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balletshoes

RoxieW wrote: »

My husband is on his second day of ignoring me because he had to make his own tea yesterday.
He doesn't normally but me and the kids had pancakes which obv don't keep and by the time he got home from playing football at 8pm I was busy working. I'd saved him some batter in the fridge and ther were sweet and savoury fillings but it wasn't good enough apparently.
He ignored me all last night and is carrying it on this evening. I'm so frustrated I could scream. Last week he went into a massive mood for no apparent reason. Am not sure how much more of this I can take.

oh for goodness sake, how many kids is that you have (the biggest of which appears to be your OH).
If he can't give you the courtesy of talking to you as a human being, let him stew in his own juice. Ignore him, if you find it difficult being in a room with someone who is pointedly ignoring you, just don't be in the same room as him - go into another room, read a book/magazine, play with the kids, watch a DVD etc.

balletshoes

RoxieW wrote: »

He's been stropping for months. I have no idea why and he just says there's nothing wrong. Am not sure how much I can take of it. I'm not good with an atmosphere.

Sounds like this is not just a random toys out of pram moment then, if its been going on for a while. But if he won't tell you whats wrong, not sure what you can do? He might be spoiling for a big shouting match, if he knows you are likely to explode with the atmosphere of tension in the home.
When my OH used to get stressed at work he did occasionally bring it home and start stropping here with us. I told him I don't take my work problems out on him, so theres no reason for him to take his out on me.

Tropez

I have to make my own tea every night and make my partner's most nights too. Do you mean to say I could have been getting her to do this for me?

She might not get home until 10pm most nights but I think I'll bring this to her attention.

In all seriousness though, problems never get resolved if they're allowed to fester - they'll just get worse. If he's being stroppy with you then you need to open a dialogue about it. It is best for both of you.

pixie76

It definitely sounds like there is more to it than the pancakes but it is still not fair for you to put up with being ignored.

In my opinion (and experience) men who behave like that tend to do that for a reaction, even if it's seeing you flustered and upset about it. I know it's easier said than done but bite your tongue and just try and ignore him. You could maybe tell him that rather than going on childish it would be better if he told you what his problem was. But there's not much more than that which you can or should do, just let him get on with it...

I wish you all the best anyway.

Mupette

can you buy him a candy dummy, sounds like he needs it.

Give him an ultimatum, no pudding at all until he spills the beans on the months of sulking

nearlyrich

My DH never got any pancakes because I was away I got an overcooked chicken breast and no pancakes in the hotel I was at last night. My DH is prone to sulking ( but not about making his own tea) I just ignore him and he usually comes round and apologises for being a grump. He also like the cutlery in the right order in the drawer, I don't care either way but it's no hardship to put it the "right" way round to keep him happy

sashadesade

No reasonable person stops talking to someone for two days just because they had to make their own dinner. I agree with those saying there has to be more to it than that. If that genuinely is the only problem though, tell him he needs to grow the heck up and learn to do things for himself. You're not his mummy after all.

eliviajen

My other half used to sulk over silly things, just like yours! The trigger for me to say something was the day he came through after having a lie in and started ranting over how i didnt fold socks properly... I'm a bit lax about turning them the right way before folding.

I snapped, and he broke down about how work was treating him like poop, how he felt he had no control over anything anymore and how everything was getting on top of him - turns out he was stressed and depressed, a trip to the doctors sorted him out (mind you he still complains if i dont turn the socks....)

Amber07

Ohh I can't be doing with sulkers!! My hubby can do that, but if it was for something so petty it would drive me crazy. I certainly wouldn't be cooking for him until I had an apology for the ignorance and some appreciation.

I do agree with the others that there is obviously something else up and he is taking it out on you - I hope you manage to have a chat and find out what the problem is.