At what age should children do mothers day?

Mupette

Perhaps us mum's might forget halloween, bonfire, easter...

giggletastic

I wonder if your DS perpetually asking when Mother's Day was was his own (somewhat awkward) way of trying to ask what was happening? If his dad has always bought something, maybe "she's not my mum" threw him.......you weren't your OH's mum all the other years either.
As for trying to get some credit from you - that sounds as if he genuinely thought he'd done what he was supposed to do, and it was obvious you weren't that thrilled, so he was trying to get you to confirm he'd done the right thing.
I think that he's 11, and meaning to be hurtful (or even failing to consider it would be) was so far out of his universe that it shouldn't be considered.

Nicki

giggletastic wrote: »

I wonder if your DS perpetually asking when Mother's Day was was his own (somewhat awkward) way of trying to ask what was happening? If his dad has always bought something, maybe "she's not my mum" threw him.......you weren't your OH's mum all the other years either.
As for trying to get some credit from you - that sounds as if he genuinely thought he'd done what he was supposed to do, and it was obvious you weren't that thrilled, so he was trying to get you to confirm he'd done the right thing.
I think that he's 11, and meaning to be hurtful (or even failing to consider it would be) was so far out of his universe that it shouldn't be considered.

Thank you. All of the responses on here, even the more critical ones, have been very helpful in helping me think this through, but this one has been particularly thought provoking.

As an aside I feel I am really earning my mummy spurs today as the baby has a gastro bug and since about 10pm last night has been projectile expelling from both ends! This is after 2 weeks confined to barracks with chicken pox so cbeebies is getting tiring!

vroombroom

Arrrr, how sad for your son. Make him feel bad and then throw at him you don't forget Easter, Xmas etc.:( Its just one day of the year, surely he does other things - do well in school, give you hugs etc - that shows he appreciates you more than a card?

pigpen

ooooh wish I'd have known you had the pox I'd have come rubbed the baby on everyone... she needs them soon.. (she's 8 months today)

I am waiting until wednesday/thursday before raining guilt on my thoughless brood.. well 1/3rd of a brood... OH was guilt tripped last night.. DD1 told him off for not getting me anything from the baby.. esp when I mentoned he got cards for hs mum from himself and another from the baby.. she got 2 and I got none

Dealing with vomit definitely earns you stripes from me.. I hate it.. definitely someone elses job in here. hope he is feeling better soon and he isn't sharing!!!

Nicki

vroombroom wrote: »

Arrrr, how sad for your son. Make him feel bad and then throw at him you don't forget Easter, Xmas etc.:(

I'm obviously an even worse mother than I thought I was as I have no recollection of doing any of those things

Do feel free to feel sorry for my son though because my thought crimes of which he is completely unaware will clearly cause him lifelong trauma!

sjc3

Sorry your little one isn't well OP. Bet you must be shattered especially after dealing with chicken pox recently too.

I was having a good think about your situation. My OH has always taken our dd out to buy me mothers day cards, birthday, xmas etc. I do the same with her for fathers day and his birthday, xmas. In Decemeber we took her out and she bought pressies and cards for a couple of special school friends, her cousins and grandparents.

You hope by doing all this that it will instill in them that this is how we do things and that they learn to give gifts and show they love and appreciate others.

We have never actually left it to her to say "Oh they are talking about mothers day/fathers day at school can I go out and buy something for mummy/daddy.

Therefore I wonder if the way we have handled it thus far has actually taken total responsibility away from her a bit and whether she would ever think to do it on her own without us mentioning it. My dd is only 8 so probably a bit young yet.

My nephew is 13 and Im really not sure he would think to do much for his mum if my brother didn't "organise" him either.

All you can really do is keep instilling in them how to be loving, caring and appreciative and hope it will eventually rub off. If he is generally thoughtfull and loving I wouldn't worry about it all too much.