How can I ensure my stepsons don't get a penny from my will?

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Spend all your money while you are alive? It would be fun too

Jerryjerryjerry

KxMx wrote: »

But these boys are not related to you by blood.

No.. you are right. They are not. But i'm married to their dad and I don't have children of my own.

I would wish to leave my share of the house to an animal protection charity.

Jerryjerryjerry

rachbc wrote: »

step children wouldn't inherit if you died intestate but obviously you can't control what your husband does will any money you might leave him....

Giving the lot away to someone else shoud do the trick - but you also need to check if you are tennants in common or joint tennants with your property.

We are tenants in common. I sorted that out when we bought this house. So if I were to die, I could give my half share of the house to an animal sanctury? Would my husband, if he was still alive, have to sell up or could he continue living in the house till he died.. then would the house get sold and my share get sent to an animal charity? And his share would go to his sons?

If so, that sounds great. However, i'm so worried that his sons will try to get hold of my money.

The thought that all my life i've worked so hard and everything I ever earned would end up going to those work shy lazy good for nothings makes me feel as though my life has been worthless.

I feel sick today.

Jerryjerryjerry

podperson wrote: »

Since they aren't related to you by blood I'm guessing you're worried that if you leave your money to your husband and then he passes away they would inherit? That's the only course I can see where they would be able to have a claim on it and tbh if that's the worry I think you might have to seek legal advice as I'm not sure whether it would be possible to put provisions on where the money can pass to next. Do you have a will at the moment? Do you have family/friends that you are wanting to leave the money to instead? As far as I am aware cases like the one you mention where specific requests in the will are over-ruled are quite rare and that was with a close blood relative.

I wont be leaving any money to my husband. I have a will currently which states that everything I own be left to an animal charity. That will was made when I owned my own house.

I now need to make another will to leave my share of my house and anything else left behind of mine to be given to the animal charity. But how can I be sure this will happen?

Jerryjerryjerry

SailorSam wrote: »

I would have thought if you were to name them as to get nothing it couldn't be contested, i've done that in my Will and would hate to think the person concerned could get it turned around. I've heard some people who have left a nominal sum say 50p and that way your step sons couldn't say you'd just forgot them.

Did you read the story yesterday in the daily mail? A poor old woman left a will and a separate letter stipulating she didn't want her daughter to get anything.

The will was contested successfully by that very daughter. Things like this make my blood boil. What is the point of a Will if they can be contested?

Jerryjerryjerry

pupsicola wrote: »

You would be best speaking with a solicitor. If you died first and had left all the money to your husband in a will I am not sure if you can stipulate who the money is then passed onto. I wouldn't think you can. Once it is his money surely it is then up to him who he leaves it too. Would most likely be his children going by how much he financially helps the eldest one now.

My great aunt left all her money to cancer research as both her child and husband had died from the disease. Do you have a favourite charity you could leave your money too. How would this then effect your husband though?

Yes. I would like to leave everything I leave behind to an animal charity. I wouldn't wish to leave my husband anything.

Jerryjerryjerry

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Does your husband know how you feel about this?

Will he want to leave his share of any money to his sons?

I don't know his reasons for not seeing his sons but I know that a lot of children, especially sons will have problems if they don't have contact with their father

People can change, I think its a bit harsh to write them off as potential decent people at this stage

You have every right to do whatever you like with your money though, I don't think step children could overturn your will

I think my husband realises I don't have much time for his son but I don't think he knows how strongly I feel that my hard earned money over my lifetime should not go to a person who is a sponger and has never worked in their life.

Jerryjerryjerry

ringo_24601 wrote: »

Spend all your money while you are alive? It would be fun too

This is a great idea and one I will give a lot of thought to. However, its all about predicting when you're going to die. What if I spend spend spend (coz I think i've got till i'm 80) and then find that I live till i'm 100!

I think I will seek legal advice. I will probably end up persuading my husband to remortgage the house when we retire and live off the proceeds and try to leave as little as possible at the very end.

Radiantsoul

I think you need some sort of trust that gives your husband the right to continue living in the house to a point in time, probably after you die. After that your interest in the property can be realised for the benefit of the charities.

SailorSam

Did you see that series of programmes on the Tv where people were having Wills written. One was a couple who were on second marriages, he had daughters that the wife didn't want to get any of her money, the wife had no children of her own. In the Will it was stipulated that if he died first his half of the estate would go to his daughter but his wife could continue living in the house until she died. If she died first all her cash would go to a cats home that she was involved with, her husband would continue to live in the house until his death and at this time the proceeds would be split. half to the daughter and half to the cats home.