Seriously need help...please :)

marywooyeah

I'm getting really sick of reading things like this. I've just come off facebook where one of my friends was moaning that she's not surprised that people turn to crime when there's no incentive to go back to work.
When my son was 7 months I went back to work 24 hours a week, then I started my full time law degree when he was 15 months and still worked 3 days as well. I got stick from people for putting him in nursery but you know what? I might not have earned much but it covered all my household bills and he has a great time playing and learning and doing crafts and playing outside and singing songs with his friends at nursery.
I got the childcare element of working tax credit which covered a lot of his fees and used my own money to make up the difference.
When I chose to have my son I knew it would be a constant financial commitment, and so should you. You may not have had a child to put him in nursery, but if you have to put him in nursery to provide for him financially stop seeing it as a bad thing, kids love nursery and they learn loads there too.

quintwins

you will get child benefit, tax credits and possibly housing benefit, you could type in your details to www.entitledto.com and see what it says (but it's only a rough idea) i'm the same as you (well acually i lost my job when i was pregnant then had twins) it really wouldn't pay me to work but i find we spend less money now anyway, you tend to adjust, i do plan to go back to work when my youngest starts school

ignore the comments above the benefits system is there to help, altho shouldn't be fully relied on as a longterm measure

Sweetie_Jo

I don't see putting my child into nursery as a bad thing! I have already enquired about help from tax credits towards child care costs and the payments are nowhere near helpful!

Sweetie_Jo

THANK YOU QUINTWINS! I don't plan for this to be a permanant thing, like you, just until my child is old enough to go to school.

I have paid into the system so why shouldn't I get something back to help me and my family. At least I have worked and haven't chosen to sit around all day and do nothing!

dmg24

quintwins wrote: »

you will get child benefit, tax credits and possibly housing benefit, you could type in your details to www.entitledto.com and see what it says (but it's only a rough idea) i'm the same as you (well acually i lost my job when i was pregnant then had twins) it really wouldn't pay me to work but i find we spend less money now anyway, you tend to adjust, i do plan to go back to work when my youngest starts school

ignore the comments above the benefits system is there to help those who have no alternative, altho shouldn't be fully relied on as a longterm measure

Have corrected your post for you.

Now what's the word for people that choose to live on benefits ...

woozywendy

I have 2 children and gave up full time work when my eldest was born. When she was 3 and in nursery I got a job in the local school at lunchtimes and stayed there for over 5 years. 6 months ago I got a different job in the con club 2 nights a week when my husband is here to watch them. I do not get payed brilliantly but it helps. We could manage without me working but my wages pay for the treats. If i did not work our tax credits would go up so effectively I am working for about £15 a week but I enjoy it and if i can go back into full time in a couple of years I hope it looks good on my cv.

Sweetie_Jo

I dont get you people who come on here to mock and assume!!!

The benefit system is there to help! I have contributed and am asking for temporary help!

I am not resigning to sit at home and watch day time tv!!

Being a mum is a 24 hours job and i have respect for mums who manage to work full time!

I should not be judged by wanting to watch my child grow up!!

quintwins

dmg24 wrote: »

Have corrected your post for you.

Now what's the word for people that choose to live on benefits ...

i disagree with you edit, the benefit system is there to help everyone, from newborn baby, to oap and everyone inbetween no matter what they chose to do.
the fact is i couldn't possibly get a job that could work around my kids nursery hours and be flexiable enough for my various appointments i need to attend with them, and would pay enough to pay for childcare for my youngest, i'd love a job for some freedom (that is something you should remeber op it gets boring and depressing doing the same thing all the time) however my hubby does alot of extra work after he finished his 9-5 (don't worry it's all declared) so i need to be here incase he needs to go


good luck op in whatever you decide to JO and remeber aslong as theres food on the table, a roof over there heads and clothes on there backs all your child needs is your love and some imagination

karenx

Sweetie_Jo wrote: »

I dont get you people who come on here to mock and assume!!!

The benefit system is there to help! I have contributed and am asking for temporary help!

I am not resigning to sit at home and watch day time tv!!

Being a mum is a 24 hours job and i have respect for mums who manage to work full time!

I should not be judged by wanting to watch my child grow up!!

Yes the benefit system is there to help and you are already getting child benefit and child tax credits. There is no additional help to replace your wages if you leave work to become a full time mum!

Zoetoes

You might actually be better off working 16 hours and you would get help with the childcare costs?