Low Mood Mummy Support Club

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Hi everyone i'm still here, just yesterday was super busy and i had another child to look after all day, which actually was fine as she is a lovely little girl (2 weeks older than my DD) and they do play lovely together. Just come the evening i couldn't be bothered to get the laptop on.

I've had a productive morning doing the family accounts that i didn't do the other day, washing, laundry, sorting paperwork and liaising with the builders. But at times on and off i have felt low and i don't know why (actually i do but i prefer not to go into it). But i'm very aware of how these other problems affect me.

DD has been dry at night for quite a few weeks now and i'd put a pull up on her and use it for 2-3 nights for starting a new one. We were going to wait until she goes into her new room to go nappy free, but wednesday night she asked to be like her brother and another friend. So she went to bed fine and woke up dry, then last night was a wet one, first time in weeks, so i had extra laundry to do today. Thats reminded me, i'd best get it off the line.

I'll give her a week but i've enough to do without wet beds. Thing is i know she can do it, maybe she had too much to drink before bed.

Oh well, how's everyone else's day.

And lastly we are due to go out tonight for a 40th birthday bash but i dont really feel like going, i'm such a homebody. Its a cowboy/cowgirl party, whilst we have outfits and i've a pink cowgirl hat to wear, i don't know whether to wear my hair up or down. What do cowgirls look like?

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Counting Pennies, you remembered correctly about my two with suspected chicken pox, but unfortunately they seem to be immune to it, they've been exposed so many times and still won't catch it.

Thanks for your concern though.

jpwhittle

hi all, well went to the docs and i feel no better at all, just sat in a room with 2 very cheery people telling them how i feel, they latched onto the anxiety attacks but didnt seem to grasp anything else or let me tell them about the nightmares. Then got sent for an emergancy meeting with a CPN, he wasnt my usual one, and, as much as he was good he just seemed to think that the bullying is in the past and i should focus on now and gave me some breathing techniques, Again not getting anywere past last weeks panic attack. I feel worse for seeing anyone than i did before.
Still have my appointment with my normal CPN on wednesday so hopefully that will go better, i just need someone to listen to how low i am and what its like when you have a nightmare you were shot in the head then you wake up and can still feel the bullet lodged were it was in your dream. I have just been sent home, told to breath and see my CPN on wednesday. Looks like another weekend of scary dreams for me.
My OH has an appointment at the doctors on monday because hes in the militery, it needs putting on his record why we have been moved. So i asked him to tell the docotr how bad i am and about these dreams and things, Maybe just maybe they will pay attention then. I know my cpn will i just have the long wait to see him.

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JP i hope you had a calmer weekend and feeling less anxiety. Have you any good friends or an understanding OH?

To everyone else, hope your all ok, i had a good weekend, but got a tad of the monday morning blue's.

nomuny

hi
feeling low low ( if you seen my other posts you'l know) due to a friends thoughtlessness have decided to try not to think about anyone but myself for a while as not willing to be treated like this anymore, just wish it was different I'm so lonely.

miss_mouse_3

Thanks for starting this thread. I'm one who has posted recently. A quick intro - I'm 39, separated from my husband with two children - 12 and 7 - who live with their dad. I work more or less full time and have the children one night a week, every other weekend and before and after school most days.

I didnt have PND but just lately have suffered from what I call "gloomy" days. I just cant seem to snap out of it. Yesterday i decided to see if I could drown my sorrows in a bottle of jack which just resulted in hours of being sick and my heart racing so fast I thought I'd have a heart attack

Today I've put on my "work face" for a meeting and managed to arrange to work from home this afternoon so I dont have to pretend in front of people as i just dont think I can manage that today.

My partner just thinks I'm being grumpy - I'm scared to tell him how I really feel - that I dont want to be here any more and that I wish I could just disappear. Driving home from my meeting today I was planning what I'd write in letters to my children to say goodbye but I know I couldnt do that to them.
I feel like such a bad person - I'm not a mum to my kids anymore cos they're with their dad, I'm not a wife any more; my mum disapproves of what I've done and we used to be very close so I dont feel like a daughter any more either. I'm just a non-person now.
But saying all that, I feel guilty for feeling so low because my problems are nothing compared to what many of you are going through

Evansangel

Hello all

I have an appointment with a team called 'Talking Change' on 26th of this Month.

