Men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Alan50

He would soon buck-up his ideas with the all the costs/maintenace for the kids....shock tactics....lol

good luck

Alan

Knelley

tweegirl wrote:

Thanks Knelley - to be honest, the way I feel today I never want to see the little brat again, but as I'm supposed to be the grown-up here, I suppose I'll have to. A couple of weeks ago, she nearly came to live with us and I was rubbing my hands in glee - I couldn't wait to get hold of her (not literally!!) - I'm a stickler for good manners and thebrat never utters a please or a thank you to anyone - I would have treated her fairly just the same as my two, I'm sure she'd have been back with her mother within the week.

TBH thats just the problem she plays the mother off against the father and gets spoilt rotten by both of them - she's just managed to wangle herself 3 days off from school this week to come to France on a business trip with us - my two have to stay with their Gran and go to school as normal (due to a problem with my ex-husband not letting them leave the country). I can't wait, just me and the little cutie for most of the 3 days on our own while the OH attends to his business!!!! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LMAO:rotfl: Then THAT will be the time for you to to play step mum ;-) It really is hard being a step parent. I found that I got more respect from my step daughters than they gave their parents! I think it was like the 'teacher' syndrome:) They knew they could push the parents but that there was a line with me, just like with a teacher. I also made sure I spoiled them but they knew that I expected good manners etc. And I think kids always try and play one off against the other, even when their parents are together:)....well, mine do!! ;-)

Jet

alwaysonthego wrote:

Is it just me or do other women suffer from husbanditis!!!!!!!!

When I cook a meal, it doesn't matter how much I enjoy it, he always finds faults.

He thinks I am lazy and just sit and watch jezza kyle all day, in fact I attend college three times a week having to push a double buggy up hill a mile either way. I do all the laundry, cooking, cleaning, look after kids(2 and 9 mths), deal with finances and trying to get my essays done on time the list goes on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why does he think he's always right and won't listen to me when he's not.

Men can't live with or without them .........just call me supermum

If you add up all the hours you are on the go - I bet it's a damn sight more than his "full time" job.

I would find it a lot lot easier to do a full time job than look after a 2 year old and a 9 month year old and do everything else you do.

Don't let him belittle what you do. I have to say that anyone who had respect for you, wouldn't talk to you that. :mad: Don't allow him to do it.

My ex husband was downright lazy but not critical and my next partner was downright critical but not lazy!

People keep telling me that if I meet a new man, it will make mine and my son's life easier. Based on my past experiences, I find it hard to believe that having a man in my life and home again won't just bring me more work. Can't say I relish the thought of picking up someone elses socks again. Thank you very much. :rotfl:

Jet

tweegirl wrote:

Of course, criticism from an adult is usually bearable (even if it is a man!!) - imagine what a great weekend I've just had with the country's champion brat (otherwise known as soon to be step-daughter - hmmmm might have to re-think that one methinks) - "yukkk, I'm not eating that - cos you cooked it" was a common refrain in our house and I just had to sit there and take it because you can't upset the little darling because it might upset the ex-wife!!! - my two kids just sat open-mouthed for most of the weekend at their new calm mummy - somebody better tell them quick it's not safe for them to do the same!!!

I can laugh about all that now (Just - if I really try!!!), but I can't forgive the little brat for the outright lie she told about my little girl just to get her into trouble - far too complicated to go into now, but if I just say I knew it was a lie straight away, but of course the "man" won't accept his little girl is capable of any such thing.

Don't you think you're being a bit harsh? I don't know how old this child is but this girl now has to share her Dad with you and your children in a strange environment and you wonder why she is showing "attention seeking" behaviour? :rolleyes:

Perhaps there needs to be some understanding of this little girls behaviour so that you and your soon to be husband can help her through it. That way, you can all live together at weekends in peace and harmony.

