Was there alot of mental health in your immediate family?
not every child is the same and a child that behaves bad does not mean they should be branded as naughty children who need discipline.

as this is annonimous forum yes i was "messed with" yes the hate i felt was massive did it make me miss behave proberly...did i know what i was doing yes could i stop the bad behaviour yes did i need dla cash no no no

teabag29

No breakfat club but have got a meeting with head teacher next week to see if i can arrange something but after school is problematic too as i have to pick younger 2 up but dd needs picking up to. She walked into road last week and im so worried, ive told her to stay put until i get there from now on but she doesnt seem to understand the dangers and also she is getting picked on about her issues so she likes to get away from school asap.

teabag29

pwales wrote: »

as this is annonimous forum yes i was "messed with" yes the hate i felt was massive did it make me miss behave proberly...did i know what i was doing yes could i stop yes

There you go, i dont believe and neither does any of the professionals that have seen her that my dd does know what shes doing, she barely remembers things after she's done them let alone that she is doing wrong