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SingleSue

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

I worry constantly about the affect all this has had on the children. I see DS look at me sometimes, and I fear he thinks I am not up to the job.

I worry about this too and once voiced it to my eldest son, his reply?

"Ah don't worry about it mum, it's good to be weird, it means you are different and I love different..it's more interesting"

His other pearl of wisdom about the house on my bad days

"Well, it's organised chaos, life would be boring in organised cleanliness and it would scare me to bits..it wouldn't feel right, it would be too clinical and uncomfortable and I wouldn't be able to find anything...now leave that bloody toilet alone, it doesn't feel right without the magazines!"

RoxieW

pinkclouds wrote: »

Tune it out temporarily. (Later on, you'll remember his good points - bringing in income, being a good dad, remembering whatever, etc.) For now, remember he had 3 kids with you so he *does* think you're a good mom. No two people will agree on every single issue - I'm sure you don't agree with some of his food choices too. He's a grown man and he won't starve himself - he can sort his own dinner, at least occasionally. He's entitled to be in a bad mood from time to time. Doesn't mean you have to soak it up - leave him to it. Focus on something else until your mind clears - hug your kids, smell your coffee, step outside the back door for a breath of air, whatever.

Does that help at all? It's generally what I'd do.

Yes pinkshoes that does help. It's what I should do, it's just difficult. He's still in a mood with me over the fact he had to make himself an omelette yesterday.

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I just knew this thread was needed,i could see it in the tones of all the other threads i was reading! So many of us going through the same thing, Counting Pennies I'd knew you'd be on board as we are likewise.

To everyone else, HELLO and thank you for joining in, i don't think it matters how old your children are or what you do, its factoring in how to cope. I didnt cope very well and have been up and down since, currently down, hence my thread, but i'm glad i'm able to relate to so many and able to find a cliche who understand.

So ladies shall we set a challenge and set 1 task for tomorrow if you can list more and achieve them then FAB, but primarily your first task has to be achieved.

Bailey - 1. Process accounts - and if i get time clean after builders (never ending believe me), my task is on top of everything else a mummy does day to day. i'm going for small and manageable as i have a busy day tomorrow and looking after another child too.

Whats your challenge to achieve, remember make it achievable........

rachelet

Hi Bailey,

I haven't been coping very well today, been having a bit of a bad day! Am hoping tomorrow will be better. Just been trying to think of what I can try and achieve. I think I am going to try and grout round the bath in the ensuite. I have it on my to do list. I also need to tile behind the sink but I need a tile cutter to cut one tile. I might start the tiling and leave the one tile that needs to be cut. That's my challenge for tomorrow start tiling behind the sink and regrout round the bath.

Once again thanks for starting the thread, its good to know there are other people who struggle to cope like me.

Counting_Pennies_2

My task is plain and simple to get out for a walk and get some fresh air. But something I just don't do.

Might be difficult with the predicted rain, but I am fed up being in the house.

I originally had the task of ironing today, but I made myself have a reason to get out and walk. So I sorted out some hand me down clothes from DD and DS and walked to a friend's house. In doing so I got invited in for a cup of tea which was a lovely surprise. Had half an hour of peppermint tea and chat, and a nice 20 min walk back. On the way I saw another friend and stopped and chatted for 10 mins. I got back home and felt so elated. I get so lonely in the house, and often nip here and there in the car and you don't get to see anyone.

I doubt tomorrow I will be as lucky in my quest of a walk, but I intend to get out and walk for an hour and smile and see if I get a chat out of someone.

I still managed to do five items out the the pile of ironing. So if I do that again tomorrow we will have enough items to survive!

x

Counting_Pennies_2

rachelet wrote: »

I haven't been coping very well today, been having a bit of a bad day! Am hoping tomorrow will be better. Just been trying to think of what I can try and achieve. I think I am going to try and grout round the bath in the ensuite. I have it on my to do list.

Wow that is a big task. Go easy on yourself. Only do it if you think you will have the energy and will feel fulfilled afterwards.

take care

Counting_Pennies_2

Deleted_User wrote: »

I didnt cope very well and have been up and down since, currently down, hence my thread, but i'm glad i'm able to relate to so many and able to find a cliche who understand.

I think it is your little ones who have been off with the pox isn't it? Are they better now? Nothing worse than being housebound with Chicken Pox, do hope you are back to normal with school etc.

Counting_Pennies_2

rachelet wrote: »

I have just had to brave the supermarket as we had run out of basic stuff such as bread and milk etc. Its not easy going food shopping with four kids especially when you can't really be bothered to move. I am hoping that I won't have to go again until the weekend!

Anyone got any tips on getting motivated around the house?

I have to confess when I am desperate for the basics I drive up to a Tesco Express and we all get out and spend just a few minutes picking up the essential items and then paying and bolting it back to the car. I cannot do children and trolleys, I break out into a sweat before I have even entered the store!

rachelet

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

Wow that is a big task. Go easy on yourself. Only do it if you think you will have the energy and will feel fulfilled afterwards.

take care

The tiling is only four tiles and one that needs to be cut, so hopefully shouldn't take me too long and it will make me feel like I have achieved something. The grouting is something that has been annoying me as I think the bath has to be filled before you grout (which wasn't done when the grouting was originally done) and so I am going to try and do it properly tomorrow.

be_beaney

Mummies,

Thank you so much for all your posts. I am so relieved and feel like screaming I AM NORMAL I AM NORMAL!!!!! which I suppose would make me not normal again lol. I have a 16 month old who doesn't sleep at night and I am pregnant with my second. I have PND which I have got a lot of support from Doctor, health visitor and councilor are all great. I have had quite a low few days but I am taking it a bit at a time. I really struggle with thinking I am a terrible mummy and comparing myself to other mums who just seem to be sailing through motherhood. I have come a long way though and I am proud of my progress ( positive self talk ) I used to be so uptight and anxious about my baby but I have calmed down a good bit. I just wanted to say hello and thank you. I won't be joining in the challenges as making lists and setting myself things to do is a big part of why I think I am a failure. But hopefully I will be well enough soon to be able to handle it!! In the mean time, thank you, thank you, thank you!!

be x