Men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Alleycat

Just one thing to add.......

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

We don't really have any quality time together at the moment, so (and he knew we were having a nice curry with all the trimmings) I cook everything apart from the stuff that needs doing last thing. Set the table really nicely, put my face on, sort dd's hair out (its wild) and wait. And wait....and wait.....and wait. He has only just got home, but has had to rush out cos he needs to post MIL's birthday card before the last post at the sorting office.

Dd has been poorly all day with a nasty cold and poo problems so I have been on snot and nappy duty. She is really hungry as its way past her dinner time.

Not even a phone call or email to tell us when he would be back. I eventually phoned him and he said he would be home soon. Sod it, I should have just done sausage and chips or something.

cookiesncream

Crazychik wrote:

If so - can I borrow him please ! lol

By all means!! I'll send him over :rotfl: I will admit he does do things around the house but whenever I do, I just get moaned at :rolleyes:

victory

:grouphug: Oh alley, such a small thing a bit of communication!! We are not mind readers even if they think we are!:D

tommay

alwaysonthego wrote:

He thinks I am lazy and just sit and watch jezza kyle all day, in fact I attend college three times a week having to push a double buggy up hill a mile either way. I do all the laundry, cooking, cleaning, look after kids(2 and 9 mths), deal with finances and trying to get my essays done on time the list goes on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:rotfl: women!

ts_aly2000

My OH managed to drive my drive my car into a wall the other day, scraping it as he got out of a parking space. Put a horrible dent in the wing. It's a classic car and I've had it for years.

He's totally lovable and ever so sensitive but God can he be so clumsy. Things just do seem to happen to him.

reehsetin

men!! sounds like my brother, expects things to be done exactly how he wants in the house, everything spotless and full indian dinner every night but isnt prepared to help do it or even the dishes after or anything except the odd time. thinks we should feel privalidged and like hes done us a big favour when he does something (mate this is your house it shouldnt be a chore to do something it should just be something you do,) hate the mentality of arguing about doing something, you should just do it its your house take some pride and help! will never forget me doing my a-levels and bro saying he wanted to spend time with friends cos he wouldnt see them for a year because he was going on a placement year! so he decided to leave everything to me!!
cant blame him tho, dad hasnt worked in years yet barely does the ironing
and acts like hes doing a big favour whenever he does

so glad my dude doesnt have that attitude in his house, hopefully he'll keep that and not turn into the rest
.

wendy_ann1983

my OH can be a bit lazy, we had a deal when we moved in together, I dont mind cooking but the washing up is all yours. This worked fine for a while, though hes started getting a bit slack, a gentle reminder normally works (pilling the bits up by the sink rather loudly or just refusing to cook until its done) because we both work completly different shifts I dont end up cooking many meals for both of us anyway. We moved into a flat with a dishwasher but I refuse to let him use it as its just a waste for the amount of washin up we produce.
And as for housework hes pretty tidy so its normally my stuff that needs clearing away, will have to start making more of an effort though as hes starting to pick up my bad habits. Still trying to get him to clean the bathroom, even just a quick dust would be good.
On the subject of dust has anyone else with laminate flooring noticed that there seems to be a WHOLE lot more dust than with carpets. A day after I've swept its dusty again.

crazyposhgal

My OH thinks that because he works 5 days and pays the bills he should not have to do anything else. He also does not seem to understand that recently our son has been ill and will hardly let me leave him to do anything in the house and my mum has had cancer and just came through radiotherapy so i have been helping do cleaning at her house when i can.

He does work long hours starting at 5.30am and finishing between 4pm - 7pm but most of the time he is sitting in a truck travelling.

Am i wrong to ask him for help?

sloppychops

crazyposhgal wrote:

Am i wrong to ask him for help?

No your not wrong in asking for help and you really shouldnt think like that at all.Its his child/family and home as well and just because hes working doesnt mean he cant help when hes at home and give you the extra help you need.
My god if my hubby treated me like i was just there to be his skivvy and not lift a finger i would soon kick him into touch no messing.
Thing is some women do everything for their men and wonder why when you do ask for help they wont lift a finger.
This is just digging your own grave as the more you do for some people the more they expect it and just sit back and watch.
Time for some of you women to get a little tougher and not be treat like the hired help.

Horasio

EthelBloggs wrote:

ahhhhhhhh you're not alone!!! i've got one who thinks that because he goes to work every day (a sit down job) he shouldnt have to do anything else! I'm trying to reform him now tho.. otherwise he's gonna get the boot!

Mine works hard at work and says he will do things but needs a lot of nagging on the day. He always has to be asked, he never sees it. When he gets on with it, he does a good job.

He leaves lights on when he's not in the room and sleeps with his telly and lights on, not intentionally.

Our son on the other hand. Typical lazy man. I'm at home all day, and I have to do all the housework. His rooms are appalling and needs a rocket to get him to keep em clean. He has a rotten attitude to match too. I don't clean his rooms at all. I just do his washing to make up the load. I don't iron any of it tho.

Our problem is my husband undermines any authority and our son is getting away with his bad attitude. They are harming the household dynamics. I find it hard to function and do anything basic.

It is so bad, that we haven't bothered with Christmas, our son did a bad job of putting up the lights and REFUSED to correct it. I pulled the lights down.

I am seriously considering leaving them both. They both seriously depress me with their attitudes.