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lucylucky

CHRISSYG wrote: »

no actually it doesnt ! Op refers to girl/boyfriends.

But it wasn't the OP that was being quoted;)

Mupette

Not until they are 16, not excuses means not accidents.

DS is 16 now and seems to take an interest in girls now, spent last Sunday afternoon with 2 (yes 2) girls in one of their bedrooms, taking sill picys for facebook, i did say he can have friends visit, but i will insist the door stays open, although he did have my friends 15 daughter in the room with him a few weeks back, door open, me and the friend in the kitchen, which is opposite his room (convienient having a bungalow).

I dont like hearing oh well my child is 13 and her boyfriend stays over :eek: sorry but they will do it, and under-age too

1974Anna

CHRISSYG wrote: »

lets hope your next post isnt "omg teen pregnant "

LOL yes thankfully they don't "do" girls! But yes I was worried I would get challenged for being a bad parent or something and didn't have the courage to use my usual MSE username.

My boys are very clued up on their own identities and on sex and risk. Much more so than I was at their age.

Gavin83

I think in all honesty you should clue them up on condoms and ask any daughters to go on the pill and then just ask them to be careful. I can respect why parents wouldn't want it happening under their roof but I think it's naive to think that just because you don't allow it in your house it doesn't happen. I also think you shouldn't expect your son/daughter not to have an interest, I didn't tell my parents at all about my first few girlfriends!

looby75

1974Anna wrote: »

LOL yes thankfully they don't "do" girls! But yes I was worried I would get challenged for being a bad parent or something and didn't have the courage to use my usual MSE username.

My boys are very clued up on their own identities and on sex and risk. Much more so than I was at their age.

as long as they know about safe sex then I can't see why anyone would call you a bad parent!

I think most kids are much more clued up about sex these days, in some ways thats great as long as they don't let their hormones get in the way of common sense lol

the_cat

Too early at 13 IMO, although mine didn't have girlfriends at that age so wasn't tested out on that thankfully. At 17 (DS now nearly 18) I think they should be able to make their own decisions. Put crudely, whether or not I allow them into a bedroom together or not at that age has very little impact on whether they decide to have sex! Where there is a will and all that........

I would rather they felt trusted and welcome in my house.

Any

CHRISSYG wrote: »

lets hope your next post isnt "omg teen pregnant "

If they wanted to do it they would do it no matter. The DD would just get pregnant on cold grass rather then on bed.
It's about cluing them up on the subject, not just strict "NO". I am firm believer in the more one thing is forbidden the more one wants to try it.
Either that or a chastity belt:-)

Lucy1973

My son is 16 and a half and been with his girlfriend for 2 and half years. We were quite strict re my son having his gf staying over,up until about 6 months ago. The reason being is the gf's mum seemed happy re my son staying over hers,so tbh we relaxed too. It's obv a serious relationship so I wouldn't allow it if he wanted a different girl over each week.

pigpen

DS1 has his gf stay over.. but he has lived away from home for 3 years and moved back recently and is 19 with a 2 y/o little boy.. not much good staying no chance would do lol

DD1 is 16 and absolutely not a chance!

DS2 is 15 and not into girlies/boyos yet .. he shares a room with 12 y/o ds too so that won't happen... in bunk beds lol

DD2 is 13 and likes to think she might like boys but isn't really into anything like that yet.. bt the answer would be no anyway!

The 4 smallest girls are too young though DD3 wll be a bit of a tart i can see it happening already at 10

viktory

CHRISSYG wrote: »

lets hope your next post isnt "omg teen pregnant "

Unlikely considering it is boyfriends her teenage sons are bringing home!

1974Anna wrote: »

DS1 and DS2 (16 / 17) both bring boyfriends back and I allow them to stay over but not on school nights. I invariably meet them for the first time as they wander into the kitchen in the morning. Usually just in their pants. Rarely see them again although DS2 seems to be getting serious about one. My parents never allowed me to bring anyone home and resented it. I don't want to be resented like that.