Low Mood Mummy Support Club

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Hi everyone,

I've noticed recently that quite a lot of mum's on here seem to be struggling with depression, pnd, general stress and low mood, so i wanted to start a support thread.

I thought it might help in a variety of ways:-

1. Benefit ourselves, family and children if mummies felt happier
2. The MSE bit - possibly spend less money on expensive things like soft play, take aways or meals out purely because we feel too down to entertain or cook.
3. Give each other ideas on how to have a good day and spur others on having a bad day.
4. Get off the AD's so saving money on prescriptions.
5. Generally recognise that mummies are the back bone of the family and if we coping and happy, our children tend to be, so less draining on outside resources.

This is just an idea, so if anyone wants to join in feel free, if not this post can just wander its way down the boards.

Anyway i'll introduce myself,

I'm Bailey, i'm 36 and have a 3 and 4 year old and i started the pregnancy thread back in July 2006 and have since gone on the parent thead started by LuT.

I suffered pnd with my DS and hadn't got over it by the time my DD was born, so that time was very very bad one for our family, i wont go into details for thank goodness for my lovely husband and parents to support me.

Since then i have been on and off the anti-d's, as soon as i feel myself experiencing similar symptons i go see my nurse and if she thinks the same i listen to her advice.

Ultimately i would like to be AD free permanently, but i realise its better for me to cope and give the best i can to my children and husband than for things to regress and everyone be unhappy.

Today i'm having a good day the sun is shining and both children in nursery until 3pm, in fact i'd better get going, got 10 mins to get there.

mshappy

I'm not a mummy but what a great idea.

gratefulforhelp_2

It's a lovely idea.

RazWaz

I'm not a mummy, but I am someone who's been battling depression for around 16 years. I think this thread is a wonderful idea and I hope it takes off

Evansangel

Lovely idea, im 30wks pregnant and my DD is 1 on Thursday. I was diagnosed with pnd a few months ago.

I was unable to see the mental health team as im not in the catchment area, so they got my hv to come and speak to me.

For some reason they think i cant cope with Lily and that i dont love her or bond with her even though i explained that how i feel is nothing to do with Lily and that i do love her..

castleton

After the birth of my first chid I had pnd and found this poem very helpful

I hope when my children look back on to-day
They remember a parent who had time to play
There will be plenty of time for cleaning and cooking
Children grow up while your not looking
So quiet down cobwebs,dust go to sleep
I'm rocking my baby and babies do't keep

The above was sent to me in a congratulations card on the birth of my daughter 31 years ago.
My daughther said as an adult" I had a wonderful childhood"
There is no higher praise a child can give
So when you are feeling down, or the health visitor is not providing the help you need,or the house is a tip please think about this poem.It has certainly helped me.

Leopardlady

Fab idea, thank you. I will be here when struggling. Great to know i am not alone

jpwhittle

This is an ace idea thankyou for starting the thread,

I'm pauline, im 30 and was first officially diagnosed with Depression in the form of PND 14 months after haing my little boy. I knew i had PND before that but was so upset at rejecting him i thought id lose him and refused to accept it. I finally had to the night i drove back from ww crying trying to find the best tree to drive into.
Got PND again with my daughter but at the time was also told my boy might have cancer and alot of other worries so just lost my mind abit.
Now im currently just being described as of a low mood, but that might change when i see my CPN soon. Im struggling at the moment after suffering some bad bullying where we last lived and now we've moved i have so many emotions i feel like im cracking up. On top of that my children seem to love seeing me cry as they keep playing up to the point im in tears and screaming. Dont get me wrong i love them to bits and would never hurt them they are just appearing to be so naughty at the moment. Tonights first pancake mix ended up in the sink after hearing them cry one to many times today, then i left them to dad while i cried in the bedroom. (they did have pancakes in the end and loved getting to toss pancakes for the first time eldest is 5 so he kindof help my hands to toss a pancake before i put it on his plate)
I think i may have suffered a little with depression before kids as i was bullied to the point i tried suicide at school. I took 3 packs of paracetamol hoping to die, but instead i woke up feeling quite deaf no never told anyone what id done. Bullying is an awefull thing and something i seem to atract. Right now i hate being me, i wish people would see me and not the words on my forehead. I used to think i was a nice person really but now feel completly lost, cos if i was such a nice person i wouldnt atract this treatment or be screaming at my kids.

Sorry im waffling, but i cant even say this to my CPN as i dont want him to think im stupid. here it just feels like im writing it into space if thats makes sense.

Leopardlady

I am 35, have a 16 week old boy called William. He is a star of a kid, happy and smiley, it is just that i seem to struggle to hold my temper with my OH when i am tired, which is most of the time. Today i even wanted to shout at William as he was grumbling. He had his 16 week jabs today and we had a very long weekend, over 800 miles of driving and two different houses. He did not sleep very well while in our room ( he sleeps in his own room at home). This meant that i got virtually no sleep for the entire weekend.

I am hoping that i will feel better when i have had a good nights sleep. OH goes back to work tomorrow and my mum is coming down, so i hope that i will get some sleep and some help as my little boy does not deserve to have an unhappy mum. Thanks for the place to talk.

niklepic

Absolutely brilliant idea. I'm Nikki, mum to dd 13 and ds 5. I suffered with PND following ds birth and started ad but managed to get of them after a year or so when i went back to work. Had an @rse of a year last year with financial problems, ds being diagnosed with duchenne MD and then fil passing away in December so back on the anti-ds (both me and dh).

I feel bored, lonely and have absolutely no sex drive. I'm making changes that i thought would make me feel happier, we've moved to a new house (bungalow for DS), i've gone from full time to part time at work and still as fed up as ever.

rachelet

niklepic wrote: »

Absolutely brilliant idea. I'm Nikki, mum to dd 13 and ds 5. I suffered with PND following ds birth and started ad but managed to get of them after a year or so when i went back to work. Had an @rse of a year last year with financial problems, ds being diagnosed with duchenne MD and then fil passing away in December so back on the anti-ds (both me and dh).

I feel bored, lonely and have absolutely no sex drive. I'm making changes that i thought would make me feel happier, we've moved to a new house (bungalow for DS), i've gone from full time to part time at work and still as fed up as ever.

Nikki, the second paragraph of your post could be me writing it. I feel a bit better knowing that there is someone else who feels the same way I do.

Just to introduce myself, I am Rachel, I'm 33 and have four kids, DD1 aged 8, DD2 aged 5, DS aged 2 and DD3 aged 10 months. After having DD1 I think I had PND but it wasn't diagnosed until just before I went back to work and so I just carried on with my life without really doing anything about the PND. I then went on to have three more kids and moved to Northern France from the UK. MY husband still works in the UK and only comes back every two weekends. Therefore, most of the time I feel like a single mother. I have a feeling I am getting depressed again but don't feel like there is much I can do to help my situation. I get irritated easily, am prone to crying, am bored and get very lonely. I have friends near where I am but they have their own lives and I don't feel like I can impose on them. Sometimes I get very overwhelmed with everything and have no motivation to sort out the house and tidy! Am hoping that this thread can help in some way and that I can help others (although not sure if I can!)