Paying 'keep' HELP!!!

Morty_007

Fang wrote: »

You're nearly there, but not quite. You're absolutely right that if he wasn't there then she wouldn't be able to take it from him, but at 14 or 15 whatever age he was, where was he to get the money from to leave home when his mother was taking it all from his employer and giving him a small amount back? Or are you one of these people that think people being domestically abused choose to stay too?

Convenient that you forgot to mention he was 14/15...so not exactly old enough to leave home or probably planning to? (unless you're suggesting he was being domestically abused?...)

I won't. I wouldn't want to overtax whatever's left.;)

I actually meant "please don't bore me any further with your pointless, irrelevant arguements because I really can't be bothered to read them any more" but I was trying to be polite.

'Excess' not 'excesses'.;)

Don't even go grammar police on me Mr Your/you're. People in glass houses and all that...

I wouldn't average it out - it's a parent's responsibility to provide for the life that they create - the child shouldn't then be required to keep their parents because of this. Perhaps you feel differently

*YAWN*

I won't be continuing this battle of wits with you dear, it would appear you are almost entirely unarmed. Thanks though.

BitterAndTwisted

What kind of person would contemplate calling their own mother a scammer? And in writing, too? Not only did the OP disbelieve her mother's perfectly reasonable request for £100 a week for her keep, she actually had the gall to ask her mother to prove what the household outgoings were. And the poor mother provided that proof. This is the most utterly disgraceful attitude and behaviour I could conceive of.

It just doesn't bear thinking about the number of sleepless nights this mother must have had, trying to figure out how to keep the household going and seeing her redundancy money going down and down and down. Meanwhile desperately trying to find a job so that the house won't be lost to repossession.

I NEED this whole thread to be the work of a troll

Morty_007

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I NEED this whole thread to be the work of a troll

I know what you mean

BitterAndTwisted

Morty_007 wrote: »

Convenient that you forgot to mention he was 14/15...so not exactly old enough to leave home or probably planning to? (unless you're suggesting he was being domestically abused?...)

Actually, if Fang was describing events rather a long time ago s/he would not have necessarily been making this up. They have described precisely how my grandmother treated her two eldest children. It was the main reason why my Dad joined the army as soon as he was able to, just to get away from home. Both he and my Aunt told me that grandmother used to wait outside their workplace on a Friday afternoon and demand their unopened pay-packets. Out of which they were given back sixpence a week for themselves.

Fang_3

Morty_007 wrote: »

Convenient that you forgot to mention he was 14/15...so not exactly old enough to leave home or probably planning to? (unless you're suggesting he was being domestically abused?...)

This is 40 years ago. Would a few years really make a difference? And actually I think he was being abused - financially. You obviously don't.

Morty_007 wrote: »

I actually meant "please don't bore me any further with your pointless, irrelevant arguements because I really can't be bothered to read them any more" but I was trying to be polite.

How sweet of you. You really must learn not to take things so personally.

Morty_007 wrote: »

Don't even go grammar police on me Mr Your/you're. People in glass houses and all that...

No grammar police - pedantry. You don't seem to be able to read very well. Perhaps some adult literacy lessons would help?;)

Morty_007 wrote: »

*YAWN*

I won't be continuing this battle of wits with you dear, it would appear you are almost entirely unarmed. Thanks though.

If that were the case we'd be evenly matched.;)

Night night dear, don't let the spiders bite.

Fang_3

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Actually, if Fang was describing events rather a long time ago s/he would not have necessarily been making this up. They have described precisely how my grandmother treated her two eldest children. It was the main reason why my Dad joined the army as soon as he was able to, just to get away from home. Both he and my Aunt told me that grandmother used to wait outside their workplace on a Friday afternoon and demand their unopened pay-packets. Out of which they were given back sixpence a week for themselves.

It was about 40 years ago maybe. Which I would've thought was obvious given I made it crystal clear that his mother now lives with his family. That poster seems to take a lot personally and not take the time to read things through properly.:(

Morty_007

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Actually, if Fang was describing events rather a long time ago s/he would not have necessarily been making this up. They have described precisely how my grandmother treated her two eldest children. It was the main reason why my Dad joined the army as soon as he was able to, just to get away from home. Both he and my Aunt told me that grandmother used to wait outside their workplace on a Friday afternoon and demand their unopened pay-packets. Out of which they were given back sixpence a week for themselves.

I didn't suggest he was making it up (!?) just that it was a choice to stay and it was a different scenario to the OP...I wasn't to know the child was 14/15 at the time...the OP is 23ish...she has a choice to stay or go...as did this person...had they not been 14/15 which the poster did not reveal.

Bet the OP is thrilled the thread has gone so far off topic...takes the heat off them.

sausagesandwich19

Sausages that's all i can say

Poly,put_the_kettle_on

Ok, so I skipped a few pages, but OP- one question.

Is your intended Masters in Baiting?

sweetilemon

Its a shock to the system having to pay your way but if your mum is struggling its reasonable to ask you to help out. I'm 23 never paid digs but bought my own flat at 19. Its a reasonable amount to ask for as at the end of the day if you both didnt live there she would be able to downsize and not pay as much for bills. As for paying part of the mortgage you'll probably inherit it in the end anyway but as someone else said thats all you do when renting anyway.