Low Mood Mummy Support Club

morocha

i love this thread!!

my day today has been ok, i am really tired, my dd has been sick all night on tuesday, so out of school, dh broke her bed when he tried to sleep there so she could sleep with me, she is being sleeping with us for 2 days now, so tiring,,, she stretches like a cat, and take over the whole bed!!
Went to town and bought a few things for the house, i just mnoved a week ago and the bedrooms are chaos, we do not have wardrobes yet. i am quite irritable today, so tried not to take it on her.
Hopefully tomorrow will be a nicer day, she will go to school and i will get 2 hours to tidy up the house a bit more, i have a £624 electricity bill to pay, five months period... electricity is so expensive... i am stress !!

jpwhittle

my task should really be to get a doctors appointment for all this, I'm such a miserable cow at the moment, always shouting at the kids and DH or just disapearing crying. I truly feel like the worst mum in the world but then just an aweful person anyway. Image problems are just ridiculous and wish i could get past them, and im feeling so alone after just moving.
Got diagnosed with tonsilitus a week ago and i know im stressed as i cant seem to shake it of. My whole family have been at the doctors so much though this last 2 weeks that i really done want to go and see him again because im ridiculous. He looked shattered on saturday and really doesnt need me on top of really ill people.
I see my CPN on wednesday and im just trying to keep going untill then but really i just want to go to sleep and never wake up, the only good thing about me is my 2 children and even they would be better of with a new mummy.

Counting_Pennies_2

be_beaney wrote: »

Mummies,

Thank you so much for all your posts. I am so relieved and feel like screaming I AM NORMAL I AM NORMAL!!!!! which I suppose would make me not normal again lol. I have a 16 month old who doesn't sleep at night and I am pregnant with my second.

I am so sorry to hear you are having such a tough time.

It is so hard when they don't sleep.

My DD aged 3 has taken to waking two of three times a night and it is like having a new born again.

Lack of sleep can have such an impact on mood.

Is there any chance you can get a night away somewhere and OH take the load? I wonder if you have parents nearby that you could pop to their spare room once a week and sleep? Extreme, but maybe needed?

Take care

x

Counting_Pennies_2

jpwhittle wrote: »

I'm such a miserable cow at the moment, always shouting at the kids and DH or just disapearing crying. I truly feel like the worst mum in the world but then just an aweful person anyway.

Got diagnosed with tonsilitus a week ago and i know im stressed as i cant seem to shake it of.

.. the only good thing about me is my 2 children and even they would be better of with a new mummy.

You have having a rotten time of it. It is natural to feel so low when all of this is happening.

Your kids are better off with you as their mummy, warts and all.

Go back to the bare bones of life. Stop and don't do anything more until you start feeling better.

Take care

x

nomuny

Hi every1,

Sorry to hear everbody s feeling low- but just to say to you all I'vegot the cobwebs poem on my fridge stil though my youngest is now 10. My house was and still is at times a mess -in fact one of my sons call me mrs trebus ( the man in life of grime -whose house was full of junk cos he couldn't bear to throw owt out). This can make you feel low as I know but its most important to spend time with the kids , they grow up all too soon and you wonder where all the years went. Also we used to be friendly with acouple and their kids who sadly moved away, and they had a home which was open to anyone and never worried about mess at all. Guess what all the kids loved it there it didn't matter that the house was untidy, loppy and dusty it was afun place to be! Just do the absolutely needed stuff the house will still be there when you feel better able to cope. As maybe some of you have seen my posts I suffer with low mood also, and sometimes feel like going to bed for a good cry, I feel very lonely alot of the time and have few friends. But this last week have decided that perhaps at the moment the meeting people thing isn't going so well so I've just got to put myself first for a change (something I'm not good at ), and try and enjoy what I have. Hopefully this will help though it won't be easy. I never put aside time for me when my kids were young and thats where I think I went wrong so please try and find time to do something you enjoy afew times aweek even if only for 30 mins. I hope you don't mind me joining this thread even though my kids are growing up.:)

traveller

nomuny wrote: »

