Men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Horasio

Emms wrote:

I tried to go on strike once. I didnt do any housework for 2 weeks but unfortunately neither did OH so I gave in when I couldnt live with the mess anymore and started doing it again.

Emma

A common tactic

Are you still together?

Horasio

sloppychops wrote:

No your not wrong in asking for help and you really shouldnt think like that at all.Its his child/family and home as well and just because hes working doesnt mean he cant help when hes at home and give you the extra help you need.
My god if my hubby treated me like i was just there to be his skivvy and not lift a finger i would soon kick him into touch no messing.
Thing is some women do everything for their men and wonder why when you do ask for help they wont lift a finger.
This is just digging your own grave as the more you do for some people the more they expect it and just sit back and watch.
Time for some of you women to get a little tougher and not be treat like the hired help.

If you left or died, how would these guys survive. They would either go under or learn to do it.

Horasio

crazyposhgal wrote:

My OH thinks that because he works 5 days and pays the bills he should not have to do anything else. He also does not seem to understand that recently our son has been ill and will hardly let me leave him to do anything in the house and my mum has had cancer and just came through radiotherapy so i have been helping do cleaning at her house when i can.

He does work long hours starting at 5.30am and finishing between 4pm - 7pm but most of the time he is sitting in a truck travelling.

Am i wrong to ask him for help?

Not at all, you seem to be a full time nurse too and that is very hard work!

Horasio

seven-day-weekend wrote:

My husband does most of the cooking, I do all the finances, we share housework between us.

neither of us do the ironing - we don't even have an iron!:rotfl:

To be fair in in his favour, I can't iron, my husband does it very well

crazyposhgal

Thank you everyone. Time to kick this guy into shape coz i know he needs me alot more than i need him.

New Years Resolution - I will not be a carpet anymore.

hobo28

cookiesncream wrote:

Out of interest, does anyone have a partner who has high standards to the extreme and will moan about the slightest thing out of place?

Yes, my mate likes everything in its place. Hates untidiness. He also earns a salary most of us can only dream about and does all the cooking too.

Unfortunately his wife spends like its going out of fashion, doesn't tidy or cook.

Last time we went to the pub he said all he wants is the ironing done and sex once a week. The first is touch and go, the second definately doesn't happen. Its an act of mercy if it does (apparently!)

Even my GF says his wife is well out of order! He's actually a really nice looking bloke too!

wendy_ann1983

hobo28 wrote:

Yes, my mate likes everything in its place. Hates untidiness. He also earns a salary most of us can only dream about and does all the cooking too.

Unfortunately his wife spends like its going out of fashion, doesn't tidy or cook.

Last time we went to the pub he said all he wants is the ironing done and sex once a week. The first is touch and go, the second definately doesn't happen. Its an act of mercy if it does (apparently!)

Even my GF says his wife is well out of order! He's actually a really nice looking bloke too!

Whats his number?

hobo28

wendy_ann1983 wrote:

Whats his number?

ha ha, he's already married!!!! He says it'd cost him too much to get a divorce as she'd take him to the cleaners! Which is ironic since she doesn't do any!

lynzpower

i think the issue for me has always been this framing of the issue.

Why do we as women describe it as OHs HELPING us. In using this framing what we are saying is yes, its our repsonsiblity to be madamoiselle mop, but we cant handle it, so give me your help.

Not for me. We both live here, we both have an equal reponsibility for ensuring the housegold runs effectivley. Im a control freak tho and I actually relaly like cleaning - so sometimes he doenst really get a look in ( ive been off on long term sick, getting stronger now, so love to clean/ sort finances/ do admin etc) Althugh occasionally, he asks for errands and I do think, god dont you think i have nothing better to do. Had this out and its stopped now

I cnat wait for us to have kids, despite me being a control freak I know we will be a team - thats the whole point of us being in a relationship. Any less than this and Id be off.

POSSETTE

All i can say is..men will only complain and moan at you while YOU let them....while you do everything for them they will not understand how long and tedious some jobs are..while you lay down he will walk over you...get up and go on strike..eat a meal for you in front of him,wash you own clothes,dont do anything for him for a week and i guarantee there will be no moans after that..if he says wheres his meal,dont speak,just shrug shoulders,dont say you are on strike,just see how long it takes before he notices..then after a week resume a few jobs but delegate him some too...IT WORKS!