Seriously need help...please :)

Orville

KxMx wrote: »

True, true, but the OP made it clear she did not think that the situation with her childcare would ever change!



Having children is NOT a right or a need, it is a choice/privilege. Would you say I have a right to have kids when I may pass on my medical problems and/or saddle them with a Mum who may herself need care in the future?

I would say that is still your choice, but if you know there is a chance that you might pass something on to them, you would then have to bear the consequesces of that decision.

As for the saddle them with your mum comment. If you are refering to the op's post about her parents looking after her kids but not able to now do so, you cannot judge a person on that. Her parents may have well been in full heath and happy to have the kids. But as we know absolutely anything can happen at anytime to anyone in a similar situation. I am not going to give examples but i am sure we could all think of a few.

Orville

DX2 wrote: »

Is there a problem with the morning after pill then?

A big one if you don't realise it's happened wouldn't you say..?

DX2

mitchyjules wrote: »

oooooooooooh that's uncalled for!
The lady said she was working - so has paid her dues, and her partner works! Everyone has the right to have children!
You are entitled to tax credits, but may be over the threshold for JSA due to partners income.
Your best bet is to look for a part time job, and try to work when your partner's at home
But do not jack your job in - you'll get no benefits for at least 6 weeks as you'll be classed as making yourself intentionally unemployed!

:doh:

You actually need to be looking for a job to claim JSA no thinking about becoming a SAHM. :doh:

Six weeks without benefits :doh: if you leave your job, it's 26 weeks and she wouldn't get any as her partner works.
Aye!

KxMx

Orville wrote: »

I would say that is still your choice, but if you know there is a chance that you might pass something on to them, you would then have to bear the consequesces of that decision.

As for the saddle them with your mum comment. If you are refering to the op's post about her parents looking after her kids but not able to now do so, you cannot judge a person on that. Her parents may have well been in full heath and happy to have the kids. But as we know absolutely anything can happen at anytime to anyone in a similar situation. I am not going to give examples but i am sure we could all think of a few.

Actually I was talking about myself, ie saddle my kids with a mum who might need care, thought that was clear from my post?

DX2

Orville wrote: »

A big one if you don't realise it's happened wouldn't you say..?

You have an even bigger problem if you don't realise a condom splits :doh: and even if you forget about taking the pill, how long after sex can you take the morning after pill

diolch

starchild1972 wrote: »

Dry cleaning an essential? That's a new one on me! What's wrong with buying clothes you have to wash !!!!!!???? Not seen a hairdresser since my Eldest was born, always got the other half to do it. Pets are definately not an "essential" as if you can't afford to feed yourself how the heck can you afford to feed a pet?

This world has gone nuts and people no longer have proper priorities. ( No TV license btw, no TV aerial in this house! not had one now for 3 years. DD1 got asked why she doesn't watch X-factor, her reply is "well I have a life and OMG unlike you I'm not panicking about my homework" she also doesn't facebook, she prefers "real life")

Then again the previous government decided that material deprivation (i.e. no computer, access to television, games console, trainers, MP3 player and trips to burger outlets) was child abuse!

And here's me unravelling old jumpers to re-knit,refuse to go to burger bars and think TV is a waste of time, quick call social services!

It would seem that you are living in past, the long past!

Those instructions are given to ALL government departments when they are assessing any form of repayment of a debt (DWP), HMRC, as well as other main line departments & ministries.

Holidays for example ARE a requirement and yes, not taking a child on one every year is classed as deprivation - they allow £50pm
A car is another, thought they do draw the line at any vehicle with a market value of more than £3000. If the car is required 'to look for work' or 'is required to care for someone' then the finance payments are allowed!

Hairdressers - they allow up to £25 (male) £50 (female) per month.

The only time that this schedule is NEVER used is when they calculate payments which are means tested (JSA, ESA, IS).

I have known people move to a more expensive rented property and have all of their rent allowed £2000pm.

Orville

KxMx wrote: »

Actually I was talking about myself, ie saddle my kids with a mum who might need care, thought that was clear from my post?

Maybe i misread, but what has that to do with the op's situation?. as far as she knows she is in full health. if you know you are ill or likely to be that would be down to you if you still have children.

I am sorry maybe i am having a blonde moment.?

System

DX2 wrote: »

Is there a problem with the morning after pill then?

Even the MAP isn't 100%

Orville

DX2 wrote: »

You have an even bigger problem if you don't realise a condom splits :doh: and even if you forget about taking the pill, how long after sex can you take the morning after pill

TBH i do not know, but in that circumstance alot of people do not realise it has happened till they miss their period. By then you are pregnant, which would mean whatever method you use to get rid of a baby would be a form of abortion wouldn't it..?

DX2

Orville wrote: »

TBH i do not know, but in that circumstance alot of people do not realise it has happened till they miss their period. By then you are pregnant, which would mean whatever method you use to get rid of a baby would be a form of abortion wouldn't it..?

Well here's a wee bit of info for you then 72 hours, three days after sex.

Are we really needing to get into sex education on the benefit forum, really?