Hi every1,

Sorry to hear everbody s feeling low- but just to say to you all I'vegot the cobwebs poem on my fridge stil though my youngest is now 10. My house was and still is at times a mess -in fact one of my sons call me mrs trebus ( the man in life of grime -whose house was full of junk cos he couldn't bear to throw owt out). This can make you feel low as I know but its most important to spend time with the kids , they grow up all too soon and you wonder where all the years went. Also we used to be friendly with acouple and their kids who sadly moved away, and they had a home which was open to anyone and never worried about mess at all. Guess what all the kids loved it there it didn't matter that the house was untidy, loppy and dusty it was afun place to be! Just do the absolutely needed stuff the house will still be there when you feel better able to cope. As maybe some of you have seen my posts I suffer with low mood also, and sometimes feel like going to bed for a good cry, I feel very lonely alot of the time and have few friends. But this last week have decided that perhaps at the moment the meeting people thing isn't going so well so I've just got to put myself first for a change (something I'm not good at ), and try and enjoy what I have. Hopefully this will help though it won't be easy. I never put aside time for me when my kids were young and thats where I think I went wrong so please try and find time to do something you enjoy afew times aweek even if only for 30 mins. I hope you don't mind me joining this thread even though my kids are growing up.:)

Thank you SO much for posting! I'm 37and have 4 kids 18, 14,12 and 3 and work full time.The house is a constant tip and i just feel uptight and anxious all the time as everyone else seems to have a show home! When other people say there house is a mess -that's the equivalent of mine on a good day :eek:I'm constantly tired all the time and have recently come out of depression after having the 3 year old. My big goal now is to get back into driving (had a huge break (13 years):eek:. My goal is to drive in the states in the summer and i'm trying to focus on that as a positive. Your post has put the house situation into perspective-THANK YOU:)

be_beaney

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

Lack of sleep can have such an impact on mood.

Is there any chance you can get a night away somewhere and OH take the load? I wonder if you have parents nearby that you could pop to their spare room once a week and sleep? Extreme, but maybe needed?

We tried my OH dealing with her one night and the rascal didn't settle for over 3 hours and OH couldn't cope at all. Parents don't live near enough unfortunately! But I have told OH I must get at least one full nights sleep before the baby arrives - it is just planning it in. Thank you for caring!

On the plus side I did lots and lots of ironing today. Poor child was very good and watched Toy story 1, 2 and 3 . Planning to paint with her tomorrow to try and make up for that. That is my challenge for tomorrow despite me saying I wasn't going to join in.

I hope you all had better days as well

be x

rachelet

Well I have had a bit of a better day today. The kids have been quite good and I actually managed part of my challenge that I set for myself yesterday. I managed to tile behind the sink in the bathroom and also grout the tiles. It doesn't look too bad at all. I didn't however manage to re-grout round the bath as the stuff I was going to use had all gone dry so it is on my shopping list to get some more either tomorrow or Saturday.

I love cooking and baking and have loads of bits to use up in the fridge, so my challenge tomorrow is to make some kind of chicken meal to use up some chicken bits I have and also a quiche to use up some of the eggs that I have loads of.

Hope the rest of you have had a better day today. I know completing the challenge made me feel like I have achieved something and it is just a little way to getting my house all finished! Unfortunately, not one room in my entire house is finished and most of the rooms need money spent on them, so any little bits I can do myself without spending anything has got to help!

See you tomorrow evening for the update on tomorrow's challenge.

Counting_Pennies_2

Update from today, I did far more than I intended.

My DD woke me twice in the night and I was shattered when my DS arrived in my room dressed and ready for school at 7am.

So I forced myself up and as it was so early we managed to walk into school, and I got my fresh air walk which was my goal for the day.

I did a food shop, cooked a batch load of lasagne, and did all my ironing to boot. Even managed to get in a half an hour nap before I collected from school.

I am surprised at myself, and pleased I managed to do lots.

I am aware, that I might have a downer tomorrow as I have done more than usual.

So tomorrow, my only plan is to get the house straight for the weekend.

What are your plans?

PS - Bailey, haven't heard from you today hope all is well

Catbells

jpwhittle wrote: »

my task should really be to get a doctors appointment for all this, I'm such a miserable cow at the moment, always shouting at the kids and DH or just disapearing crying. I truly feel like the worst mum in the world but then just an aweful person anyway. Image problems are just ridiculous and wish i could get past them, and im feeling so alone after just moving.
Got diagnosed with tonsilitus a week ago and i know im stressed as i cant seem to shake it of. My whole family have been at the doctors so much though this last 2 weeks that i really done want to go and see him again because im ridiculous. He looked shattered on saturday and really doesnt need me on top of really ill people.
I see my CPN on wednesday and im just trying to keep going untill then but really i just want to go to sleep and never wake up, the only good thing about me is my 2 children and even they would be better of with a new mummy.

Hang in there. I was there once and its hard going especially moving house thrown in among all the things you have to cope with. I used to visualise it like this :- I'm surfing a huge wave and while its over me I have to hang on because it wont be there forever. Better days will come and you will emerge from the huge wave intact. Best wishes and hugs - to all going through the mill.