How can I ensure my stepsons don't get a penny from my will?

Mojisola

wannaberich81 wrote: »

are you for real???? why shouldnt they? wont she be benefitting from his finances? which they are entitled to.....

No-one is "entitled" to an inheritance. Parents do usually leave their estate to their children but, in England and Wales, there's no law that says that they have to.

As a married couple, the OP and her OH will be benefiting from each others income and capital but I still can't see why his adult children should be expecting her to leave money to them.

sharkie

Apparently setting up a trust cost around £10000?

Now the Bennie Hill got it right. He told every one (think in confidence?) that they were in his will which I thin appeased them all, but after the fact, there was no money.

When on dies, how do people find out if there is a will or not. Surely it could just illegally vanish, o one could forget whom the solicitor was?

wannaberich81

i am actually saddened by some of the comments on here.it all sounds quite cold and heartless. with any look his kids would rather not take any of her money anyway, considering how awful she is about them! Not entirely sure how you can call a 12 year old a lazy scrounger....it is very sad how selfish and singleminded some people can be, towards step children.

wannaberich81

Mojisola wrote: »

No-one is "entitled" to an inheritance. Parents do usually leave their estate to their children but, in England and Wales, there's no law that says that they have to.

As a married couple, the OP and her OH will be benefiting from each others income and capital but I still can't see why his adult children should be expecting her to leave money to them.

i doubt very much they are 'expecting' her do leave them anything considering her thoughts on them!! i bet they would be struck dumb with suprise if she did!

SailorSam

Gigglepig wrote: »

In 50 years time perhaps it will be natural that they do inherit you - and what about potential grandchildren?

They were talking on Tv the other night about the health of the nation and saying this could be the first generation were our children will die before us. If that's the case it resolves all the problems, i can inherit their money.

Jerryjerryjerry

wannaberich81 wrote: »

i am actually saddened by some of the comments on here.it all sounds quite cold and heartless. with any look his kids would rather not take any of her money anyway, considering how awful she is about them! Not entirely sure how you can call a 12 year old a lazy scrounger....it is very sad how selfish and singleminded some people can be, towards step children.

I'm always polite towards my step children. I even had to spend £100 on presents for my oldest stepson for his birthday as my husband had gone overdrawn on his account.

If my step son worked or at least appeared to be looking for a job, and didn't stay in bed till 3.00 pm most days, then expect his gran to cook him sausage and/or egg sandwiches (sausages which we have to buy for him every week), leaving the dishes lying around - then go out and spend his benefit money on spliffs and come home in the evening spaced out, be rude to his gran and of course rude to my husband if he ever dares challenge him, then perhaps I wouldn't have such a bad mindset towards my stepson. As it happens, I am always polite but I try to avoid him at all costs.

We also paid for driving lessons for him, which he messed up. We have supplied him with a computer. A television when the last one broke down and he throws it back in our faces by getting kicked out of college for threatening another boy. He hasn't worked for two years.

One day, my husband, last summer told him there were jobs going at our local mcdonalds, he responded, "you work there then". Now, we don't go out ourselves.. We are both on fairly low salaries. I'm on £17k and my husband is on £18k. We have a mortgage. I resent having to pay for this boy only for him to throw it back in my face. I'm certainly not prepared to allow him to enjoy his life on the back of my hard work!

Remember, I was told that the step sons were not in my husband's life any more. However, they are, and i've dealt with that by buying my own house.

I hardly know these young men and yet, I am expected to have love for them. They are all rude, arrogant and selfish. As i've said above, the youngest is always asking his dad for money, never visits his dad and is always in trouble at school. I didn't marry my husband's family. I was lied to about their relationship as well.

I am not some sort of walkover. His sons can do whatever they so choose.. but not on MY MONEY.

Newly_retired

SailorSam wrote: »

Did you see that series of programmes on the Tv where people were having Wills written. One was a couple who were on second marriages, he had daughters that the wife didn't want to get any of her money, the wife had no children of her own. In the Will it was stipulated that if he died first his half of the estate would go to his daughter but his wife could continue living in the house until she died. If she died first all her cash would go to a cats home that she was involved with, her husband would continue to live in the house until his death and at this time the proceeds would be split. half to the daughter and half to the cats home.

This is what we have done, as we each have children from previous marriages, so the split is "fair", but the surviving spouse can stay in the house as long as they llive. No cats home is involved!
It only cost the price of a will, and of course can be changed at any time.
I don't imagine either set of our step children expect anything from the step-parent, to be honest.

Jerryjerryjerry

wannaberich81 wrote: »

are you for real???? why shouldnt they? wont she be benefitting from his finances? which they are entitled to.....

I don't benefit from my husband's finances. Both of our salaries go into one pot. His salary goes on the mortgage and his huge loan he took out for a deposit and his sons.

My salary goes on everything else, including food for his sons.

My husband's salary is only £18k. Mine is £17k but hopefully soon to go up. If you think about it, I'm carrying my husband and his sons.. not the other way around.

Jerryjerryjerry

wannaberich81 wrote: »

are you for real???? why shouldnt they? wont she be benefitting from his finances? which they are entitled to.....

From your posts, I bet you're probably hoping to benefit from your parent's hard work.

thatgirlsam

You did marry a man who had children though - you must have known they would be part of his life therefore part of yours

Did your husband pay maintenance for them? and his youngest now?