Vent :(

Percy1983

By all means different things work for different people, it sn ot so much about splitting everything squally, more finding a balance you are both happy with, in this case that clearly isn't happening.

alanalea

WestonDave wrote: »

Look - I don't know you from Adam (or should that be Eve), but you are worth better than that. Families work much better when you all try to get as much done as possible, not when its a skiving competition! Most days I get up first, shower etc before giving the kids their breakfast, head off for 9hours work and commute (OK so I get a lunch hour in that but most days its used picking up shopping we need), come home hopefully in time to help put the kids to bed before normally cooking an evening meal for me and my OH. I'm well acquainted with the washing machine, and the various cleaning products in the house (although I'm really untidy before anyone thinks I'm a half decent male specimen!).

OK so I tend to cook because I enjoy it and find it a good way of winding down after the day, but although my OH only works part time (although that is increasing) I've always tended to have more energy out of the two of us so its only natural that I get on and do more of the boring stuff, so we all get to have a fair share of the fun as well. I could sit on my ample rear and expect my OH to wear herself out doing more of the chores etc, but then we'd not be able to have family time together.

WesternDave.... Can I swap you with my Southern Dave please....

FakeIrish

Percy1983 wrote: »

I do hope you posted that as a joke, I gave a copy to by better half a while ago, she just laughed at me... :rotfl:

What's the difference between posting this (as a joke;)) and giving a copy to the other half?:p

Amber07

bargainbetty wrote: »

My mum used to do a cracking one on my dad, who could sulk for England. She would walk in, ask him what he wanted for tea. No response. 'Shall I do you egg and chips then?' No response. 'I'll do you egg and chips, I know you like that.' She would give him his plate of egg and chips, and then sit down with a large steak, mushrooms, fried onions and chips. When he broke silence to ask why she had steak and he had eggs, she smiled sweetly and said 'You didn't say you wanted any steak.'

:rotfl::T:T

Mind you, at that point, I would have said 'oh you don't want anything? Ok then' and still sit down with steak

gratefulforhelp_2

MERFE wrote: »

Ha mine OH tells me off for putting the teaspoons round the wrong way - I just laugh at him now but it used to be a big issue - he has lightened up a bit - I've told him several times if he doesn't like how I do it he is welcome to do it himself.

OMG merfe I am the person who moans about the teaspoons:eek:

FakeIrish wrote: »

See the first bullet point from the Good wife's Guide:

http://www.j-walk.com/other/goodwife/index.htm

I love this...have seen it before but it still makes me laugh. I am working on "being a little gay" since I think he will appreciate that the most:rotfl:

tattyuk75

My partner could have written that list....my thoughts are with you OP, I just hope he realises in time what he has and gets a grip, before it is too late and as everyone knows...you don't know what you've got 'til it's gone.

olibrofiz

Some good replies, and some funny ones :D

Really feel for you, spent 4 years with someone that used to sulk and not speak to me for days even though I was trying to keep it all together and working my a*&" off. Never, ever again. Absolute mental torture.

With hindsight, & in your case, I think I'd refuse to do whatever it was that made him have a sulk strop in the first case, until he apologised.

charlie792

oh I feel your pain!
my ex was one of the biggest sulkers going, everything had to be on his terms if not he'd strop around for days on end, certainly don't envy his new gf

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

OMG merfe I am the person who moans about the teaspoons:eek:

Haha me and OH always have a moan about cutlery! (thankfully it is fairly light hearted) he reckons I do a c%^p job at washing up, I tell him to do it himself, we argue about the 'right' way up the cutlery should go in the drainer and even wether it should be forks-knives-spoons in the draw or as he insists knives-forks-spoons...I always change it back again whilst hes at work :rotfl:

lostinrates

RoxieW wrote: »

I did him a list yesterday of all the housework jobs and to,d him he can do 50 per cent of the weekend jobs. He's refusing.
Things are going to chance. I'm pig sick of this.

I hear everything you say but this bit....he's not your child to ''tell''. TBH, it sounds like neither of you are really expressing what you are feeling...sometimes thats a good thig to do, to ride over rough times, but not so that it becomes a way of life for you both...it leads to these resentments and sulks.

Poor you, its horrid feeling unvalued. I wonder what he's feeling?

I think having a good heart to heart ..or being helped to talk trough things, make agreements and agree where to disagree, is the only solution here.

meritaten

my OH can sulk for Wales! after 30 odd years I am now so used to it I can totally ignore it! it doesnt affect me in the slightest - which I can see really annoys him. I talk to him as normal, ignore the non-response, giggle at things I find funny - he thinks If HE is in a moody then then everyone else should be too - and the look of shock on his face when I laff at the TV or radio!!! the kids can take one look at his face and know to ask favours through me! I joke that I am HIS interpreter then! my MIL put it best - she would say 'Look out - He is wearing his Arrrrrse on his face again'! He either then breaks down and tells me whats really bothering him - or he realisis he is being a twit and comes round!