Paying 'keep' HELP!!!

Mrs_Arcanum

Sweetheart - I would make sure your mum never reads this thread or your stuff will be on the pavement before she gets to the end of the first page.

MrsDavo

Sweetheart wrote: »

No, Bills£1200

I pay £200
He pays £120 - (which isnt fair!)
she pays rest over £1000 as she has other bills to pay too...but she would have to pay those bills whether I was here or not. Its HER responsibility nothing to do with me

But can't you see that it IS to do with you? You live there too, and therefore need to pay a third?

Your mum can't make your brother pay what he doesnt have, and he already pays £40 out of £65, leaving him with £25 per week.

Whereas you are left with £1000 per month at the moment, and £800 under the arrangment, which is hardly fair on the other members of your household is it?

I think the jist of it is, if you don't want to pay the £200 more to help your mum, then move out. Simple as that.

But hear this, I lost my Mum when I was 14. I have no parents. If I had her here with me now, I would give her the clothes from my back if it was a choice between me or her.

God forbid you shouldnt be able to survive in the future and have to turn to your mum or brother for help because they are all you have left......what do you think she would or even SHOULD say?

ovoreo

Sweetheart wrote: »

BUT if we werent living there - shes have to pay the bills anyway! So she should just be glad we're there to help or she'd starve!

You do realise that these bills wouldn't be as high if you and brother weren't living there?! And if you were not living there she could get lodger(s) who would pay. Maybe you need to do yourself a favour and get out on your own, I think you'd be alot happier.

Tropez

scotsgirl wrote: »

It is to do with you. if you didn't live there then she would get a lodger in who would happily pay what you are being asked. Or, she would sell up, buy/rent somewhere much smaller and reduce her bills. Housing you costs money.

Yes it would be great if your brother paid more but he can't pay what he doesn't earn. He should look for a full time job, but that doesn't negate your responsibilities.

However, I'm increasingly agreeing with those saying trip trap trip trap. I'm only a year older than you, and I don't know how you could get to 23 and be THIS naive!

I'm inclined to believe this is a wind-up, but sadly, I could also believe that this is somebody who is extremely naive.

A friend of mine thought that he would still get summer holidays off when he started work! :rotfl::rotfl:

Somebody else had no idea what income tax was, and was shocked to find their first payslip had deductions on it!

And then there was the girl who thought that water was free...

January20

Sweetheart wrote: »

jANUARY20, I am asking for NOTHING!!!

You are asking your mother to allow you to live under HER roof for £50 per week even though she has been made redundant and has no job at the moment therefore no money coming in.

You are refusing to understand that you are not reasonable and that even if you have to pay £100 per week, it will still be a great deal!

If she allowed you, you would sponge off her and live there paying nothing. You have no shame!

JCP

I normally just read this board, but have been prompted into contributing.

I'm just utterly gobsmacked that somebody who has apparently attained a degree can be so wilfully stupid!
Sweetheart - your mother is giving you a stunning deal!
You were paying £50/wk and were whinging - this is what I was paying in a shared house in London 20yrs ago (ex bills)!
Now you are being asked to contribute £100 which is getting on for being more realistic, but are continuing to !!!!!.
You just do not have a clue.

You would do well to move out and let your mother rent the room out - I know any number youngsters starting out at my firm who would leap at the opportunity to rent a room including all bills for £100/wk, and they would be grateful for it & respectful of your mother.
Do everyone a favour and get out into the real world for a bit. I reckon it won't be long before you realise how lucky you were to live at home for so long. Oh, and don't bother with the Masters - you don't appear to have the basic intellect to make it a worthwhile investment.

ifonlyitwaseasier

i'm sticking with troll,




and btw i live with my folks and pay what the "op" is being asked to pay each month, in my case it's 50% of my wages, but as it's far less than i'd pay living on my own i don't begrudge a penny

DCFC79

Sweetheart wrote: »

No, Bills£1200

I pay £200
He pays £120 - (which isnt fair!)
she pays rest over £1000 as she has other bills to pay too...but she would have to pay those bills whether I was here or not. Its HER responsibility nothing to do with me

it is your responsibility since you live there so you pay your share likewise with your brother,

Annisele

I agree the OP is probably a troll, but adding to the chorus of disapproval anyway.

I don't know whereabouts in London you're talking about, but you can look at the rates for Local Housing Allowance (LHA) here. LHA is a benefit paid to people who couldn't otherwise afford to rent anywhere to live - so the rates assume you'll be renting somewhere that is not palatial. If you were 23 and living in Tower Hamlets, the LHA rate would be between £100 and £140 - and that is considered to be enough to let you rent a room in a shared house. It pays the rent only - no food, bills, or other costs.

£100 a week is an absolute steal. If you don't agree, you should move out pronto and let your mother charge somebody else the going rate for your room.

juliethemuse

i asked my son for £20.00 yes TWENTY miserable pounds a week , lodge money and he refused to pay it, he was earning good money and openly left his bank statements scattered about showing he had over a thousand pounds in his bank account, i felt he was taking the pi$$ out of us so asked him to get his own place he now has no money left at the end of the month because of his own selfishness, yet he felt we were been greedy daring to ask him for money,
i think you are getting a bargain, my mum and dad made me pay £30.00 a week, and that was 30 years ago,
so now with inflation i bet it would be around £100 a week, and there would be no messing, if i did not pay i would have neen out,