Hopefully it will help a bit, they seem a bit strict and i have to keep the same day free each week to go along, dont know how im going to walk there when my SPD eventually gets worse. They seemed annoyed on the phone when i said i dont have set days i can be free each week as i have a young daughter and am having Midwife and Consultant appointments.

heidic

Brilliant idea for a thread.
I registered on here ages ago but haven't on for a long time.

Anyway, my husband and I are currently going through separation. We have one DS who is 5 and we both work full-time, but....and the reason I'm back on here, is that DH is moving out in about 3 weeks leaving me with all the bills and rent to pay until I find a new, cheaper place to live in, which will hopefully be June sometime.

So, I'm here to share and look for new ideas to save money and make money.

I suffered with what I thought was PND about 8 months after my son was born, but in actual fact, I think it was geenral depression for being unhappy at home. DH and I have just drifted apart and for the last 3 years I've wanted to end it (the marriage that is) and it finally happened, fairly mutually about a month ago.
We told DS at the weekend and so far he seems OK with it, although he doesn't quite get the implications I don't think. We will be sharing the parenting of him 50/50, which hurts a bit but is the best thing all round.

Anyway, sorry I rambled, but that is my situation.
Come payday, once all the bills have been paid I'll be left with about £30 for the month so I'm going to dust down my breadmaker and use what I have in the freezer and become creative with what I have in the cupboars. I also make my own jewellery so I'm going to crack on with that and whack it on an auction site to make some extra pennies.

Thanks to the OP for this thread - genius idea :T and I reckon, certainly looking at the popularity of this already, it will be a huge success.
:grouphug:

Counting_Pennies_2

miss_mouse wrote: »

Yesterday i decided to see if I could drown my sorrows in a bottle of jack which just resulted in hours of being sick and my heart racing so fast I thought I'd have a heart attack

My partner just thinks I'm being grumpy - I'm scared to tell him how I really feel - that I dont want to be here any more and that I wish I could just disappear. Driving home from my meeting today I was planning what I'd write in letters to my children to say goodbye but I know I couldnt do that to them.

Miss Mouse I am so sorry to hear you have been having a hard time. How are you today?

From what I have learnt, sugar, alcohol and caffine are all horrors in terms of keeping our moods in check. It probably seemed like such a good idea, but gave you a horrid day the next day.

I do hope things seem better now. Please whatever you do, remember you are important and needed by your little ones. I am sure you don't mean a goodbye and it was a low moment for you.

I do think you could do with some counselling though. Have you been to any? Have you spoken with your GP or you OH?

Take care

x

Counting_Pennies_2

Hi to you all, how are things?

Hope you are coping with the night times Bailey and it was just a hitch. We often lift our DD once or twice each night before we go to sleep to make sure her milk has gone through. We have also started giving her milk at 6pm so she has an hour for it to go through her system too.

Well for me things haven't been too bad this week.

My quest for a walk has worked wonders. Each day I have gone out for a walk I have by chance seen someone and either ended up going in for coffee or just chatting on the street for a good while. It has lifted my spirits so much. It has been amazing how isolated the car has made me.

I didn't go for a walk today, but went to a fitness class. I was exhausted and needed a nap afterwards, but pleased to finally be getting back on the road to fitness. I have several stone I need to lose (crept on the last 7 years, more so these last two).

I have a rather large to do list, which I am trying to make my weekly task list, rather than trying to get it all done in one go.

I am pretty sure I will have a lower day tomorrow as I have worked so hard at the exercise class today, so I am prempting it with a planned swim tomorrow to ease my muscles and hopefully see some other people to lift my spirits.

My DH suggested we start a reward chart for DD as she has been stropping so badly lately. It is working really well and hope it will continue. I have been so much happier now her moods are more manageable.

Take care

x