Do you allow......

busiscoming2

your teenage (between about 13 and 17) children to have their boy/girlfriend in their bedroom?

happy35

yes during the day if I am in and the bedroom door is open

ailuro2

no we won't - our DD is 12, any study with 'friends' can be done in the playroom or at the kitchen table.

Cup_Cake

My parents certainly wouldn't have allowed me to have been in my bedroom at that age.

I was allowed alone in my bedroom at 16 (for obvious reasons).

We normally sat in the study or conservatory.

Cup_Cake xx

Alikay

Only in the daytime, with the door open and a house full of people! Sounds strict but when my lovely DD was 15 she and the hormonal grunt she was in love with at the time simply couldn't be trusted alone!

Once A levels were out of the way the rules were relaxed dramatically, but she'd matured by then and was a bit more discerning! My sons weren't so interested in girls until they were a little older so it didn't crop up, but the rules would've been the same.

System

it was never allowed when i was a teen , the "rules" relaxed when i became engaged at the ripe old age of 28 !

1974Anna

DS1 and DS2 (16 / 17) both bring boyfriends back and I allow them to stay over but not on school nights. I invariably meet them for the first time as they wander into the kitchen in the morning. Usually just in their pants. Rarely see them again although DS2 seems to be getting serious about one. My parents never allowed me to bring anyone home and resented it. I don't want to be resented like that.

mintymoneysaver

I do allow my 17 year old to go upstairs with her boyfriend. She also took the last one upstairs when she was 15 almost 16. My theory is that she is still at the stage where she wouldn't do anything while I was in the house ( hopefully!) She has also stayed over at his house a couple of times ( in his sister's bedroom, she assures me) You have to trust them, don't you?:rotfl:Having said that, she knows my views like the fact that even if she does sleep with him eventually they won't be sharing a bedroom in my house until they're married! I don't think I would let a 13-14 year old go upstairs, thankfully mine never had boyfriends at that age.

onlyroz

Not until I was married...

Mrs_Arcanum

Yet to have to make the decision DD 14 (nearly15) & DS 11 (nearly 12). I think DH would say no where I would say yes - knowing my children.

busiscoming2

Mrs_Arcanum wrote: »

Yet to have to make the decision DD 14 (nearly15) & DS 11 (nearly 12). I think DH would say no where I would say yes - knowing my children.

The situation never arose with my older two, but DS2 who is 14 and has discovered girls! while I don't really have a problem with it my DH does. I would rather know where he is than have him wandering around and hanging about in the park. Also at this stage I am pretty confident I can trust him IYKWIM.