Vent :(

Amber07

eliviajen wrote: »

The trigger for me to say something was the day he came through after having a lie in and started ranting over how i didnt fold socks properly... I'm a bit lax about turning them the right way before folding.

(mind you he still complains if i dont turn the socks....)

Do you mean he takes them off, they go inside out and he expects you to fix it?

His fault, his problem. I never put socks in the right way before folding them. Anyone complaining would soon find themselves a new chore allocation :rotfl::D

nzmegs

Hi Roxie, do you think your hubby is getting annoyed about your work? Sometimes men who are used to being the sole breadwinner see "their" woman working as being a bit of a slap in the face and an indication that they are not doing a good enough job themselves. Do you think he might feel you should have the work done before he gets home and that the evenings should be spent with him?

I can certainly relate to this but I don't have kids to look after during the day so I can get my work done before he gets home. On the rare occasions when I do have get something done in the evening I do get the odd strop which really annoys me!

Maybe you could have a chat with him about the importance of the extra income and how you still manage to get the housework and childcare done while doing work to bring in extra money.Ask him if he would be able to do the same. it might put things into persepctive for him.

On the other hand perhaps you could indulge him and offer to have one or two nights a week when you BOTH take the time to spend the evening together either going out or having a special night at home. For my hubby and me, Friday nights are our night. Nothing comes before it. Once the kids are in bed, the wine bottle comes out, a DVD is put on and we enjoy time together. Might that help the situation for you?

In the meantime, don't rise to his behaviour. Carry on as normal because he is an adult and if he has an issue he should bring it up. there is nothing worse than walking on eggshells in your own home. He needs to grow up and have it out with you and come to a solution. If not then he can expect whatever is wrong to continue. you aren't a mind reader.

skypie123_2

My ex husband was like this with me for months. turned out he was having an affair and 'justified' it to himself by belittling me and telling himself how badly treated he was etc.
We are now happily divorced!
I am not saying your man is having an affair but that something is obviously going on in his head (be it work or whatever) that is making him treat you (the closest person to him) like this
xxx

quietheart

I made pancakes on Tuesday. The kids ate them all.
OH came home, kids said they'd had pancakes, OH asked where his pancakes were. I said I'd make more later.
I didn't.
He ate something else.
Everything carried on as normal.:o

Maybe you should show him this thread and he might be shamed into copping himself on.....

pinkshoes

Roxie, you were very restrained! I would have tipped the pancake batter over his head!

I'd definitely confront him, and tell him you're fed up of the sulking, and things can't continue like this.

sunshinetours

Think you obviously both need to swallow pride and have a proper talk - it clearly has nothing (in reality) to do with pancakes if has been going on for months.

Hope you get it sorted

PolishBigSpender

I would honestly refuse to cook for someone like that ever again.

scooby088

only thing is when i sulk my misses still cooks for me unfortunately:rotfl:

smash7

Sounds like he takes what you do for granted... Instead of being appreciative, he is expectant of you; he expects you to have his dinner ready.

My DH did this once before and he will never do it again...! I completely ignored his sulk and did not do anything for him (dinner, lunches, washing clothes, etc) until he realised how much of a pr@t he was being and after a few days, he was tired of eating beans on toast and had no clean clothes. :rotfl: He learnt the lesson quickly and now, he even helps out a lot more around the house :T

I would certainly sit down and talk to him in depth as it sounds like it could be something more if he's been miserable/sulking about different things for a while. Good luck - nobody said relationships were supposed to be easy

ancientmum

My husband ignored me for the day of our son's wedding because a parking space I had suggested had us clamped. Apparently I was supposed to notice the sign ten feet up on a wall, I offered to pay the fine but he just ignored that too. We had left the hotel to go into town to but some film for his camera, he had forgotten to do it the day before. Oh, just read this and it sounds like a rant. Have waited two years to get this off my chest, not that I hold grudges or anything.