Vent :(

mrs_marty

Seriously?!? If he likes pancakes, can make pancakes then what is his issue?

I would have to say something to the huff puff!

MERFE

animum wrote: »

oh dear..god forbid he should make himself something! after playing football as well! sorry..didnt mean that horribly, meant to be kinda funny .
in all seriousness......whats it gonna be next?

tell him to get a grip! My husband (about to be ex) came home and whinged and moaned about me putting the knives, forks and spoons in the wrong order! that is when I decided I had had enough...obviously not just because of that (loads of other things).

I'm sure your OH is more than capable of making something to eat..... what happens if you are not there.?

Ha mine OH tells me off for putting the teaspoons round the wrong way - I just laugh at him now but it used to be a big issue - he has lightened up a bit - I've told him several times if he doesn't like how I do it he is welcome to do it himself.

OP Men grrrrr! He is unreasonable though, seriously. I had pancakes with DS a week ago and left everything out, leftover batter, frying pan etc because I meant to have a couple more once DS went to bed but changed my mind and forgot about it all. OH came home from work at 2am saw it all on the side and got to making himself pancakes and he was chuffed he got some. His sulk is probably going on longer because he knows he is so wrong.

RoxieW

He's been stropping for months. I have no idea why and he just says there's nothing wrong. Am not sure how much I can take of it. I'm not good with an atmosphere.

lostinrates

RoxieW wrote: »

He's been stropping for months. I have no idea why and he just says there's nothing wrong. Am not sure how much I can take of it. I'm not good with an atmosphere.

Ah. Is there a chance this is not about pancakes/supper then? I think you need to get past the ''there is nothing wrong'' because it sounds like something is..

maybe try ''I love you and I'm worried about you and its starting to hurt me....what's going on'' but trying to keep frustration out of your voice.

good luck.

jammy_dodger

Hi Op i am glad you have approached OH but if he says there is " nothing wrong " you need to sit down and say that YOu are not happy
say how you see things , petty stuff mounts up into huge mountains dont be worn down speak out ...
looking after a household and children is a joint responsibility

have a think about what you want to change and what you are not happy with
it'll be tough to talk but sounds lke you could use more support
I wish you well
deep breath xx JD xx

p_joker

I would ignore him and not wash any of his clothes do any of his ironing don't cook any more meals and see how much longer he can sulk for lol

barbiedoll

Yes, there's nothing worse than a sulker.

I just tell my old man that I'll be glad when his period starts! :rotfl:

Seriously though, it sounds as though something is getting him down, as he won't speak about it, he's just taking it out on you. Is it work worries, redundancy maybe? Money? Get him when he's in relatively good mood and ask him outright. I had this a while back and it turned out that he was feeling a bit insecure because I'm now earning more than him
It could be something and nothing but you need to get to the bottom of it. Good luck!

onlyroz

Well mine can go into the stroppiest of sulks over the silliest of things. It used to really upset me but now I just let him get on with it, and I find myself something else to keep me busy until it's over.

meritaten

hun - there IS something wrong! I cannot say what it is - but if he has been stropping for months and you havent sat down and had a heart to heart - then SOMETHING is wrong! you said in your post you were at work when he came in????????? does he come in - you go to work? have you got a revolving door marraige? (I know thats a bit personal, but could that be a factor?)

flippin36

I wonder if something is wrong. I don't like generalising, but the men I know don't communicate their anxieties easily - I'm wondering whether the jammydodger suggestion might be in order .

Edit: not excusing bad behaviour!