Stress / Anxiety - I need help!!

piggeh

I find when we are young (am I still young at 25?! ) half our time is spent worrying about wasting our potential. I am still doing it these days even though I'm in a job I like, as the pay isnt the level I want and you can always have more training, etc. I think it's fairly 'normal'. Well, for some of us

My last job was utter rubbish. Boss harrassed me and job was boring beyond belief. It done nothing for my self confidence. Whenever I complained to people about my boss, they just said it was my attitude and that I worried too much, was too negative etc. I don't know if you have had similar remarks, but if you are in a job you don't like, then you should move on, as it's most likely to be a job that isn't suitable for you - rather than your anxiety/attitude being the problem.

hibees1875_2

L-T-D, i think it's fantastic that you went for the first day of job, i don't know you, but im proud of you for it. I work with many people in similar situations to yourself and its not easy. Every day can seem like a battle. It's just a case of fighting the right battles.... work seems to play on your mind more than anything... maybe, as with a SOA, it would be useful to draw up a pro' and cons list of where you are working. What i would also suggest may be useful is think along these lines: Where am i now?...... Where do i want to be...... And, How will i get there? Maybe work on filling in the blanks and it will help give some direction and help channel some of that energy into positives rather than negative ruminations.
Also, on the teetotal thing..... have you considered de-caff? tastes the same, might cost a bit extra, but maybe it will help ure mental wellbeing. good luck.

hibees1875_2

piggeh wrote:

I find when we are young (am I still young at 25?! ) half our time

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i hope you are piggeh as im 26 and consider myself young!

learning_to_drive

My last job was utter rubbish. Boss harrassed me and job was boring beyond belief. It done nothing for my self confidence. Whenever I complained to people about my boss, they just said it was my attitude and that I worried too much, was too negative etc. I don't know if you have had similar remarks, but if you are in a job you don't like, then you should move on, as it's most likely to be a job that isn't suitable for you - rather than your anxiety/attitude being the proble

Yeah, even after 2 days (today I went to doctors then just said I wasn't going back in today, I went to Meadowhall, no one knows, I just needed to chill out, I couldnt face it, the boredom.) I know that the tax office isn't for me. I cant handle the disorganisation, the fact that everyone tosses it off in between calls, just the whole lack of work ethic. I cannot cope with it, its alien to my beliefs about work and life. I'm a believer in working hard to receive rewards, I would much rather clear a chiller at Sainsbury's than answer 10 phone calls a day. It's who I am, hands on, sleeves up sort of person.

L-T-D, i think it's fantastic that you went for the first day of job, i don't know you, but im proud of you for it. I work with many people in similar situations to yourself and its not easy. Every day can seem like a battle. It's just a case of fighting the right battles.... work seems to play on your mind more than anything... maybe, as with a SOA, it would be useful to draw up a pro' and cons list of where you are working. What i would also suggest may be useful is think along these lines: Where am i now?...... Where do i want to be...... And, How will i get there? Maybe work on filling in the blanks and it will help give some direction and help channel some of that energy into positives rather than negative ruminations.
Also, on the teetotal thing..... have you considered de-caff? tastes the same, might cost a bit extra, but maybe it will help ure mental wellbeing. good luck.

Ok, since I work at the Tax Office (ive been here 2 days) I'll do a pro's and con's of the job. Admittedly it isn't long (initial contract til March, but I dont see that being the point.)

PRO

Hours are not bad, initial training means we finish at 3;30

Pay is very good - £14,631

Flexi Time

CONS

I'm bored, training really bores me

As a result, time drags along

I cant relate to the people that work there, they are all drifters who dont want anything more, they just want to drift and earn and forget about it.

I cant relate to the culture, I want a job that is 110% that needs thought and has something to offer me, as daft as it sounds, retail did it for me, I was never bored.

I dread going in for these reasons above

I cant cope being sat at a desk, its just not me

People just basically wasting time, I cant handle it, ive the head of a manager but Im doing a job that is just not stretching enough for me, the role etc.

As a result, because im over thinking everything, i get anxiety and worry again, because im being given time to think about things and drift off because of the job role. Lifes too short to do a job that i dont want to do surely?

learning_to_drive

In other news, I have made an appointment to see a counsellor too, doctor said it may well help, I requested it, just to see what they think, so we shall see what happens there, I feel a bit better than I may be able to see someone a lot about my issues, and work out what the problems are.

learning_to_drive

Spoke to Sainsbury's, thanked me for being honest, but sadly dont have anything for me at the minute, that's a real shame.

Feel a bit down now, was hoping it would all be sorted and that I could return no problem, but it appears not, unless they let me know beforehand.

piggeh

There's a job just round the corner with your name on it, I'm sure.

Don't narrow your options by the way. Try something a bit different. Personally I took 'any old job' - even taking a paycut and twice the travelling distance! - just to get out of my old job. Would never have gone for my job if it was in the paper, but I really like it. It's worth taking a leap into the dark sometimes. My advice would be to try something a little varied (even if it's new), and try and find a more 'youthful' company than places like the tax office and councils, which tend to have people stick around for a long time and get set in their bad ways.

Did you like retail because of the contact with customers? Or something else? Try and note down what you liked or loved about it.

learning_to_drive

Yeah, thanks for that

I'm sure there is a job with my name on it, I want everything yesterday, for example I now do not know why I feel so down and dread tomorrow morning, I dread going into work, I dread sitting in the training room, I dread watching the clock go around, I just dread it all and I cant explain why.

I liked retail because of the varied job role, the fact that indeed I could meet customers, plus all my friends were at the store, true I make friends everywhere, but I miss the hustle and bustle, the movement, the contact with customers and the fact that you had to graft to get anywhere.

I just am working myself up about things, because I am sat there, bored, things start to turn over in my head, I cant wait for 3;30 because its home time, then I dread it coming to morning because I have to go back in.

Same with weekend, cant wait for weekend, but then will dread monday morning coming along. I cant motivate myself to do anything at the minute, for example any social activities (supposed to be going to Wigan) but I just cant be bothered, I cant drink but I just want to sit in the house all the time.

I'm always fine after time off, for example ive had a week off here and there to de-stress, I really think I need some proper time off, but I cant worry my parents about it, they think that there are bigger issues (my girlfriend) but she isnt an issue, she is a bit because she is away and things. But she isnt the reason I feel like this.

I was happy earlier because I thought that Sainsbury's would offer me something, now they havent, I honestly feel that my route of escape has been blocked off, and I am destined to continue feeling unhappy, for no apparent reason for a long time, worst thing that I cant see when I will settle in or enjoy it.

seroxat_chick

Here are a couple of other places where I know you will find lots of help, information and support

http://paroxetine.suddenlaunch2.com/

http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/

Psykicpup

dont give up work yet......sign on with all the agencies in your area - pick & choose but challange yourself
I loved the 2 wks I did as a postie!
Maybe call centre work in a different envro would be better - I work in one & love thet way I can help peeps
You need to be cust. facing but are u sure in what role?
hey lets face it if cutting meat on the deli counter makes you happy (despite degrees) then do it!!!!!!!!!