Paying 'keep' HELP!!!

Morty_007

Sweetheart wrote: »

She didnt give me a thing. I paid my fee's myself. I lived at home and took a part time job.

I got this far and I can't bear it any longer...on the whole i'm speechless but I need to make this point...You are contradicting yourself in this statement...

She didn't give me a thing...I lived at home...

She "gave you" a roof over your head, paid your bills, cooked your food and made sure you weren't DEAD by the end of it. I think you need to REASSESS YOUR PRIORITIES. YOU ARE A 23 YEAR OLD CHILD WHO HAS NO CLUE. Didn't mean that to be caps, but I can't be bothered to retype it, I kinda like how it looks now.

On another note, if you PM me I have a flat in London which is near a train station for transport with ALL bills inclusive (yes, everything) including all your food cooked and all your washing done (live in maid you see) for £35 a month. in fact, for the first 6 months you can have it free, see if you like it first. It's in a little known area called CLOUD CUKOO LAND, just off UNGRATEFUL CHILD CRESCENT and down the road from THE SELFISH, SELF CENTRED PLAZA. I think you'll fit in just fine with the neighbours.

I hope for your mothers sake you're a troll.

January20

Morty_007 wrote: »

On another note, if you PM me I have a flat in London which is near a train station for transport with ALL bills inclusive (yes, everything) including all your food cooked and all your washing done (live in maid you see) for £35 a month. in fact, for the first 6 months you can have it free, see if you like it first. It's in a little known area called CLOUD CUKOO LAND, just off UNGRATEFUL CHILD CRESCENT and down the road from THE SELFISH, SELF CENTRED PLAZA. I think you'll fit in just fine with the neighbours.

I hope for your mothers sake you're a troll.

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vesper

I really hope this is a wind up. You aren't willing to contribute to your mother's mortgage and keep a roof over your head as she would be profiteering out of you, but yet you would be willing to move out and rent somewhere. Hate to tell you but then you would be paying a landlord who is 'profiteering' out of you for a roof over your head.
I vey much doubt that you would find somewhere that would cover everything for that price. I am in a cheap area and share with my partner and my half of the bills are over that!! If you move out would you be able to pay for all of the other bits and pieces you need such as kettle, pots and pans? as moving out can be a very expensive process.

I was paying rent to my parents at a lot younger age as you. In fact as soon as I hit 18, I paid rent. Never did a day go when I begrudged this as they were providing a home for me.

Fang_3

I have no doubt the OP is a troll, but I am quite amused by all the people demanding that everyone must pay a certain amount. If the OP were real, then of course she should help her mother - absolutely no question. But have any of you 'must-payers' considered the payback of such action? A relative of mine (through marriage) was effectively prevented from leaving home by his mother who took his wages and handed him back a small amount which meant he had very little money. Doing that meant he had to walk miles to work every morning to do ten hours of a very physical job rather than get the bus because he couldn't afford it. All the time she told everyone that she was teaching him how to be an adult and that one day he'd thank her, but she never thanked him for all the things his wages paid for her - her rent, her food, her holidays, her caravan and more Bingo than is healthy. She now lives with him and he charges her rent, and he charges her for every single thing he does for her and as far as I'm concerned that is absolutely right.

Obviously not every situation will turn out like that, but can't help but wonder what the 'must-payers' would if the situation were reversed in the future?

When there is a need then it is only fair, but when there isn't a need, then shouldn't a parent be helping their adult children by saving the excess in order to help them with a house deposit?

stejobeth

I have just showed this thread to my daughter (15 next month) and asked her what she thought. Her exact words were "she needs to get real, how selfish is she?".

I still think she's winding us all up though (at least I hope she is!)

Sambucus_Nigra

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iq74uCotnfs&feature=related

sock-knitter

the OP sounds like one of my sons, ungrateful and selfish, he is 15 and has a lot to learn.
at 16 i was paying my way at my parents house. from 21 i had my own place, and paid all the bills, and it certainly cost over 100 pound per week, even tho it was a council flat, so relatively cheap rent

jpwhittle

OMG you seriously need to grow up, i find it very hard to believe that you have finished a uni course with that attitude!!!!!!

At 24 i was married and paying all my bills, and i can assure you that it costs alot more than £400 to keep everything going, Please remember you also have the little things to pay for like FOOD, and WASHING MACHINES, and WASHING POWDER. not to mention any little luxuries you might like. I take it your using your mums internet right now? But i guess you shouldnt have to help with that right?

For god sake your mother kept you untill she is at breaking point, she didnt ask to lose her job she was made redundant, NOT HER FAULT, she really didnt ask for it, and now shes desperate, you are acting like such a spoilt little brat. I know if it was my mum, id be bending over backwards to help her, I wish my bills were only £400 a month.

Grow up child or move out and find out what the real worlds like.

Morty_007

Fang wrote: »

I have no doubt the OP is a troll, but I am quite amused by all the people demanding that everyone must pay a certain amount. If the OP were real, then of course she should help her mother - absolutely no question. But have any of you 'must-payers' considered the payback of such action? A relative of mine (through marriage) was effectively prevented from leaving home by his mother who took his wages and handed him back a small amount which meant he had very little money. Doing that meant he had to walk miles to work every morning to do ten hours of a very physical job rather than get the bus because he couldn't afford it. All the time she told everyone that she was teaching him how to be an adult and that one day he'd thank her, but she never thanked him for all the things his wages paid for her - her rent, her food, her holidays, her caravan and more Bingo than is healthy. She now lives with him and he charges her rent, and he charges her for every single thing he does for her and as far as I'm concerned that is absolutely right.

Obviously not every situation will turn out like that, but can't help but wonder what the 'must-payers' would if the situation were reversed in the future?

When there is a need then it is only fair, but when there isn't a need, then shouldn't a parent be helping their adult children by saving the excess in order to help them with a house deposit?

The thing is Fang, the situation ISN'T as you are stating it. And as far as I can work out your relative wasn't forced to stay home, they chose to...they could have taken their pay andmoved out...?

The OP's situation is completely different in that there IS no spare money. The OP isn't being asked to pay for her mothers Holidays, bingo and caravan. And if the roles were reversed and the OP's mother was living with her, then YES I do think the mother should be asked to contribute in the way her daughter is.

And finally, no, I don't think a parent should be helping their ADULT child by saving the excess in order to help them with a house deposit...unles they want to.

joanne0620

Grow up, this is your mother you're slagging off and accusing of trying to rip you off!!!

You really need a reality check lady.

If you were my daughter and I read what you'd written about me on a public forum you'd be out of MY house fast with my size 5 up your backside.

Disgraceful.