Men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

alwaysonthego_2

Is it just me or do other women suffer from husbanditis!!!!!!!!

When I cook a meal, it doesn't matter how much I enjoy it, he always finds faults.

He thinks I am lazy and just sit and watch jezza kyle all day, in fact I attend college three times a week having to push a double buggy up hill a mile either way. I do all the laundry, cooking, cleaning, look after kids(2 and 9 mths), deal with finances and trying to get my essays done on time the list goes on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why does he think he's always right and won't listen to me when he's not.

Men can't live with or without them .........just call me supermum

cookiesncream

It's not just you. My hubby does exactly the same! I'm off ill permanently at the mo and he thinks that means that the house should be in tip top condition. Can't get it into his head that I'm not at home to be a housewife, I'm at home because I'm recovering!! Total brick wall. I also know what you mean about the meals, mine does exactly the same thing. Sometimes I feel like being totally selfish and cooking something I like and haven't been able to have for a while and he can lump it

So don't worry, it's not just you. We can all unite in our suffering

kelloggs36

if my husband was like yours, I wouldn't put up with it!! I would either go on strike so he can see exactly what you do do, or I would threaten to leave him. He sounds like a **** to me!!! Tell him to cook his own tea in future, if he can do so much better - he can do yours too, so you can find fault in it! See how he likes that idea.

kelloggs36

Maybe I'm just really lucky - my husband does most of the ironing, we decide who feels like cooking on a daily basis, we share all the housework and the childcare. He would never, ever critisise my cooking, nor would I his, unless it was really bad and then he would tell me first anyway! He says that it is not my 'job' to do all the housework - we both live there so we are both responsible for it.

pennineman

Sorry to hear about your husband, alwaysonthego. His attitude seems alien to me as I've always helped around the house and home - but that's just how I was brought up - I'm an old git now.

But all relationships are different. In ours, because penninewoman works and I'm early retired , I do most of the shopping and all of the housework and some of the cooking. It makes sense: she's out at work all day.

But when we were both working we split the jobs that needed doing between us. Many people have difficulty accepting that men can / should do housework / shopping / cooking. Maybe your husband would be embarrassed to take his part in running the house? Maybe he doesn't see it as "manly"!!!

alwaysonthego_2

My husband is good in some ways, he is fantastic with the children and does his share so I can't complain.

I don't mind infact I prefer to do the household tasks because they get done properly and he does hold down a full time job!!!!

What annoys me is the moaning. He decided he hated going food shopping so I go with my mum, he complains that I haven't got everything

pennieman, mrs pennimen sounds like a lucky lady, do you hold workshops for disfunctional men?

alanobrien

As pennineman says we are not all like that ...honest....at least not us older gits.

Putting aside the fact you need to kick his bottom, I like the idea mentioned above of going on strike, it never hurts to make people (ok men) realise what they are missing.

going2die_rich

Why don't you knock up a spreadsheet with all the stuff you do in a week along with the times it takes and then he'd see just how little free time you do get in the week.

If he believes it doesn't take so much time to do a particular task tell him to try and beat it. Not only will it get the task done by him but he'd see just how much work it is and might give you support in future.

I'm male and I wouldn't dream of defining an at home mum (my wife) as being lazy and doing nothing if she's looking after OUR children and studying too - no offence but he sounds like a !!!!!. I don't even have kids and even I know it's a bit more than just sticking them in front of the tv all day and you don't get the days off like you do from actual going to a place for work.

Contains_Mild_Peril

My husband has a some very old-fashioned views, and says housework is my job. He thinks breadwinner should be his role, but when he's between jobs he still won't help around the house even if I'm working. He does his own ironing, but not much else. I do cook for him even if it involves making something different for him, because we have an agreement that if I cook his dinner at a time that suits him, he won't smoke while our son is eating his.

piper5

my boyfriend is very similar in the way that i feel i can never do anything right. he recommends or suggests i do something (i.e go out) and when i come home he is in a stinker of a mood that i went??????
also i cook everyday, and when he is off on his own, he doesnt do anything to help me out, i mean like have my dinner waiting, or help with shopping!! i do feel a bit walked over in that sense!!

EthelBloggs

ahhhhhhhh you're not alone!!! i've got one who thinks that because he goes to work every day (a sit down job) he shouldnt have to do anything else! I'm trying to reform him now tho.. otherwise he's gonna get the boot!