Paying 'keep' HELP!!!

Mrs_Arcanum

DCFC79 wrote: »

she wants you to pay 400 as that is a third of the cost of the bills which are 1200, you with me so far

i could be wrong but i think you brother is paying more than a thrid and your mum pays the last third,

Her brother is paying £40 per week out of a total income of £65. So well over half his money.

Sweetheart

DCFC79 wrote: »

she wants you to pay 400 as that is a third of the cost of the bills which are 1200, you with me so far

i could be wrong but i think you brother is paying more than a thrid and your mum pays the last third,

No, Bills£1200

I pay £200
He pays £120 - (which isnt fair!)
she pays rest over £1000 as she has other bills to pay too...but she would have to pay those bills whether I was here or not. Its HER responsibility nothing to do with me

Mrs_Arcanum

Sweetheart wrote: »

No, Bills£1200

I pay £200
He pays £120 - (which isnt fair!)
she pays rest over £1000 as she has other bills to pay too...but she would have to pay those bills whether I was here or not. Its HER responsibility nothing to do with me

If you were not there she could sell up and perhaps buy or rent somewhere more affordable.

Why is the £120 from your brother not fair?

Kilty_2

If this isn't a wind-up and you're feeling that hard done by, move out and try to fend for yourself. Given your attitude to this situation I doubt you're mature enough to cope on your own and it really surprises me that you claim to be 23.

Alternatively, get a grip of yourself and help out the person who's provided for you for all of these years and has now fallen on hard times.

Tropez

Sweetheart wrote: »

No, Bills£1200

I pay £200
He pays £120 - (which isnt fair!)
she pays rest over £1000 as she has other bills to pay too...but she would have to pay those bills whether I was here or not. Its HER responsibility nothing to do with me

Then leave.

Are you that blind to the real world that you don't realise that by you being there the amount of fuel and associated costs, for example, increase?

If you left, she could let a room out, take advantage of the £4k tax free allowance that the government permits under the rent a room scheme and be better off.

Or she could sell her house and move to a smaller, more economic abode, dwindling your potential inheritance in the process (although, if you were my daughter, I'd have written you out of my will by now ).

As you insist that it is her home, you should accept that she has the right to charge you rent at whatever rate she deems to be fair. You can choose to pay that rent, or you can choose to leave. Whining about it to people on the Internet isn't going to change a thing about your situation.

xoxo_2

Sweetheart wrote: »

she would have to pay those bills whether I was here or not. Its HER responsibility nothing to do with me

What a selfish ungrateful nasty person you are! :mad:

I hope no child of mine ever turns out like you! I wouldn't hesitate to help them pack up and move out if they dared to think they were being hard done by being asked to contribute to the family home when I was struggling!

ovoreo

I had to respond as you (OP) made me so angry. I paid £250 keep a month (exc landline/internet) and this was over 10 years ago. This was super cheap in my opinion (my mum also a single parent). Well done to your mum for making such a tough decision, to increase keep charged to her children. I am sure she wouldn't do this unless it was absolutely necessary, so if you don't pay your way then you will all loose the roof above your head (either my mum throwing you out or the bank). If you think your mum is scamming you by suggesting household bills for a family of 3 are £1200 then you need a wake up call.

Grow up, repair the damage you've done with you mum for treating her this way and pay up.

rainbow_791

You say it is your mums responsibility and has nothing to do with you, however, if you were not there your mum could have a lodger which would help her in regards of money. Therefore, as you are living there it is also your responsibility aswell as your mums

newlywed

So your brother is left with about £100 a month to spend on himself and you think it's unfair you will be left with £800??????

scotsgirl_3

It is to do with you. if you didn't live there then she would get a lodger in who would happily pay what you are being asked. Or, she would sell up, buy/rent somewhere much smaller and reduce her bills. Housing you costs money.

Yes it would be great if your brother paid more but he can't pay what he doesn't earn. He should look for a full time job, but that doesn't negate your responsibilities.

However, I'm increasingly agreeing with those saying trip trap trip trap. I'm only a year older than you, and I don't know how you could get to 23 and be THIS naive!