Crazychik

When I first met my ex and was buying a house, his mum said that he expects a cooked meal every day on the table. I said "good - so I do - he's got arms and legs - he can do it then" - that didn't go down too well, but I was making a point that I wont be mrs mop,cook & bottle washer. It worked

Myself and new OH (of 3yrs nearly) just recently started new jobs (both on the same day), both working mon-fri with wk ends off, the 1st couple of wk ends was a night mare, trying to juggle shopping and general clean up. Dropping hints along the way that "this needs doing & that needs doing" whilst he sat playing the PS2. I desperately wanted the front room polished n hoovered, but couldn't get in - in the end - i thought F*** it, opened the curtains and started hoovering. He got mardies on, but who cares. I did it to prove a point. I said fine, when you've finished you do it, Im off out. I got back and it was done, along with other jobs!!!

That was only a blip tho, during the week, we both do little jobs to help eachother out. I cook, he sorts DW out, we both do the washing. I iron uniforms, he does pack ups. Even on wk ends now, we both crack on with housework, without moaning or groaning,

You need to firm and fair. Dont stand for no nonsense. I know its hard with 2 LO's (got 2 myself) but you do need help and support

I used to cook for me and the kids (when they was smaller) not my ex, do our own washing/ironing, and leave his. Tidy our own things up, put his in bin bags. Until he got the message, and started helping. Harsh - but it worked.

Contains_Mild_Peril

I'm tempted to leave my hubby's washing and just do my own and my son's (when he remembers to put it in the washing basket - I don't pick it up off the floor for him), but I don't think I could stand the smell of his festering socks until he would finally run out of clean ones and start washing them!

seven-day-weekend

kelloggs36 wrote:

Maybe I'm just really lucky - my husband does most of the ironing, we decide who feels like cooking on a daily basis, we share all the housework and the childcare. He would never, ever critisise my cooking, nor would I his, unless it was really bad and then he would tell me first anyway! He says that it is not my 'job' to do all the housework - we both live there so we are both responsible for it.

My husband does most of the cooking, I do all the finances, we share housework between us.

neither of us do the ironing - we don't even have an iron!:rotfl:

kellywelly_2

seven-day-weekend wrote:

My husband does most of the cooking, I do all the finances, we share housework between us.

neither of us do the ironing - we don't even have an iron!:rotfl:

Ironing, also a four letter word in our house! :rotfl:

shariatlanta

Same here, husband does most of the cooking, I do the housework with my daughters help though once she starts work I won't be able to rely on her so much. Still get annoyed because of the state of the kitchen, how come I can cook a meal and leave the kitchen clean and when he's done it looks like a bombsite.
My biggest annoyance is the D I Y, he never finishes a job so every room in the house is half done, if it was just a case of painting and papering I'd do it but the walls need plastering as well, any ideas on how to motivate him.

arnie&caseysma!

My OH was great when we first got together and when we started living together but things have started to slide. We work a 10 day cycle at work (same place different jobs) with me working 2 days behind him which means that on only 2 days out of 10 he has to cook the evening meal - most of the time he would forget if I didnt leave exactly what we were to have and phone and hour before I am due in so he can start cooking. I have seen me coming home on my break and putting food in the oven myself!!!!

We both wear the same style of t-shirts for work - at the end of the day mine goes in the washing bin, his goes on the floor. We also both need to wear black socks for work so we have a 'communal' black sock drawer - the ones I wear go in the wash - his go on the floor. It does my head in.

He was mightily annoyed the other morning getting ready for work when he found out that on my first two days off I had done no washing and he had no clean t-shirts.....huh, he wore one of mine and had to keep his jumper on all day as it was too small.....I decided to do some washing that day, but only the stuff in the basket (which was all mine!) and I picked up the socks cos I know I need them too. Everything else got left until he bothered to pick it up! Now and again I refuse to iron his things and just throw it all in the drawers so he knows what has to do if he wants to wear it.

And when I get really annoyed that he wont load and unload the dishwasher I grit my teeth and leave all the dished lying in the kitchen for a couple of days which is hard but eventually I get the benefit! I make sure this is on days when I am rarely going to be here due to work and sleep!

Sometimes you just have to make a stand and refuse to do all the things they just expect you to do - to make them realise just exactly what you do in the house. Most of the time they are not long in changing their ways and lending a hand.