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Counting_Pennies_2

Mum_of_Boys wrote: »

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Whilst typing this I'm crying like a baby and I've not cried for a while !!!!!

Hi Annie,

It sounds like that is what you need to do, and perhaps need to do more. Have you tried counselling. It has an amazing affect of getting the grief and worry out of the system.

take care

Counting_Pennies_2

neneromanova wrote: »

What are the most common signs of PND?

http://www.mind.org.uk/help/diagnoses_and_conditions/post-natal_depression

This website helped me enormously.

Take care

plumpmouse

neneromanova wrote: »

I don't know what it is with me but I always seem to be yelling at my eldest DD and cuddling, laughing and having such a good time with my youngest DD...is that just me being a bad mummy? I'm constantly feeling lonely and grumpy. But if you were to talk to me in the street you would see a happy, joking woman.

What are the most common signs of PND?

I think it is probably a case of there ages and the stages they are at rather than you being a bad mum!

I have a ds7 and dd born just a week before your little one.

At 6 months old you don't have to tell them off etc. As they get older you do! No doubt in a couple of years you'll have days where you seem to have lots of fun with your eldest and yet are cross/frustrated with your little one.

Counting_Pennies_2

Hi all,

Great idea bailey.

Well I have probably bored you to tears with my life in other posts, but here goes.

I am a mummy to two, a DS aged 7 and DD aged 3.

I am pretty sure I had PND with DS, but when I called the doctors to speak about it, the dr just said I had an unsupportive husband and laughed it off, that was 7 years ago.

When I was pregnant with DD from conception I was poorly, sick daily for 25 weeks and then found out I had a condition that was killing her, so had to have scans on the blood flow in her head twice a week, and regular blood tests. Each week I went in with bated breath as I was told it was likely they would need to give my baby a blood transfusion with a big needle through my belly. I was petrified my baby would die, and I was in a state before I had her.

The birth was shocking, I had a c-section (my second one, first one was a breeze) and it went quite badly. My uterus wouldn't contract, I was on the operating table for two hours, and lost 2 litres of blood. My pain medication wore off, but I was petrified I would die if they gave me a general, as my condition wasn't improving, so I coped with methodine, and eventually they patched me together. We were expecting DD to have to go to special care. In the end when she was born she wasn't breathing, but after resusitation in the operating room she was fine, and was able to stay with us.

I had an evil postnatal midwife on the ward, who ripped my pressure dressing off and the drain out without any medication. I was over dosed on one occasion, and then medication refused to me, telling me I was a liar when I said I hadn't received the meds (I put in a complaint about her a few weeks after and was told she was already on a warning). The ceiling over my bed fell in with water from an upstairs loo pouring down, and it was sheer luck I was in the breakfast room with DD at the time. All the night before the ceiling bulged, but felt no one listened to me. I cried and cried in hospital, my DH really didn't get it, and was frustrated that I needed him with me. He wanted to be home with his mother and DS.

When I got home I knew I wasn't right. A community midwife picked up on it, and promised to be with me the next day. She was rota'd off and I got another midwife who signed me back to the surgery the same day, said there was nothing wrong.

Dr surgery useless, Health visitors a disgrace. I filled in countless forms, they all said I was suffering PND, but no help was given. Only ADs were offered. They have nursery schemes here that help mums in trouble, but there were no helpers to come out. I then asked for them to come out and keep monitoring me, they did for a few weeks then said I had to go and get baby weighed like everyone else.

I had horrible thoughts, and was scared, really scared. I got myself in a dreadful state.

I told DH one day how I was feeling, and all I got back was 'thanks for that, now I feel suicidal'.

In the end it was some kind person on this website who suggested I look into Homestart. That was a real life line. I looked into natural remedies to get over PND, the mind website was amazing. It mentioned cranial osteopathy, and I eliminated sugar, alcohol and caffine from my diet. It helped stablise me. And through sheer determination, three years of counselling and a lot of set backs, it has taken me nearly 4 years to get some form of normality back in my life.

I was not keen on ADs as my mother was on them throughout my entire childhood, and she had bad reactions to them, so I was keen to do anything but them. There have been times I have questioned my decision, but I still feel it was right for me.

It has cost a lot, and while DH has struggled to understand my hormonal and emotional changes, he has been happy to stump up the cash to enable me to have the treatments.

I am on a massive low at the moment. We have tried selling our house for the last 6 months, and took the decision a week ago to take it off the market, after not getting any offers and the house we wanted had been sold. I worked so hard, had 40 viewings, and I think I went into burn out, as this was the most activity I had forced myself to do in these last few years.

DH having a tough time in his new job, I have had a virus for the last few weeks, and feel totally drained, and children have not been behaving brilliantly recently either (no surprise given the circumstance)

I worry constantly about the affect all this has had on the children. I see DS look at me sometimes, and I fear he thinks I am not up to the job.

I am very lonely, I have had to go inward to deal with this as when I tried to tell friends I either lost them, or they told me it was best not to tell people. I have a couple of good friends who have not been scared to hear but their lives have limited anything help they could give.

So you lovely people here have been a lovely sounding board, and I will be forever grateful for your support, and hope I can support you too some time.

take care everyone, mental illness can be a lonely misunderstood world.

x

mum2twinsx2

This is a great idea... I dont have PND but have the odd bad day like today .
One of my boy twins had a hernia operation yesterday. Both the boys are miserable sin as they didnt sleep well last night as they are both in seperate cots for few days while he heals.
Then the crying woke my older girls at five so i gave in and got up.
ive hardly any food in should be doing my food shopping but i really cant be bothered to go out.
I have to do list taller than myself.

But the she is shining:T

digitalphase

Great idea. I have suffered low mood in my pregnancy, and really hope I do not develop PND, but if I do it is reassuring to know there is a group on here to visit.

I hope it helps all you ladies, depression is such an awful thing x

Counting_Pennies_2

mum2twinsx2 wrote: »

This is a great idea... I dont have PND but have the odd bad day like today .
One of my boy twins had a hernia operation yesterday. Both the boys are miserable sin as they didnt sleep well last night as they are both in seperate cots for few days while he heals.
Then the crying woke my older girls at five so i gave in and got up.
ive hardly any food in should be doing my food shopping but i really cant be bothered to go out.
I have to do list taller than myself.

But the she is shining:T

Goodness, sounds like you have had a real time of it.

Take care of yourself. Can DH pick up some food to keep you going. Perhaps see if you can get a Tesco online delivery to save you going out.

Hope everything settles down soon

mum2twinsx2

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

Goodness, sounds like you have had a real time of it.

Take care of yourself. Can DH pick up some food to keep you going. Perhaps see if you can get a Tesco online delivery to save you going out.

Hope everything settles down soon

Thank you OH is away at sea for 6 months :mad:. I need food for packed lunches tomorrow so will brave it after lunch while only have two out of four. Just need to find my energy........

rachelet

mum2twinsx2 wrote: »

Thank you OH is away at sea for 6 months :mad:. I need food for packed lunches tomorrow so will brave it after lunch while only have two out of four. Just need to find my energy........

I have just had to brave the supermarket as we had run out of basic stuff such as bread and milk etc. Its not easy going food shopping with four kids especially when you can't really be bothered to move. I am hoping that I won't have to go again until the weekend!

Anyone got any tips on getting motivated around the house?

red_devil

ive got a grown up son and suffered pnd many years ago. I suffer bouts of anxiety/obsessive thinking from time to time which are awful and make me scared and unable to eat/sleep well.

I am on citalopram for this past year and this has helped alot. Life's ok at the moment and im going away soon thankfully cant wait. I know what is like to feel out of sorts though.