Stress / Anxiety - I need help!!

learning_to_drive

First day tomorrow, tales of woe / happiness regarding the first day will all be appreciated!

Told FD about my departure, they are naturally disappointed but understand, in fairness to them they were always really good about it.

Had a good chat with a couple of people regarding matched betting and I think that I understand the concept pretty well now, I am looking forward to starting on that, obviously It isn't a get rick quick scheme, but there is some money to be made out of that.

I am reclaiming my bank charges too, from FD and HSBC, I have opened an account with Natwest in readiness for the fact that they may ask me to close my accounts with those insitutions. My plan for my bank charges is to pay off my debts to other outlets, be it the laptop (HFC) or catalogues I owe (£50 / £20) or indeed the credit card used to pay my deposit for my insurance.

Whilst I am operating the Natwest account as the main one, I intend to operate an A+L account for my matched betting, thereby keeping the two accounts completely seperate.

However, I didn't get the A+L account that I applied for via Quidco, I was told that I suited the main current account better, so that's something to look at.

learning_to_drive

First day went well, went out for my 21st last night, had waaaaaay too much to drink, very very hungover this morning .

It's a good crack, i had a few worries earlier, but I think I'll be ok, its a decent place, good hours etc.

Just what I need at the minute,

learning_to_drive

Yeah it's ok, I am just suffering still with the hangover, feel ropey and thirsty, just all over the place still even though its a new place, I keep thinking I'm ready but am i?

Not as many worries, but Im just bored already, training etc, I just find it hard being sat in a room at a table all day, Its frustrating me.

Ive had to come home for my dinner, its a coping mechanism, I dont know what to do!

learning_to_drive

I've hit upon the problem, at every single place I've been at since JS, I'm bored, I was always a person at school with no attention span, so didnt do as well as what he should have. I then got into JS and did well, was never bored.

Now I am bored, Im a believer in doing well for myself, I want to succeed and achieve in life, I dont want to be run of the mill. I need something that is going to stretch me, I cant carry on being bored.

That is when my worries about everything come to the surface, as when Im bored, my attention drifts and then I start stressing and worrying, my tablets are working now though as I havent been as bad. It's just boredom.

Is it wrong to want everything so soon, I just want to be stretched, but I cant keep doing a week in a job and then getting bored.

LookingAhead

Ask your Manager for more to do maybe? Tell him/her that you can cope with more. What's the worst that can happen?

gettingitsorted

you have only just started so as with any job there is training to do but just think in the long run when the training is done then this job could be just the one for you ,give yourself a chance and im sure it will be fine

CAFCGirl

Hi LTD,

I've just read through your post with great interest. I'm 22 and over the past 6 months have had some really stressful situations which led to me being off work for the best part of 3 weeks, no support from my employer and if I'm honest bordering on the edge.

I was having daily panic attacks, couldnt eat, sleep sit still, motivate myself to do anything. I'd virtually gone down the pan! Even had the paramedics called out by my flatmate twice as I was so into a panic attack that my body as convulsing, I was sick, tears streaming down my face, lost all feeling in hands and feet etc.

However!
I slowly but surely pulled myself out of it. It was very hard because I literally felt like I had the support of people on this forum and that was it! My BF was, and still is, unsupportive, has no sympathy and lacks any understanding.

You sound like you've had a lot to take in, in a very short space of time, the job offers in particular. I'm glad you're liking your new job, but I would say the boredom of training (anywhere!) is to be expected, but if you really want to achieve in life, be someone and get somewhere, which you obviously do, you need to make each event, however small, into a learning experience.

What you dont want is your new employers to see your boredom and a total lack of interest in the job, and to then ask for more work, career progression etc because they wont see you as someone who wants to do it for enjoyment, they'll see it as money minded.

Now I'm not saying for one second that you are in any way shape or form. But starting a new job is relatively easy in some respects because they dont lay too much on you, and they ease you in. What will really matter is what you do, and can achieve a few months down the line, with some hard work, enthusiasm and love for what you do.

Be there because you want to be there, not necessarily for the overtime, or the status and that will go a lot further to showing your employers that you're the type of person they want to focus and drive!

Good luck with everything, and I hope you enjoy your new job, but please do take it one day at a time. For each up, there is generally a low, and its how we cope with that, which shows us how strong we are.

If you need a chat or anything, there are lots of people here for you, and as someone who has recently been through almost the same thing, feel free to PM me for advice or support

learning_to_drive

Very true, I did only start on Monday though!

It's just I dont know, I hate the thought of moving from job to job like I have being recently, I'm just bored, already, its like even with the job, its going to be boring, as a result, I just get worked up about stuff a bit.

Not as much as I used to, I just feel that I should have gone back to Sainsbury's so that I could at least enjoy what I did.

learning_to_drive

I just think that I feel like I am wasting my obvious potential should I stay where I am, on the phones, (training). It's very laid back and its just not me.

I love the hustle and bustle, and yeah, ive slagged retail off, but at least I enjoyed it, I just dont know, I talked myself out of a career with JS because of what happened in the past.

But i miss it, I cant do an office job, obviously I will, as I said to my parents, Its not like Im saying I cant work, I will work, and want to work, but I want to do something I enjoy before I decide what to do with my life.

learning_to_drive

I had a great chat with CAFC girl, which really helped, we haven't discussed everything but apprently Im all go go go and never take time out to slow down or just relax.

It's very true, I want the job to fail I think so I can go back to Sainsbury's, I dont know though, I mean I do want to go back to Sainsbury's and all that (if they will let me) but at the same time.

I dont know, Im over thinking everything at the minute, nowhere near as bad as what I was at FD or indeed before, the tablets are working.

On another note, I'm now teetotal, I'll start a seperate thread for that as I would like to gauge what the opinion is of this strategy.